How would you handle this? AKA, why FB sucks balls

[mrsjuleshs]

I would just ignore her comments and keep posting as always. if she doesn't like it, she can defriend or block you.

[pittsmcgee]

I can't even believe she did that. What the fuck? Who cares?

[alzi]

That would annoy the shit out of me. If she doesn't like it she can hide you. And why would he be embarrassed? That is dumb.

[Deleted]

I would be cursing a fuckload more, personally.

[leeann]

"Fuck you, you Fucking Fuck"

[mkesweetie]

I'd de-friend her. If I didn't, I'd be thinking about it every time I swore on my page, and I don't need that extra stress in my life.

If she ever asked, I'd just say, "Oh, yeah, I heard that my posting was a little much for you, so I just removed you so you didn't have to see it. nothing personal!"

[peachykate]

Fuck that, stick her on restricted access if you don't want to defriend her.

I would also swear even more.

[sawyerthedestroyer]

I'd fucking swear all the goddamn time.

If she doesn't like it that's on her and not your problem.

[wrathofkuus]

My new status update would be that Noodle is a fuckface.

[frauschmindy]

Aug 22, 2012 14:03:57 GMT -5 leeann said:

"Fuck you, you Fucking Fuck"

:Y:

[imoan]

OH heeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeell fucking no.

[julez]

I love the responses in this post.

And I agree with all of 'em - start swearing your ass off. Fuck her.

[bcv513]

I wouldn't be mad at her. You said she's prissy so it's really not unexpected. I'd be PISSED to hell at Noodle for not having my back when she confronted him. And then coming home and telling you to tone it down?!? Oh hell no. That doesn't fly. Noodle would become a wet noodle and wold be sleeping on the couch for a very long time.

[jerseygrl]

I'm curious about how he responded. Did he say "ok I'll talk to her" or did he say "she's a grown ass woman who can do whatever she wants"

[peachykate]

Yes stick her on restricted and she will never know, unless someone asks her if she saw your posts and then you can just deal with that later.

Every single time he curses around you now I would say something, according to him grown ups can swear in real life but not on facebook which is total bullshit. Give me a fucking break.

[wrathofkuus]

Aug 22, 2012 14:11:04 GMT -5 nuggetbrain said:

He does this shit all the time. Years ago I gained like, 20 pounds (which still left me at something like 145) and he told me his parents had "expressed that they were concerned about my weight gain." Then when I flipped out he was all "well I didn't say it, they did!"

Maybe I just need to tell him to keep his mouth shut about what other people say about me if he isn't going to fucking defend me or whatever.

Maybe he needs to know that the women of the Knot have expressed alarm that he seems overly concerned with what other people think of you, to the point where they think he's a huge fuckface.

[imoan]

I am quite the swearer. I swear a LOT IRL. I tend to tone it down on FB out of respect for my ILs, but my MIL would never chastise me for swearing.

I made a conscious decision that I would swear if that was my first instinct in my blog posts. This blog is for me, not for you... and I write like I speak- so censoring myself is just not going to fly. At one point, H (who loves my blog) read one of my entries and commented to me about how maybe I shouldn't swear in the blog.

I basically told him what you told Noodle. I'm a grown adult... this is MY blog... this is for me, not his parents.... and anyone who doesn't like it can just stop reading. He actually responded with "you know what- you're right".

I don't even swear on my blog ANYWHERE near as much as I swear IRL. I definitely try to tone it down so it doesn't take away some of my credibility. But if I have a sentence in my head and there's a swear in it, I'm not swapping that swear out for something more sanitized.

[wrathofkuus]

Well, then he needs to know that we think he's a fuckface. That's all there is to it.

[babygirlpriest]

DH did something like that once... once. Got all shocked and bothered when I (admittedly a bit too loudly) commented on a US weekly cover calling some B-lister a whore.

I've had to do some FB friend editing but it's because I made the decision to be friends with family and peers in the field. My friends can say whatever the hell they want. I've told a couple to calm the fuck down with the swearing if they're posting on my wall but seriously, Ms. Priss needs the stick removed from her ass.

[frauschmindy]

Aug 22, 2012 14:16:52 GMT -5 imoan said:

I made a conscious decision that I would swear if that was my first instinct in my blog posts. This blog is for me, not for you... and I write like I speak- so censoring myself is just not going to fly.

I made this same decision for my blog, which is probably why nobody reads it. Ha! I think it's hilarious though.

[Deleted]

Aug 22, 2012 14:10:57 GMT -5 bcv513 said:

I wouldn't be mad at her. You said she's prissy so it's really not unexpected. I'd be PISSED to hell at Noodle for not having my back when she confronted him. And then coming home and telling you to tone it down?!? Oh hell no. That doesn't fly. Noodle would become a wet noodle and wold be sleeping on the couch for a very long time.

I'd be mad at her for pulling my H aside to talk about it. Like she's some kind of child. If she has a problem with OP's language she should say something directly to her. She can piss off. I'd be pissed at h too for not outright laughing at her.

[wrathofkuus]

In all seriousness, I do think he needs to know what people think of HIM for trying to mold you into something that doesn't offend anyone ever because you might reflect on him in some way. He needs to know that we think he's a huge douche for every bit of this, from the apologizing for you (wtf?!) to the weight (double wtf?!) to the laughing too loud (seriously, wtelmf?!). This is reflecting poorly on him. People think BADLY of him for this, and he needs to know that, every single time.

[sprky79]

Aug 22, 2012 14:01:51 GMT -5 cjoy said:

How the fuck would I handle it? Fuck. I'd swear some fucking more.

I hate grammatical errors. It's Fuck. I'd fucking swear some fucking more, goddammit. Kapeesh?

I mean shiit.....

[wrathofkuus]

I'm sure you tried to talk to him honestly, but did you try turning it back around like that before?

[imoan]

Aug 22, 2012 14:21:24 GMT -5 @frauschmindy said:

Aug 22, 2012 14:16:52 GMT -5 imoan said:

I made a conscious decision that I would swear if that was my first instinct in my blog posts. This blog is for me, not for you... and I write like I speak- so censoring myself is just not going to fly.

I made this same decision for my blog, which is probably why nobody reads it. Ha! I think it's hilarious though.

Linky please?

[ThirdandLong]

This is easy for me to say because it's really you and not me, but despite the fact that she'll ask everyone and God why you had defriended her, I'd defriend her. Who needs a busybody like that looking at their facebook? And when she messages you as to why, you can tell her that you learned she was offended by your posts and you didn't want to offend her so you removed yourself from her feed. It doesn't have to end the friendship to end the FB convos.

p.s. Let me also just say that I am gleeful when you post because I love the Packers and crack up at your sig pic every single time. And also because you're awesome.

[ering1115]

Can you change the banner pic at the top of your FB to Rated R for adult language, violence, nudity and leave it at that? Like this one
www.officialpsds.com/Rated-R-Logo-Black-stock3004.html

Or link a youtube of George Carlin's 7 dirty words?

[picklepie09]

Knowing how I am I would probably inbox her and say something like "Why you felt the need to take my husband aside and discuss what I say on facebook is beyond me. You may think I have a foul mouth but at least I am not a passive agressive douche who tattles on her grown friend on facebook. Next time you have something to say ABOUT me say it TO me otherwise keep you fucking mouth shut. Put that in your pipe and smoke it you stupid fucking bitch"

[jerseygrl]

Aug 22, 2012 14:16:09 GMT -5 nuggetbrain said:

Aug 22, 2012 14:11:06 GMT -5 jerseygrl said:

I'm curious about how he responded. Did he say "ok I'll talk to her" or did he say "she's a grown ass woman who can do whatever she wants"

He said that he said that he was sorry. I asked him what the fuck he was apologizing for and he said "For your language."

what.the.fuck I would be fucking furious

[imoan]

Honestly, I wouldn't give a fuck if BusyBody found out that she was defriended and confronted me about it. This is real life... we are adults... she should learn by now that actions have consequences.