Post by picklepie09 on Aug 22, 2012 14:44:09 GMT -5
Just read more of the thread. I bet.. and this is a guess.. he doesn't like that you swear, or that you gained weight but he is too much of a pussy to say something to you. So he takes a comment someone makes and runs with it. Maybe FB friend only said something like "your wife is pretty funny on FB but man she has a dirty mouth" and laughed. And that was all he needed.
Just read more of the thread. I bet.. and this is a guess.. he doesn't like that you swear, or that you gained weight but he is too much of a pussy to say something to you. So he takes a comment someone makes and runs with it. Maybe FB friend only said something like "your wife is pretty funny on FB but man she has a dirty mouth" and laughed. And that was all he needed.
That's a pretty big jump. Nugget could have a really thoughtful and nice husband. Maybe he just feels awkward when people say crap to him about his wife.
Post by picklepie09 on Aug 22, 2012 14:49:47 GMT -5
Thirdandlong : I say this because he told her that his parents "were concerned with her weight" and that someone told him she "laughs too loud". I would think these are things that bother HIM and he uses other people as the vehicle to say something to her. Just a guess. I don't know either of them. Maybe Noodle is just a nice guy who was embarrassed. But maybe he wasn't.
Also if someone said that to me about my husband I might feel a bit embarrassed but I wouldn't go home and give him shit about it.
Post by wrathofkuus on Aug 22, 2012 14:51:02 GMT -5
Picklepie, that thought crossed my mind, too, which is why I wouldn't suggest saying anything to the woman. But with this info, it's impossible to say one way or the other.
What an odd and inappropriate request from that woman.
My DH sometimes gets caught-up on other people's drama without discecting it. I point it out, like you did, and he's on the right track. I'd let him off the hook for his poor response, but if I still felt angry I'd direct it at the person who deserved it - the woman, with a call. But I probably wouldn't call, I'd curse more, and make a lot of 1st ammendment links for a while. And flag wavings. And ACLU donations.
Post by EmilieMadison on Aug 22, 2012 14:55:34 GMT -5
Also, I'd be really tempted to pull her husband aside the next time you see them and say, "Hey, so could you try to keep your bitchface wife on her leash? She's hurting my husband's tender feelings, and I'd appreciate it if you could just keep her under control. Kthanks!"
That'd really make me mad if h didn't have my back to someone else.Does he have issues with swearing? My h is particularly sensitive about the f word. Everytime I say it, which is pretty rare, he asks why I have to speak likethat. I tell him to grow up.
I would also defriend her. If she asked I would be sweet as pie. "Well, after my husband mentioned that you pulled him aside to discuss how appalled you were by my posts, I went ahead and unfriended you. I know you would have felt awkward unfriending me over it, and I wanted to protect your delicate sensibilities"
Post by melindafelinda on Aug 22, 2012 15:44:50 GMT -5
I just find it soul crushing that your husband would tell you that you laugh too loudly. It's like trying to dampen your spirit. It just seems really sad.
Knowing how I am I would probably inbox her and say something like "Why you felt the need to take my husband aside and discuss what I say on facebook is beyond me. You may think I have a foul mouth but at least I am not a passive agressive douche who tattles on her grown friend on facebook. Next time you have something to say ABOUT me say it TO me otherwise keep you fucking mouth shut. Put that in your pipe and smoke it you stupid fucking bitch"
Whoa.
Lmao, that fb message goes from 0 to 60 in like 3 sentences. Little too far pickle.
Post by chickenlittle on Aug 22, 2012 16:04:48 GMT -5
Aside from the fact I would nutkick my husband if he ever came home and chastised me for my language, I'd just block her. Still friends, but she can't see anything you post. I've done it to all of DH's family, and life is much simpler.
Keeping being you. If other people are offended by you and/or your language they may leave. It never ceases to amaze me the conditions put upon people by others who do not matter. I cannot imagine saying to someone, "I think you are really awesome, except when your curse, or tell dirty jokes, or wear your hear like that. If you will adjust all of that, I would love to have you in my life." Eff that.
Post by sporklemotion on Aug 22, 2012 16:34:00 GMT -5
I may have missed it along the way, but what did he say to her in response?
The way he brought this up to you is vaguely dickish and pretty infuriating, but if it were my DH, I'd probably be more annoyed that he didn't defend me to his friend (assuming that he didn't). My DH tends not to make waves and hates to offend people, so I could see him doing what Noodle did with the idea that I should try to keep my FB status inoffensive, but it would piss me off to no end if he didn't have my back to his friends, even if he somewhat agreed with their comments.
I'd be furious (with him. PearlClutcher is being an ass, but he's the one who brought it to you) and I'd couch it as a respect issue. 2 opposite and logically incompatible forms of disrespect
Him apologizing to her for your language is him taking the role of 'parent' and you as 'child'--it's disrespectful for him to even pretend he controls your actions that way. It's patriarchal bullshit.
Him allowing people to say that you're to heavy/you're to loud/you can't raise a kid right/etc is it's own form of disrespect, he's allowing these people ti disrespect you and INSULT you to his face, and instead of telling them to quit insulting his wife, he comes and expects you to change.