My nephew is making is first communion at the end of April next year. My SIL is going to have a party for him and my BIL is coming from out of state to celebrate. My SIL asked if we wanted to hold the baptism the same weekend since my BIL will already be in town. I'm due 4/4. MH (gently) told her the timing wouldn't work for us and that was just a little too early. if the baby is on time I'll be 3 weeks PP. I'm not crazy for not wanting to host anything so soon, right?
Nope definitely not crazy, this is a bad idea. You could also be two weeks late and then that would really suck. Even if you went a week early, I think it would still be stressful to have this deadline hanging over my head the whole pregnancy.
At 3 weeks I cried every single day, couldn't stand for more than 10 minutes at a time and was still restricted to 1 flight of stairs per day due to PP bleeding.
I agree you aren't crazy to not want to do it, but I don't think it was a crazy question. I wouldn't want to really host anything I had to prep for, but having a catered lunch in a church hall could be easy.
@upnorth unfortunately I don't have much help. My MIL helps my SIL a ton and will probably be doing much of the purchasing / set up / prep for the communion party. My parents aren't particularly helpful.
My SIL wants to get this set up now. Honestly I don't really want to make any plans until I have the AS at 20 weeks.
I had a very easy recovery with DS but at 2-3 weeks I was feeding him constantly and not sleeping all that well. I was assuming that I might even skip out early on the communion party.
Post by barefootcontessa on Sept 28, 2015 20:35:38 GMT -5
I do not think you are crazy but I will say things got progressively easier with each baby. I hosted my son's birthday party three weeks after my daughter's birth. It was just me and my DH, no family help, and it was fine. I do not have really high standards for these gatherings, though.
I don't think she was out of line for asking, nor do I think you're out of line for saying no. If you would need to actively make food or serve or clean or set up then no way. I would assume SIL was planning to do the work (or paid people) the way you presented this. Do be prepared that BIL may not want to travel twice though, and may therefore miss your baptism.
Not crazy. We held DS2's baptism around that time and it was not easy. And I didn't even really have to do anything. My mom cleaned my house,and all the invitations/catering-etc were arranged beforehand. But just being around that many people for several hours was exhausting.
We also held DS1's baptism at three weeks, but that was special circumstances.
I'm glad to hear that many of you found your second kid to be easier. I'm nervous to have a newborn and 3 year old.
kershnic BIL probably won't come out a second time. I'm ok with that but MH's family probably won't be.
We scheduled DS's baptism around BIL (and his wife & kids). We moved it back a month from our preferred date and managed to get the church to do it on a different day than usual (normally baptisms are held once a month) that BIL said would work for him. At the last minute they decided they couldn't come. MIL had a long chat with them and they did wind up coming. I definitely won't go crazy trying to accommodate him again.