How does someone NOT know if they are hungry?

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H will tell me he "doesn't know" if I ask him if he's hungry. When he does say hes hungry, hes damn near STARVING and really, unless I am making something really quick, an hour is a while to wait when hes as hungry as he says he is. I am so sick of being told "I don't know" about shit like this. Also, if I ask what he wants for dinner, (you know, so I am not deciding every god damn night) he never has any ideas. I WANT TO STRANGLE HIM.

We just argued about this and now he's in bed at 7:30pm, without dinner. IDGAF anymore. He works at 4am, so I tried to offer to make something earlier but he was taking a nap. I think I am getting to the point that I will just cook for myself and be done.

[leeann]

Mine does this too - or he says he's not sure "how hungry" he is -WTF. Then he ponders what he wants to eat for this unknown level of hunger, assuming that I am still going to be willing to feed him when he determines how hungry he is and what he wants to eat.

[lucky513]

thats what I started to do, I always get the I dont know what I feel like crap
so guess what you now dont have an option your eating what I want to eat

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Leeann -- at least yours will ponder! Mine never decides what he wants.

[leeann]

Aug 22, 2012 18:40:50 GMT -5 @reannalynne said:

Leeann -- at least yours will ponder! Mine never decides what he wants.

That's why he goes to bed without dinner!

[TrickyBob]

My Husband is night shift, I make whatever I feel like making and I do not ask him. Simply to avoid these problems. If he doesn't like it, he can find his own dinner. Vary rarely does he complain. I just know he wont eat the same meal 2 times in a row.

[Deleted]

H also told me he was sick of me "bitching at his face." He has been getting on my last nerve lately. He's lucky I am not throwing shit at his head and that bitching at his face is the worst he is getting.

[hisno1girl]

I stopped asking my husband what he wanted for dinner years ago. I plan my menu at least 1 week ahead and he either eats what I make or he can make his own dinner.

[Jalapeñomel]

DH will go all day without eating, and then when it's time to decide, he cannot make a decision. I'll say,"let's go here!" and he's like "no, I don't feel like that." And then I say, "well what do you want?" and he'll say, "I don't care." Yes you do care, because when I made my suggestion you said you didn't feel like eating that and now you have to decide where to go or just be a grumpy, hungry butthole for the rest of the night.

[Deleted]

I think my anger is stemming from not enough sex. I blame that for a lot of things.

[circa1978]

I have this problem and I can't explain it. I go from "Eh, I could eat" to "I will eat your face off if you don't feed me now" in less than five minutes. I also never know what I want to eat, but for me it's because I'm weight obsessed and I don't want to "waste" my lunch on something that isn't perfect. I suspect that's not your husband's issue.

[ECB]

As long as your DH isn't complaining about what you make, then make whatever you want. Stop asking. You KNOW how it's going to go - he doesn't know/doesn't care. So.... just stop asking!

Clearly the caveat to this, though, is if he actually dares to complain, then you throw the food at his head!

As for whether he's hungry or not- just set a dinner time. Stop basing it when he's hungry. He'll be hungry, most likely, at some point during the evening - so just plan on having dinner ready at X time.

[Jalapeñomel]

He is so intolerable when he's hungry! Apparently, he takes after his dad.

[Deleted]

I stopped consulting my h years ago when it comes to meals. Every time I would ask what he wanted it was always " I don't know" or " hmm.." while he pretended to ponder. It fucking drove me crazy. He knows dinner is at 6, eat it or don't.

[Jalapeñomel]

Aug 22, 2012 18:54:16 GMT -5 @reannalynne said:

I think my anger is stemming from not enough sex. I blame that for a lot of things.

Time to buy the sexy lingerie!

[Deleted]

Glad to see my H isn't the only one like this.

[livinitup]

Oh geez, you just reminded me that its been years since I've asked DH what he wants for dinner. I am in complete control of what we all eat at dinner. Is that bad? I have plenty of options in the freezer and fridge in DH was ever unhappy with my choice - he's just never ever opted for that. On the odd night I'm not in the mood to decide/cook, like tonight, I can count on getting scrambled eggs for dinner. Which is fine by me, I love eggs for dinner - but that's DH's go-to. I do love that he is up for ANYTHING. Maybe you can start a 'sandwich night' or a 'pasta night' once a week, so you don't feel so much pressure to invent a dinner option every night. If he doesn't care much anyway, it might actually be fun/easy to have a few standard nights. I also do weekly meal planning, no I don't have to invent this shit every night.

[Deleted]

I like the idea of different "nights" livin! This would also probably help us cut back on take out.

[Jalapeñomel]

DH is an excellent cook, but I tend to cook more often. It's the weekends when neither one of us wants to cook and we don't want to order food online.

[jodinia]

Aug 22, 2012 18:43:08 GMT -5 ste said:

I always know how hungry I am (usually very), but I *NEVER* know what I want, and have a terrible time deciding. Even when options are presented. Sometimes I think it's a legit problem.

It drives my H absolutely batty. I've learned, though, to just accept what he picks, or at least be specific about what I DON'T want.

this is me to a tee.