I'm actually really interested to see how this goes this year. IL's moved in the spring & it was a major downsize; they don't have room for a table that would seat us. (Very proud/ pleased they made this decision, just FYI) BIL & SIL live 10 mins from us; we all live a little over an hour from IL's. SIL, being the only with kids, has begged to host for years. Never thought it made sense for us to truck over to IL's house for every holiday. I know MIL felt pride having all of us home for holidays, though (something SIL never got &/or didn't care about).
So I'm almost positive we'll split hosting. Maybe us Thanksgiving, BIL & SIL Christmas Eve? I'll let her decide, as she'll have a newborn. (Squeee!!) I expect it to be a pretty difficult adjustment for MIL, but also hope having a new grand-baby will help soften the blow.
All my side is done @ my parents'. My sister's family lives 2 hours away, but they all have rooms @ my parents' house, & therefore, stay over for every holiday/ never celebrate at their own house. I'm interested to see if this changes as their kids grow.
Extended family on my side gets together every Easter @ my great aunt's house. The rest of the extended families gtg over the summer @ reunions.
Post by cabbagecabbage on Oct 4, 2015 8:52:40 GMT -5
The elderly great grandparents (DH's)have claimed thanksgiving and Christmas Eve. I don't mind going there except they insist on doing all the food and it's awful but they are insulted if we bring anything.
On my side only my sister is close and we trade Decembers for a pre-Christmas party.
We all have little kids and don't do family dinners outside birthdays sometimes.
Anything with my in-laws is at their house. 90% of things with my family happen at my sister's house; 10% at my parents'. My sister lives between my parents and me so that works out.
Post by W.T.Faulkner on Oct 4, 2015 9:05:58 GMT -5
We always go to FI's parents' for Easter and Christmas Eve. We go to my aunt's for Thanksgiving and my other aunt's for Christmas Day. As our house is too small and in the city, no one will drive to us, so we don't host. Lol
We live 90 minutes from the ILs and 40 minutes from my parents, aunts and uncles (there's 21 of them and they all live in the same town, no joke).
When we're married next year, I'm hoping we can skip out on Christmas morning and just do it ourselves.
Post by karmasabiotch on Oct 4, 2015 21:32:48 GMT -5
We never hosted but we did offer. Lucky for us my IL's are not I to animals and we have 2 misbehaved rescue dogs - Beagle and Baseset/Beagle. Plus a rescue rabbit.
They opted out. I can't say I didn't do a dance of joy.
Honestly, we don't really celebrate Thanksgiving or Christmas with my in-laws. MIL will do Thanksgiving with my family if she's not working. We have also gone out of state with her to her sister's. We have never had Thanksgiving with FIL or BIL
I think BIL's in-laws are weird about holidays, so that leads to us not seeing him. We do sometimes go to his house Christmas morning for a bit. Not sure what we'll do now that we have a baby.