I really never pictured my life in too much detail at my current age (30), which I think was part of my problem. I had no real goals I was aiming for in life. Now I do and I feel so behind everyone else. There's so much I want to do/see/own, but financially I'm at least a decade behind where I should be.
I know you don't want to talk about it on the board, but I'm excited for you @pdx18!
Thanks! I'll probably talk about it at some point but I'm a sensitive sally and it seems to just blow up. But he's really great and things are moving at a pace that's very comfortable for me!
I know you don't want to talk about it on the board, but I'm excited for you @pdx18!
Thanks! I'll probably talk about it at some point but I'm a sensitive sally and it seems to just blow up. But he's really great and things are moving at a pace that's very comfortable for me!
I never expected to be widowed in my 30's. We had so many plans and now I have no idea what I want to do. We were planning to move, but we were waiting for the cancer to stabilize to give us some time to establish a new oncologist/medical team and not miss any treatments. I like my job, but hate where I live (commute is sucking). I'd pack up and move somewhere next month but I don't know where I want to move to or feel like searching for a new job.
I think it has to do with the fact that external stuff will never "complete" anyone. You can have it all and if you aren't happy inside or satisfied from the inside out then it won't be enough.
I started practicing yoga and mediation 5 years ago and seeking happiness from the inside out and it really helped me fill a sense of void that I've always had. Sure, I still have goals and things I want to accomplish, but it really helps me feel like I am "enough" along the way to getting them.
I also think that what I really want comes to my brain more naturally when I'm in touch with myself in that way. Answers flow much easier.
All that said, consistency is the biggest issue. I fall of the wagon on doing this stuff and get back into funks, so I have to remind myself what helps me. All the friends, money, career success and everything doesn't make a difference if I'm always seeking outside of myself, and I have to frequently keep myself on track.