MMR: Bachelorette parties

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I don't remember this shit!

I'm a bridesmaid for a friend of mine, and we are planning a bachelorette party. The bride keeps talking about how she's paying for major parts of the bachelorette party (!? WTF) That's clearly not correct. We're not talking about a trip - we're talking about a night out in local area.

Who typically pays for bachelorette party events? Each of the participants, minus the bride?? The bridesmaids?

I'm mostly going to be organizing this as the MOH is out of town and not really into it so much, so I definitely want to know "the rules."

Relevant info:
Bride refuses to have a shower. She's very uncomfortable with the idea. So...bachelorette party will be ~ 7 people. Small.

I also have met 1 of the other bridesmaids (very cool) but no one else.

Thanks in advance!

[Deleted]

I would say that everyone pays for herself and splits the cost of the bride's food and drink.

[GailGoldie]

that's the kind of thing that all women going should pay their own way + all chip in for the bride.

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Aug 22, 2012 20:54:58 GMT -5 GailGoldie said:

that's the kind of thing that all women going should pay their own way + all chip in for the bride.

This is kind of where I am with it....

[Deleted]

I think if the bride wants to pay for her stuff, you should offer to cover it (along with the other attendees) but if she's insistent then I wouldn't push it. Some people are not comfortable with others making a fuss over them. I know I bought a round of drinks at mine because I was really uncomfortable with everyone throwing around cash except for me.

For my friend's bachelorette a few weeks ago she chipped in for the hotel. Originally I told her she wasn't going to, but then one of her friends who was supposed to stay with us backed out and the bride felt bad and paid. I wouldn't have asked her to, but since she sincerely wanted to I wasn't going to make her feel uncomfortable over $40. I think I would have done the same thing if I were her.

[vanillacourage]

If I knew the bachelorette was in lieu of a shower I'd have no problem putting in $50 to cover the bride plus things to make it an extra special night - limo, etc.

[hubes]

Bride doesn't pay.

At the last party I was at, the MIL actually bought the first round of drinks and paid for supper. It was nice, as the rest of us were planning to do it.

[oukapu]

I've seen it that the moh pays for the bride...and others will buy drinks.

[sept508]

For my very small party - just 4 of us - my sister paid for everything. We just have dinner, drinks, and hot tubbing at her place.

I"m a BM in my friend's wedding this fall. The bride has advised us that she would pay for her portions of the night. Everyone coming is to pay $20 for the taxis and room that night. Splitting the cost of the rooms alone would be more than $30 between the girls and doesn't touch taxi rides. I need to get with the other bridesmaids to figure that out.

Everyone is paying for their own dinner, drinks, and our entertainment that night. I'm not going to offer to buy a drink for the bride while we are out, but would be willing to split the cost of her dinner with others if that's what is decided.

Honestly, I'm spending over $500 for her wedding and this is IOWA with a just-out-of-college-poor bridal party so it's way more than I ever imagined I'd pay.