I just lost my shit on my mom

[glitzy07]

Team you.

I had a similar experience when we told my family on Christmas that we were pregnant with C. I emphasized that we were telling them a little sooner than we'd like because everyone was together that day (11 weeks), and that we still weren't telling friends and work yet. I very specifically said to post nothing on FB.

The next morning my dad posted something about being a grandpa because of his his oldest daughter. I'm not friends with him on FB, but my BFF is. She saw it and told me. Thank GOD I had at least already told her and she didn't find out that way.

I called my mom at 6:30am when I found out about it and made her wake my dad up to take it down.

I vote rage is the appropriate response in your situation.

[chickens987]

Oh no!! Rage away.

[mlt]

Not overreacting. I HATE that shit. She should grovel.

[antoniamarchette]

I would be so pissed. Not cool mom!

[spankswife]

My MIL did they same thing. She copied abd shared one of our family pics of 3 and said something about being 4.

Probably up for 30 min. I called DH and he called her asap. Nice.

[redheadk]

I would be pissed. Team you. Sorry

[ssmjlm]

Team you. WhyTF do people think it's ok to share other's news?

[biogirl21]

I hate when people do this shit! I just had some friends have babies and there were people congratulating them and sharing before the parents had. Why do people think this is ok?

[ssmjlm]

Oct 10, 2015 19:26:04 GMT -5 @natariru said:

Oct 10, 2015 19:22:12 GMT -5 ssmjlm said:

Team you. WhyTF do people think it's ok to share other's news?

It's fucking old people on Facebook!!!!

My MIL is constantly sharing posts.  DH has told her repeatedly that sharing doesn't work due to my settings AND if she wants to post photos, come visit her grandchild and see her.

[game blouses]

My mom did this crap too! I had a loss before DS and was very wary about posting on FB about my pregnancy, and definitely wasn't going to share my ultrasound picture. And guess what happened?

I'm glad you got it down fast and can share it on your own later!

[water*drop]

Ugh. I would be so upset.

[zarapipe]

I am so sorry. I would be irate.

[jeaniebueller]

What is it with our parents and FB? My mil has done similar things too. Ugh. I am sorry.

[jeaniebueller]

Oct 10, 2015 19:28:50 GMT -5 ssmjlm said:

Oct 10, 2015 19:26:04 GMT -5 @natariru said:

It's fucking old people on Facebook!!!!

My MIL is constantly sharing posts.  DH has told her repeatedly that sharing doesn't work due to my settings AND if she wants to post photos, come visit her grandchild and see her.

I have stopped reminding my mom and mil that sharing my posts is totally ineffective. They don't get it.

[Deleted]

I'm so sorry.

[mlt]

Oct 10, 2015 19:28:50 GMT -5 ssmjlm said:

Oct 10, 2015 19:26:04 GMT -5 @natariru said:

It's fucking old people on Facebook!!!!

My MIL is constantly sharing posts.  DH has told her repeatedly that sharing doesn't work due to my settings AND if she wants to post photos, come visit her grandchild and see her.

My mom and dad share everything I post, even when I have TAGGED them. So frustrating. Our poor mutual friends.

[browneyedgirl9]

You are 100% right in flipping out. Thats your news to share or not share!

[wildfloweragain]

Ugh, I'm sorry. My mom didn't tell people that I know of, but made a huge deal about how she had no social life - had to stay away from all her friends for 7 weeks because I wouldn't let her tell.

So we spared her that hardship with the next 2 kids and told her last.

Same thing with being in labor. She called the nurse's station every half hour. For 28 hours. After that we didn't tell her I was in labor until after the kid was born.

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[yellowbrkrd]

Oh man, I would be so pissed.

[ilikedonuts]

I would have flipped out too. Team you!

My cousin posted a congrats on my FB wall before I announced DD2's birth. I was tempted to return the favor 6 weeks later when she didn't announce her kid's birth for over a day. (I didn't) I was so pissed. I didn't even tell her I had DD. My grandma did.

[bcarp30]

I feel like FB has made people lose all sense of normal communication protocol. Especially with the olds. Like she wouldn't pass that photo around before FB so why now?!! Team you.

[hbomdiggity]

Yea I'm still kinda pissed at MIL for announcing DS's birth. So tagged me and H so there was no hiding it. What got me is that she knew it wasn't her news to share because she even said she'd "let Hbomb share the name". Gee thanks MIL.

[djc315]

Ugh that is a huge pet peeve of mine. I'm sorry she did that, but I'm glad you were able to get it down so quick.

[tulips]

Ugh. Team you. That shit pisses me off.

[hw77]

Sorry this sucks. I have major issues with family and fb. As others have posted we have tried to be very clear about our expectations of sharing pics of our daughter as well as our news (expecting, birth, milestones etc) and it is just lost on them. They somehow think its not fair and they owe their friends pictures!!! drives me insane. I want to quit fb but also want to keep an eye on things...

I always feel bad for people that dont lock down their wall and then have a baby or something major and there is always someone that just has to instantly congratulate them on their wall which essential is like the 1st announcement of THEIR news!

[nextbigthing]

TOTALLY team you

This is why every time my mom says "you guys need to show me how to be on Facebook", my sister and I ignore her

[redpenmama]

Wow. Yep, you are totally justified -- I would have reacted the same.

[greycat]

I would have lost it too!! Team you!

[miamigirl]

Team you. You're not overreacting.

I had similar issues with my MIL. She announced that my baby was a girl on FB before I could, months later she announced her name before me... She also posted a pic of her after she was born when I specifically told her not to. She also posted a picture from her newborn photo shoot, and of course it was the one I chose for the announcement... RAGE.
I need to learn not to share any pics with her.

[darnkatz]

Ugh, what is wrong with people?! Team you. When I was pregnant with DD1, my friend called me when I was on my way back from my ultrasound. I lived with her. My mom called the apartment and my friend fucking TOLD HER! RAGE. I'm still mad about it eight years later. lol