Grammar/speech q

[glitzy07]

I think it's pretty normal, but what do I know?

I'll ask C what he had for lunch and he'll just repeat "lunch" sometimes or look at me confused. I think it's more because he doesn't know how to answer the question (doesn't remember), maybe?

[glitzy07]

Oct 13, 2015 10:47:10 GMT -5 @mrswindycity said:

Oct 13, 2015 10:45:30 GMT -5 glitzy07 said:

I think it's pretty normal, but what do I know?

I'll ask C what he had for lunch and he'll just repeat "lunch" sometimes or look at me confused. I think it's more because he doesn't know how to answer the question (doesn't remember), maybe?

If you ask DS2 ANY questions about school, it all goes back to lunch.

"How was your day?" "Good. You know what I had for lunch?"

"What did you do today?" "I ate lunch. You know what I had for lunch?"

"What was your favorite thing at school today? "Pasta. Know what else I had for lunch?"

C has answered "cheese" every single day that I've asked him what he's had for lunch.  I think macaroni and cheese is the only food he can remember, but he just calls it cheese.  

[AmyRI]

Normal IME. I'd follow up with more specific questions to reinforce the meaning of your initial question.

What color is that?
Is it purple or red?

What did you do at school?
Did you read a book or have a snack?

[dcrunnergirl52]

Totally normal. I remember DD and DS1 going through this, and asking our SLP, and she said it's normal. It takes a while for them to understand how to respond to questions, especially open-ended questions. And, they'll answer questions with No, way before they'll start saying Yes appropriately.

DS2 is doing this same thing now, and only recently started answering Yes to anything.

[glitzy07]

Oct 13, 2015 10:48:42 GMT -5 @vicmo said:

Oct 13, 2015 10:44:28 GMT -5 @mrsbecky said:

DS is almost 3.5 and still says "good" when I ask what he did at daycare lol.

But I try to ask questions that are more focused than "what did you do today" but still open-ended. So I may ask him what was the best part of his day, what was his favorite thing he did, etc. That way he usually can't escape with a one-word answer and I get a better idea of what actually happened at daycare.

Good call on the open ended questions. Although Bas doesn't really seem to get superlatives yet either lol. His favourite colour is all of them lol.

At least your kid knows colors!  Must be nice!  Every color is orange in my house.  And everyone is 3 years old.  Including my 2yo, apparently.

[drloretta]

DD is 5.5 and still uses the word "tell" instead of "ask". It's a process

[halfpint]

B is a little younger yet, but doesn't really answer questions. He repeats them, or repeats words from them. There are a few things he can answer, like he's got 50/50 odds on getting "what color is it?" correct. Or, "Are you pooping?". If it's a concrete yes/no or identifying question, or it involves hinges, he's good ("Does that door have hinges? Yes, that door does have hinges! Does Teddy have hinges? No, Teddy does not have a hinge.") If it's about a preference or a more abstract answer, he struggles with that.
I was pretty proud on Sunday - we went to a birthday party for our nanny's daughter, Marley. When we got back, and after his nap, I asked if he had fun today, and he responded, "Yes, at Marley's house!"

But overall, it's so hit or miss to know if he's just repeating things, or if he actually knows what the hell he's saying

[glitzy07]

Yeah, we also ignore the incorrect usage of most things...until they're old enough to know better. SS has heard me correct his "I seen" on many occasions. Someday he'll get it right, dammit!

[ktw]

Normal. G can answer some questions, but she often mixes up the meaning of the answers. For example, this morning my H asked her if she wanted to go down her slide one more time, and she said, "No, I full."

[YahYahs]

DD2 is 3 and will still give facepalm answers to my questions.

me: "Why are you crying?"
DD2: "Because I'm cryyyyyying."
me: "What do you want to eat?"
DD2: "I want to eaaaatttttt."

[DarcyLongfellow]

Absolutely normal.

Honestly, my first grader isn't much better.

"How was your day?"
"Good."
"What did you do?"
"I don't know."
"Who did you sit next to at lunch?"
"I don't remember."
"What did you do at recess?"
"I don't remember."

It's only 5 hours later right before she's supposed to turn off her light and go to bed that the details come out.

[gibbinator]

If ds1 isnt paying attention, doesn't understand or just doesn't remember he says "uuuuuh uuuuuh uuuuuh uuuuuh" and looks at you imploringly for the answer.

[rugbywife]

We ask questions knowing she doesn't really get it...last night DH was like...do you want to play in the back yard? yes. do you want to go for a walk? yes. Okay, we will do both, lol! There are somethings she gets, like do you want to eat x,y,z, or do you want to take a bath? But yes or no questions are pretty much it these days.

[glitzy07]

Oct 13, 2015 11:27:18 GMT -5 DarcyLongfellow said:

Absolutely normal.

Honestly, my first grader isn't much better.

"How was your day?"
"Good."
"What did you do?"
"I don't know."
"Who did you sit next to at lunch?"
"I don't remember."
"What did you do at recess?"
"I don't remember."

It's only 5 hours later right before she's supposed to turn off her light and go to bed that the details come out.

OMG. YES.  9yo SS is like this.  He doesn't remember anything, unless it has to do with a sports stat, specific kind of car or something that happened in a video game.  Drives me up a wall!

[aspentosh]

DD definitely went through this stage and now she answers all questions "appropriately". So I vote normal.

[drloretta]

Oct 13, 2015 10:54:42 GMT -5 @vicmo said:

Oct 13, 2015 10:52:26 GMT -5 drloretta said:

DD is 5.5 and still uses the word "tell" instead of "ask". It's a process

Oh yeah, we have a lot of "my go upstairs!" or similar but I'm just breezily ignoring that lolol.

Ours is more like, "Tell Daddy if he can come snuggle with me." I was so confused the first time or 2!

[catbus]

Elliott's communication skills are above average, and he's three, yet this is still a regular exchange in our house: 
Me: "Elliott, do you know what today is?"
E: "YEAH!"
Me: "Oh really? What is it?"
E: "Um, I don't know." 

So yeah, sounds normal.

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Oct 13, 2015 10:44:28 GMT -5 @mrsbecky said:

DS is almost 3.5 and still says "good" when I ask what he did at daycare lol.

But I try to ask questions that are more focused than "what did you do today" but still open-ended. So I may ask him what was the best part of his day, what was his favorite thing he did, etc. That way he usually can't escape with a one-word answer and I get a better idea of what actually happened at daycare.

DS is 3.5 and always says "fine!" very brightly when I ask him how preschool was. Like mrsbecky, I've started asking him more specific questions. It's helping, but he still starts every answer with "fine...(long pause)..we made a sun catcher, and played with Play Doh, and I sat on the swings" etc etc.