How do I convince H to plan s vacation?

[liveintheville]

He received a big(to me) estate from his father. It will be available shortly. This is confirmed through Peter's financial planner. All paperwork is signed etc.
However, H is losing his job in a month or so which is stressing him out. He will however get severance and a retention bonus combined worth 3.5 months of pay.
He does agree with me about the vacation. We want to take the kids somewhere and tell them it was a present from grandpa.
But he will not discuss it. Like where we'd like to go or anything. He basically doesn't want to touch the trust money. But wants a nice vacation for all that we can't afford on our own.
Any recommendations as to how to handle the situation?

[drloretta]

I have no idea what the estate size is, but "they" say when you come into a windfall you should just blow 10% to get it out of your system. Maybe you could approach it that way and say, "Hey, I don't want to touch the vast majority of it, but taking a small amount of this could take the edge off of paying for this vacation."

Will more time help at all? Would hearing it from the financial planner help?

[liveintheville]

Oct 17, 2015 18:57:57 GMT -5 drloretta said:

I have no idea what the estate size is, but "they" say when you come into a windfall you should just blow 10% to get it out of your system. Maybe you could approach it that way and say, "Hey, I don't want to touch the vast majority of it, but taking a small amount of this could take the edge off of paying for this vacation."

Will more time help at all? Would hearing it from the financial planner help?

I'm willing to tell you guys just not money matterss. It's Redacted. And H has allocated the money how he wants which included vacation money. But yeah I guess he needs more time.

[drloretta]

I saw the responses on MM and they were spot on. Hopefully you guys can do even a small vacation to take the edge off