Annoying H Thread

[ewall]

What's your H doing lately that's annoying?

Mine: 
He is obsessed with washing his hands (not an unhealthy obsession, but hopefully you get my point.) So I make sure we always have plenty of hand soap. I don't know why this is my responsibility, but it is. Except he never goes to find it! It's always, "We're out of soap." No! We are not! Look in the linen closet. Look in the medicine cabinet. I have that stuff squirreled away everywhere. Open your eyes!!!

Also, our fridge door handle is always mysteriously sticky. I came home from traveling last week, it was sticky, I wiped it off and mentioned it to him. The very next morning (less than 12 hours later!) the handle was sticky again. What are you doing??? Ugh. 

Now that I think about it, it's kind of hilarious that his hands are always clean, but he still manages to mess up the fridge. 

[awick14]

Lol, DH is always looking for something, but he never really "looks" for anything.

[Deleted]

Oct 19, 2015 8:42:19 GMT -5 awick14 said:

Lol, DH is always looking for something, but he never really "looks" for anything.

H does this too. Then I get the phone call "stupid question, where's this?" If he actually took the time to look for something he would find it himself. Instead he asks me and I usually find it within 30 seconds or less.

[estrellita]

Oh good, I'm not the only one with an H that's incapable of finding anything. He's constantly asking me where things are. I'm like uh, a box somewhere? How am I supposed to remember where every random object ended up? He asks sooo many questions in addition to this. He's always asking my opinion, which I appreciate, but half the time I don't care! He asked me the other day if he should shave in the shower or the sink. I don't care as long as you clean up!

[ewall]

Oct 19, 2015 10:30:39 GMT -5 estrellita said:

Oh good, I'm not the only one with an H that's incapable of finding anything. He's constantly asking me where things are. I'm like uh, a box somewhere? How am I supposed to remember where every random object ended up? He asks sooo many questions in addition to this. He's always asking my opinion, which I appreciate, but half the time I don't care! He asked me the other day if he should shave in the shower or the sink. I don't care as long as you clean up!

Oh yes. I don't care!!! Why are you asking me?

(Probably because I snap at him if he doesn't ask me first. Oops.)

[HoneySpider]

My H has been pretty good lately, but in the mornings he almost always leaves his coffee cup and oatmeal bowl either in the sink or on the table. Just put it in the dishwasher! We have had this conversation before though and I feel this is one of those battles it's not worth fighting, it's really such a minor thing.

[amaranth]

His board game obsession is walking aa fine line for me. Sometimes I don't mind but other days I just want him to give it all up and stop sending me damn videos of playing games.

Also, he has started picking his teeth with wrappers. Wtf? I find that so uncouth.

[luv2rn4fun]

Everything LOL 

It was a long weekend and I'm glad it's Monday and he's back to work! The big ones lately...

-Complaining that he does "everything" around the house. He really does work hard and does a lot around our house, but it's not like I'm sitting on my butt being lazy...I literally do 99.9% of all things taking care of C, make dinner/DH's lunch, make C's food, do C's/my laundry/towels/bedding, take out the trash, grocery shop, make the bed, clean the downstairs bathroom, and help with all other things cleaning related. On top of that I'm pretty exhausted from being up every night for the past 10 months and I use C's nap time to rest/hang out here/drink coffee in silence/etc (this is a complaint of his...).

-When he's home he doesn't understand my need for quiet when C's asleep...I don't want the TV on, I don't want to hear you do all your manly noises, and I sure don't want to talk about anything (especially what needs to be done or anything that sounds like "work"). Basically I don't want to feel like he's doing anything that's demanding an ounce of my energy.

-His sex drive sucks.  I told him last night that I think he should see a doctor since I've stated how it makes me feel and it hasn't changed the outcome.  This morning we talked and he's made a verbal commitment to start getting things back to normal by trying for 1x/week.  Sounds great to me...hope he actually sticks to it and it's not just something he's saying to appease me for today. 

In all fairness...I think we are both just trying to do too much between taking care of C and having our house for sale and trying to find a new house. He does do a ton around here and is a great provider (and husband and father).  We both feel unappreciated and have really let our marriage slide these past 10 months...I'm hoping we can really start communicating better and understanding that we really are a great team...he does a lot around the house and I also do a lot around the house while having full responsibility for C. We really need a date in the near future and work on reconnecting again...

[Deleted]

My H leaves all cupboard/cabinet doors slightly ajar. I don't know why this is. He also leaves his socks laying around lol.

It seems that over the years he has forgotten how to dress himself. Every time we go anywhere, he asks me to pick out some clothes for him to wear. I don't really mind, but sometimes I'm like, a t-shirt and jeans - you have a million t-shirts, choose one!

[rockinrobyn]

HoneySpider this drives me crazy. H does this with all of his dishes no matter the meal. He puts them in the sink and runs water over them and walks away. He says they need to "soak" but I know he just doesn't want to do the dishes.

Also, this

He has 2 dressers but all his clothes end up here. I wash, dry, fold them, and place them here and they never get put away. He just digs through until he finds what he wants to wear. I am not sure how many clothes have fallen behind and I really don't care at this point.

[katespade]

Oct 19, 2015 17:11:59 GMT -5 rockinrobyn said:

HoneySpider this drives me crazy. H does this with all of his dishes no matter the meal. He puts them in the sink and runs water over them and walks away. He says they need to "soak" but I know he just doesn't want to do the dishes.

YES. Oh my gosh, this drives me bonkers. H and I have a deal that I don't have to wash dishes and he doesn't have to clean bathrooms, so it's extra annoying for me to sit and wait to see how long it will take for him to go back and actually take care of them. Dishes are not my job!

[melsamoony]

Mumbling constantly....especially when well out of ear shot and expecting me to hear what he is saying. He then of course gets annoyed when I don't respond. Hello I cannot hear your quiet mumbles through the walls and floor boards....take the cotton balls out of your mouth and speak up.

When we are in the same room he always manages to speak like a normal person. His ability to talk escapes him as soon as a wall separates us.

[Skyesthelimit1212]

I have something to add to this thread today.  Normally I get up at 6am, leave the house by 6:15 for the gym then work. Last night I decided to skip the gym and just sleep in an extra 1/2 this morning.  H normally takes care of the baby in the mornings w/help from my mil Mon-Wed.  This morning I made dd lunch, which I do normally anyway, and I made her some brkfst on my way out the door.  I get a msg from h asking where her coat is.  I said I haven't moved, but check the hooks on her bdroom door, if not there it might have fallen behind something.  I get a reply back, that means it's at your mother's house, this is too much pressure for me on a Fri.  It's a FREAKING coat, she has lots of coats, pick another one and move the F along.