Feeling bitter? Come on in

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Aug 23, 2012 21:07:48 GMT -5 fuddyduddy said:

I'm bitter because I am an unemployed student living far from my family going through a sudden divorce.

Oh no, Fuddy. I'm so sorry to hear that.

[runblondie26]

SL loan debt and career stagnation. Hiring/movement in our respective fields isn't nearly what it was projected to be when we started school.

[mae141]

Aug 23, 2012 20:01:52 GMT -5 ondaflipside said:

Aug 23, 2012 19:20:10 GMT -5 bronxgirl said:

If you feel bitter about something here's your chance to share your misery.
Me: basically it can be summed up in one word: infertility. I am bitter that I have so many friends who are PG, most of them relatively easy and I have to go through all this expensive, time consuming unpleasant crap and still have nothing to show for it. Sad trombone.

Put me on this list. I feel like everyone's getting pregnant except for me; and I feel like just giving up.

Yep. Me too.

[fuddyduddy]

Aug 24, 2012 8:45:00 GMT -5 @notquiteblushing said:

Aug 23, 2012 21:07:48 GMT -5 fuddyduddy said:

I'm bitter because I am an unemployed student living far from my family going through a sudden divorce.

Oh no, Fuddy. I'm so sorry to hear that.

Thanks, NQB. It's been hard, but I know it's for the best. I'll be alright.

[badtzmaru22]

::Big hugs:: to everyone dealing with IF and/or miscarriage. I've been there. I still can't believe I have a baby now. I really hope it happens for you ladies soon.

I'm bitter that all DH does is complain about being tired. I shouldn't, because he's in the middle of hopefully getting diagnosed with sleep apnea, so it might get better, but I am just over being nice about it. I'm not getting any sleep either between his insane snoring and the baby, and I've just run out of sympathy. I'm a horrible wife. I'm tired as hell too, but I wanted a baby, and I knew I'd get no sleep, so I just don't feel like I can complain.

[Rachael070707]

I'm totally hopping the IF bitter train. I have had so many 2nd pg announcements this summer it makes my head spin. Two of them have absolutely no business being pregnant again (from a medical and financial standpoint). I'm bitter than 5 years into TTC, we're no where closer to the dream.

I am bitter that we can afford to either save for treatments or have some semblance of a life. So god forbid we actually have been enjoying life again since the last failed cycle in April and actually spending some money on us and then I got a shitty comment from someone about priorities. I just wish people would walk in other people's shoes before making them feel shitty for getting back to living again after infertility treatments, depression, unemployment, marriage strain, etc. Just because I went to concerts and am going on a (super cheap) trip to visit my grandparents doesn't mean I'm any less infertile or any less wanting to be a mom.

[HoneySpider]

Oh Rachael that's really crappy - people really need to MTOB sometimes.

[Rachael070707]

Aug 24, 2012 9:58:38 GMT -5 HoneySpider said:

Oh Rachael that's really crappy - people really need to MTOB sometimes.

Thanks hun. I totally agree.

GL with your ttc journey. I know those feelings all too well unfortunately. I just keep telling myself that no matter what, when I'm pregnant, it won't matter who cares other than DH and me. I also know about being the forgotten child. It caused a huge fallout this summer between my dad/stepmom and me. It really sucks. It's like we're punished for being the ones who moved to get ahead in life.

[chessie]

I am bitter about my job. Pretty much hurting everything in my life, no raises, insurance increases. NO way I could work here with kids, they expect me to be on call all the time..Something has to change, or we will never have a family.

[marynjoe]

I'm bitter because of the current HR system that won't give DH a chance. If they would just meet him and get to know him, they'd LOVE him! But no, it's only "send a resume, don't contact us, we'll contact you." He was laid off 6 weeks ago today and has had one interview. He's sent out 80+ resumes without a bite. He is an excellent worker, is extremely good at his job, and has gotten nothing. The job he did interview for is a 45% cut in pay. He applied for unemployment and still haven't gotten a penny, as a rejection letter came yesterday saying they got the wrong information. WTF? We're living on nothing, I'm busting my ass, we're paying $1000 a month for COBRA coverage because I have to have it and my job doesn't offer insurance. To top it off, we've always helped people in our families but now we can't do it, and they're in no position to help us. FML.

But God is still good. I have faith He will see us through. I know we will come out of this eventually and will be stronger people. I just don't like it in the meantime.

[HoneySpider]

Aug 24, 2012 10:06:16 GMT -5 Rachael070707 said:

Aug 24, 2012 9:58:38 GMT -5 HoneySpider said:

Oh Rachael that's really crappy - people really need to MTOB sometimes.

Thanks hun. I totally agree.

GL with your ttc journey. I know those feelings all too well unfortunately. I just keep telling myself that no matter what, when I'm pregnant, it won't matter who cares other than DH and me. I also know about being the forgotten child. It caused a huge fallout this summer between my dad/stepmom and me. It really sucks. It's like we're punished for being the ones who moved to get ahead in life.

Aww thanks. Sometimes it's nice to hear about other people dealing with the same situation, not that it makes it better for anyone, but just to know that you're not the only one. None of my family or friends really get what it's like being far away because they haven't experienced that.

[twodogsandababy]

I'm bitter about how H's deployment was handled. Everything has been so awful and frustrating to the families, but all the press releases from the Navy say that "they have been doing an excellent job keeping families informed." It is so sad to me that they are getting screwed so badly and this deployment will be treated just like a regular underway, even though it is clearly not. There will be no family time on the pier and they will not even be manning the rails when the ship leaves. But hey...everyone had to stay late on Wednesday so that the Sec of Defense could come for some media tour to make it look like they really do care about the Sailors, instead they just had to work super late and not get allowed off the ship because of security.

I'm also bitter that everything has been so difficult for us lately, this deployment was a surprise, so clearly we will not be trying for a baby next month, like we planned. My mom's health has been awful and she was told she had only a couple years left with her liver, since she doesn't qualify for a transplant, we all know what that means. I am also bitter that because of everything H and I really didn't connect on his one month he was home. It completely sucks that he will be leaving while we are in a funk and there is nothing we can do about it until he gets back. It is to the point where I have emotionally checked out of life.

[catsarecute]

Bronxgirl: I'm with you. I'm going through the same thing. My saving grace is to attempt to focus on the positive parts of my life and the things that I can do easily now before kids come and turn everything upside down.