If you feel bitter about something here's your chance to share your misery. Me: basically it can be summed up in one word: infertility. I am bitter that I have so many friends who are PG, most of them relatively easy and I have to go through all this expensive, time consuming unpleasant crap and still have nothing to show for it. Sad trombone.
Sorry bronxgirl. I think that sucks a lot. It is so not fair.
I'm bitter at work this week. It's more bitter toward my career I guess. I feel like I should be further ahead by now and I'm frustrated with being in a lower level job when I know I'm capable of doing more. But I'm not confident that I could get a job with another company doing what I want to do until I have more experience....so I continue to wait. Related, I'm bitter about how hard I worked this year in particular and that I still have nothing even close to a promotion and got a crappy raise.
So many people my age with my level of education are so much more successful than I am. Makes me bitter and also wonder what I'm doing wrong.
Sorry bronxgirl. I think that sucks a lot. It is so not fair.
I'm bitter at work this week. It's more bitter toward my career I guess. I feel like I should be further ahead by now and I'm frustrated with being in a lower level job when I know I'm capable of doing more. But I'm not confident that I could get a job with another company doing what I want to do until I have more experience....so I continue to wait. Related, I'm bitter about how hard I worked this year in particular and that I still have nothing even close to a promotion and got a crappy raise.
So many people my age with my level of education are so much more successful than I am. Makes me bitter and also wonder what I'm doing wrong.
That sucks. How much of a raise did you get, in terms of percent? I thought you just started this job a few months ago? If so, I don't know if I would expect a big raise so soon.
My bitterness is my job. It is causing me so much stress, anxiety, lack of work/life balance, and is affecting my overall quality of life. I have 512 more days until I no longer owe back any of my relocation benefits or signing bonus and can financially afford to leave! Yes, I have a countdown.
I'm bitter that my husband works all the time. He had an 8 am conference call yesterday and then didn't come to bed until after 2 in the morning so an 18 hour day. And no one gets it because they say "at least he's home with you." Yes, he's sitting in the office right now still working...where he always is when he's home. I just miss him. It's actually better when he's gone. At least I can watch shows with the volume on.
I'm bitter that my husband works all the time. He had an 8 am conference call yesterday and then didn't come to bed until after 2 in the morning so an 18 hour day. And no one gets it because they say "at least he's home with you." Yes, he's sitting in the office right now still working...where he always is when he's home. I just miss him. It's actually better when he's gone. At least I can watch shows with the volume on.
Yeah, that does suck. And bronx girl, that sucks too. I wish I could fix all the infertility in the world. I would take away the fertility from teenagers for a few years and give it to the women that want the babies.
I have a JD and I make $16/hour. I haven't gotten a raise that even came close to COL in 3 years. I get treated like an idiot because I'm staff and not faculty, and my one chance for advancement will likely pass me by because I'm giving birth and nobody will think twice about it. I get zero support for my ideas because everyone's so stuck in their ways, but when something goes wrong I'm the first person they point fingers at.
I love what I do and there are moments where it's worth it, but I just don't know if I can deal with the political BS anymore.
If you feel bitter about something here's your chance to share your misery. Me: basically it can be summed up in one word: infertility. I am bitter that I have so many friends who are PG, most of them relatively easy and I have to go through all this expensive, time consuming unpleasant crap and still have nothing to show for it. Sad trombone.
Put me on this list. I feel like everyone's getting pregnant except for me; and I feel like just giving up.
I'm bitter that I'm 31 and have basically run out of career ambition. I don't love my job, hate the stress and long hours, but feel stuck because I don't feel as though taking a significant pay cut to find another job is feasible right now. I wish that I was either independently wealthy or could be satisfied with less.
I have a JD and I make $16/hour. I haven't gotten a raise that even came close to COL in 3 years. I get treated like an idiot because I'm staff and not faculty, and my one chance for advancement will likely pass me by because I'm giving birth and nobody will think twice about it. I get zero support for my ideas because everyone's so stuck in their ways, but when something goes wrong I'm the first person they point fingers at.
I love what I do and there are moments where it's worth it, but I just don't know if I can deal with the political BS anymore.
I'm sorry, Brie. That really does suck. Big hugs to you and everyone else in this thread. I'm at a good place in my career now, but I've definitely had moments when I was underpaid and undervalued and it felt awful. DH is kind of in a dead end job now which sucks. He's very bitter about his job. The workplace is so rough nowadays.
Sorry bronxgirl. I think that sucks a lot. It is so not fair.
I'm bitter at work this week. It's more bitter toward my career I guess. I feel like I should be further ahead by now and I'm frustrated with being in a lower level job when I know I'm capable of doing more. But I'm not confident that I could get a job with another company doing what I want to do until I have more experience....so I continue to wait. Related, I'm bitter about how hard I worked this year in particular and that I still have nothing even close to a promotion and got a crappy raise.
So many people my age with my level of education are so much more successful than I am. Makes me bitter and also wonder what I'm doing wrong.
That sucks. How much of a raise did you get, in terms of percent? I thought you just started this job a few months ago? If so, I don't know if I would expect a big raise so soon.
You're right that I just started this job in January, but I made a lateral transition within the same company. I've had the same title/level for 4 years now, just 2 different departments. My new job is vastly different than my old job and is a lot more fun but also is a lot more challenging and busy.
My raise for performance was 2%, which I realize is a LOT more than many people at many companies so I hesitate to even admit that. My issue with it is that in the past it has been closer to 4% and my company (and the department I work in, for that matter) has been giving a lot of talk about rewarding with pay for performance and career advancement within your level (you can supposedly get a promotion within the same level/job now) and yet nothing has changed except we were actually rewarded LESS than in the past. It isn't just me at least - but we all feel like we've been fed a load of BS, which I think is why I'm the most bitter this week.
I was bitter for a long time before I switched departments about my career/company/pay/job, I guess it is just bitterness coming back out that got buried in hope for a few months
Post by SusanBAnthony on Aug 23, 2012 20:18:16 GMT -5
I am bitter that we lost over 100k on our house in MN that we bought in 2005. We had a chance to move in 2008 that would have paid for the house if it didn't sell, but we didn't want to move to the Podunk town. Instead we waited to move until this year, lost even more money in the house, and the companies relo did not include buying our house. And we live in a Podunk town.
Also I want a pt job that doesn't pay 8$ an hour. My high school babysitter charges 7. Is that too much to ask?
I'm bitter about having to move. This week has been so stressful and just frustrating. I'm laying in bed looking around my room at all the crap I need to pack up, throw up, etc. And I've got a few boxes in our storage unit so that's how I'll spend my weekend.
I am bitter that I am bitter. The past 15 months have changed me so much, that I barely remember who I am.
I have learned a lot, but I often wonder WTH my family did to deserve the past 15 months.
You did nothing to deserve it. You're a wonderful mom and person and this is one of those "when bad things happen to good people" situations, which is COMPLETELY unfair, but don't beat yourself up. I think you have amazing strength. Big hugs.
I'm bitter about having a miscarriage last weekend. Why does it seem like all the pregnant women I know IRL are so horribly trashy and don't even want their babies? Color me jealous ( and bitter).
bucky - based on what you've posted here you have every right to be bitter about your salary. I really think you will need to change companies to get closer to what you are bringing to the table. From the employer perspective (you are in HR right?) why would they pay you more if you keep showing up and doing your job with your current rate?
I think you are probably right about the changing companies thing. That's definitely where I'll be headed if this continues. However, I really like the department I'm working in now and working in training and development in general, and I feel like I need to gain more experience before I can move into a job that I want somewhere else (with less than 1 year of experience in this area, I really only qualify for administrative jobs elsewhere, anything higher wants more experience). So I think I'm going to need to suck it up and wait a year or two, then move on.
And apparently I need to let it go that I have actually worked there for 4 years and pretend my career at my company started when I started my new job
I am bitter that I am bitter. The past 15 months have changed me so much, that I barely remember who I am.
I have learned a lot, but I often wonder WTH my family did to deserve the past 15 months.
You did nothing to deserve it. You're a wonderful mom and person and this is one of those "when bad things happen to good people" situations, which is COMPLETELY unfair, but don't beat yourself up. I think you have amazing strength. Big hugs.
This, completely. I find your strength inspiring and have confidence that good things are on the horizon. Your family deserves them.
I am bitter that I am bitter. The past 15 months have changed me so much, that I barely remember who I am.
I have learned a lot, but I often wonder WTH my family did to deserve the past 15 months.
Stories like yours and other things I know about have made me stop believing in God. Because even if there is a God, he is pretty shitty, so I dont care what He thinks about me believing or not.
I am bitter that my sister, mom, mom's boyfriend and boyfriend's son are coming to stay with us for labor day, and I know we will end up paying for all their food, tickets, fees, etc. Each visit from my mom costs about a grand, and now I have to pay for boyfriend's kid too! Mom refuses to make her situation better, actively makes it worse and whines that she should be making more.
I am bitter that I still don't have a job. I know I would kick ass if someone just gave me a chance. I am also angry that nobody thinks it might be insensitive to ask someone when they are having or why they don't have kids yet. I heard it all week at our family reunion and I just wanted to scream.
I'm feeling especially bitter this week about a medication I was prescribed that no one told me could cause lasting/permanent side effects. I'm so tired of this.
Sorry for everyone else in here too. At least misery loves company. Hugs.
I have a JD and I make $16/hour. I haven't gotten a raise that even came close to COL in 3 years. I get treated like an idiot because I'm staff and not faculty, and my one chance for advancement will likely pass me by because I'm giving birth and nobody will think twice about it. I get zero support for my ideas because everyone's so stuck in their ways, but when something goes wrong I'm the first person they point fingers at.
I love what I do and there are moments where it's worth it, but I just don't know if I can deal with the political BS anymore.
This, times a million. I could have written it myself. Except replace JD with MBA, and erase the giving birth part.
Sorry bronxgirl. I think that sucks a lot. It is so not fair.
I'm bitter at work this week. It's more bitter toward my career I guess. I feel like I should be further ahead by now and I'm frustrated with being in a lower level job when I know I'm capable of doing more. But I'm not confident that I could get a job with another company doing what I want to do until I have more experience....so I continue to wait. Related, I'm bitter about how hard I worked this year in particular and that I still have nothing even close to a promotion and got a crappy raise. So many people my age with my level of education are so much more successful than I am. Makes me bitter and also wonder what I'm doing wrong.
Ugh. I hear you. Either I'm a really bad interviewee, everyone else being interviewed is more qualified than me or they are disqualifying me for my disability. It's probably a little of all of the above. It's so frustrating/disheartening.
I'm bitter that after 5 years in this position I have not received a raise or promotion, despite taking on increasingly complex projects for which my coworkers are being paid 15% more also handle.
Post by HoneySpider on Aug 24, 2012 8:42:51 GMT -5
Sorry bronxgirl
I'm bitter that it's taking DH & I a long time to get pg but it's not just that, it's the fact that it's made worse because my brother & SIL got pg on their first month trying. Now they're going to have the first grandchild and everyone is fawning over them. I logged into FB this morning and right at the top of my feed is a picture of them with all these comments about how great she looks and all of that. Bleh. I'm already the "black sheep" of the family because I moved away and never see anyone, so this isn't helping.
On that note, I'm bitter that I'm like the forgotten child of the family, just because I decided to leave the area doesn't mean I am not part of the family anymore. I feel like I'm never included in anything, don't know what's going on, no one knows what's going on in my life, etc. I talk to my mom (and dad) a lot but outside of that it's like I don't exist to anyone anymore. WTF people.