Mornings with your spouse

[amaranth]

What does your morning look like? Do you get up at the same time, or is one person up and the other sleeps?


It's been a full year since my H worked outside the house and having this new schedule is weird. He leaves at 6:30 and wakes me up, even though I lay in bed and try to sleep. I'm trying to decide if I should just get up then and use the few minutes for...something... before M wakes up. I'm bad at mornings.

[katespade]

I wake up with H at 3:30am. I can't sleep through him getting up and getting ready, so it's easier to just adjust my sleep schedule to his.

[amaranth]

Oct 28, 2015 16:20:14 GMT -5 katespade said:

I wake up with H at 3:30am. I can't sleep through him getting up and getting ready, so it's easier to just adjust my sleep schedule to his.

Omg! When do you go to bed? What do you do before you go to work?

[pooh8402]

It's different every morning. Sometimes I work, in which case I'm usually up first. The days I'm off, DH is up first. But sometimes he has insomnia, so he'll be up at like 3 am and leave for work instead of 7 am. Even if he wakes me up, I'm usually able to fall back asleep.

[HoneySpider]

We get up at the same time. I generally go and make coffee while he gets in the shower and then I sit down and work - I like to crank something out first thing in the morning. After he leaves though my schedule really varies depending on what I need to do. But for that hour or so, he just gets ready and has breakfast and I work.

[katespade]

Oct 28, 2015 16:22:13 GMT -5 amaranth said:

Oct 28, 2015 16:20:14 GMT -5 katespade said:

I wake up with H at 3:30am. I can't sleep through him getting up and getting ready, so it's easier to just adjust my sleep schedule to his.

Omg! When do you go to bed? What do you do before you go to work?

We usually go to bed around 8:00pm or so. If we stayed up too late I might end up taking a nap on the couch, but that's usually my internet, TV, and homework time.

[Deleted]

We get up at the same time between 530 and 6am. We immediately start getting ready and don't really see each other until we are about to leave since we have two bathrooms. He leaves about 10 minutes earlier than I do.

[mac08]

H gets up at 4, takes the dogs out, showers, gets ready, and says bye to me when he leaves around 4:45.  I sleep through his alarm and am briefly semi-conscious when he says bye but I go right back to sleep til 6:30 or so.

[estrellita]

I get up somewhere between 6-6:15, shower, eat breakfast. While I'm eating H gets up (usually around 6:45) and showers then eats. While he's eating, I get E up and dressed (7-7:15ish) and we head out around 7:25 for H to drop me of at work by 8, then he drops E off and gets to work by 8:45. E eats breakfast at daycare so that helps.

[MrsMB]

I have to get up at 4:30. DH works second and doesn't get up until much later. I've learned to be verrrrrry quiet and sneaky to let him sleep.

[wanderingenough]

We get up at the same time because we carpool. He goes downstairs and watches ESPN for about 15 mins while I immediately start getting ready. He then showers and gets dressed and we are ready to go at the same time. We both usually eat breakfast at work, though I'll occasionally snack on something in the car.

[grover]

When we first moved in and at the beginning of the school year, I got up when he did at 4:55 am. He'd shower while I came down with the dogs. Then will I putzed around on the internet or got dressed, he'd cook us both breakfast.

Lately though, I cannot drag myself out of bed for the life of me. He still is getting up at 4:55 but taking frozen breakfast sandwiches with him for breakfast at work. So not only am I rolling out of bed kinda late at 6 or later, I also am on my own for breakfast.

He leaves for work around 6:20-6:30 am. I have to be out the door by 7:15, though I leave anytime between 6:40 and 7:15.

[melsamoony]

I bitterly get up first as I have an earlier work start time and work outside the home. I bring DS to H w clothes and a diaper so he can get him dressed and watch him while I get ready. H goes back to sleep after I leave.

[bk1]

Alarm goes off at 5:30.

DH plays on his computer for a few minutes then takes a shower. I play on my phone then get up and make up both breakfast and get DH's thermos and stuff ready. We eat breakfast together, watch a little DVR, and chat. We both get G up around 7. DH plays with her for a minute while I get her breakfast ready. DH heads to work and I feed G and we get our day started.


I love our mornings. It's nice because DH and I get to start our day just the two of us and it helps us stay connected. I also love that he is (almost) always home to get G up with me. It gives us a few family moments a day. 

[anyastroud]

H and I use to trade mornings with the kids and getting ready for school, Before he was working. Now he is up late. (knew this would happen once he picked up a second shift retail job.) We use to go to bed around 11 and wake up at about 6:45. I get up and going with the kids most days and I generally get to work about an hour early because of it. Now I won't lie some days after the kids get on the bus I'll come back in and take a LONG hot shower, or read, Sleep, work out, or do nothing  with a nice cup of coffee for an hour before going to work while the house is quiet. There are other days I make DH do it and I'll sleep until 8:30 than roll out the door. I'm finding out now that he works late sometimes I go to bed earlier. I have to tell you too what I can do in the AM in 5 minutes takes dh 30. I don't get it. some times we both wake up with the alarm and we make a group effort to get the girls ready. NOPE NOPE NOPE! I just assume he stay asleep. I'm mot a morning person I'm pretty cranky in the AM, and DH has 0 patients at that hour. It's not a good mix for us.  Plus win win for me either more time at the office makes more $$$ or quiet time for me it's not a bad thing. We do have this set in stone. Saturday is his day to sleep in Sunday in mine. I schedule all of my girls nights on a satuday for obvious reasons. Dh does shit whenever than bitches about being tired. What ever I don't care. you asked so I told ya.


Is it that obvious I'm still getting the hang of it? 

[anyastroud]

Oct 28, 2015 19:08:03 GMT -5 bk1 said:

Alarm goes off at 5:30.

DH plays on his computer for a few minutes then takes a shower. I play on my phone then get up and make up both breakfast and get DH's thermos and stuff ready. We eat breakfast together, watch a little DVR, and chat. We both get G up around 7. DH plays with her for a minute while I get her breakfast ready. DH heads to work and I feed G and we get our day started.


I love our mornings. It's nice because DH and I get to start our day just the two of us and it helps us stay connected. I also love that he is (almost) always home to get G up with me. It gives us a few family moments a day. 

This sounds like haven. My mornings our chaos. Through the week at lease. We ALWAYS have a big brunch on Saturday. bacon eggs biscuits gravy the whole 9 yards.

[anyastroud]

Oct 28, 2015 17:01:37 GMT -5 MrsMB said:

I have to get up at 4:30. DH works second and doesn't get up until much later. I've learned to be verrrrrry quiet and sneaky to let him sleep.

I TRY so very hard to do this. It's kinda hard while hair brushing and lunch packing and general caterwauling from the kids but I TRY Dh on the other hand if he gets up it's a screaming match between him and the kids that I can't sleep trough. So I'll get up and take charge of the situation. Very grumpily with a cup of joe.

[katiek]

We do not spend the mornings together. I have insomnia and get my best sleep in the morning, so H lets me sleep as long as possible.

Milo wakes us up between 5:30 and 7, usually around 6. I nurse him in bed, then H gets up with him, they eat breakfast together, take out the dog, play, watch Star Trek if it's really early. Then H gets me up when he has to leave for work.

I wish I could have more time with H, but I am not very social in the morning and I value sleep more. I'm sure H values me not being a tired grouch too

[travelbug]

It varies every morning depending on our work schedules. Once hubby is in his career job I think I'll make it more of a priority to hang out for a mini moment before he leaves and make breakfast, get his lunch in order etc It will be a weird thing to get used to him being gone for a full 24 hours at a time. But we will pass that bridge sometime next year *hopefully*

[luv2rn4fun]

We get up at the same time (I used to try to sleep a little more but it was pointless because DH can be loud even when he tries to be quiet). Alarm goes off at 5:00 and DH starts making coffee while I get dressed and use the bathroom. I drink my coffee while reading my devotionals and hanging out on the internet and DH drinks it while on the toilet (he can sit in there forever). Typically DH does a weight workout from 5:30-6 (hasn't lately due to stitches) and then gets ready for work 6:-6:45 when he leaves. We are up together but hardly interact. I used to not like this (I love our time together) but now really like my "me time" in the morning before C wakes up, which is anywhere 6-7.

[awick14]

It depends on the day,

If I don't work, or I work at 11am I usually try and sleep in. Sometimes I can't though and I get up. (DH feeds the dog and lets him outside to play for 15-20 mins.)

If I work at 8am then I get up with him. (5:45)

If I work at 6am, I get up before him and leave for work before he gets up.

If I work nights I get home after he leaves for work.

I have 4 different shifts I can possibly work and because I'm considered casual they are all over the place.