School and discipline

[Kcthepouchh8r]

So it's universally agreed upon that you don't discipline for stuff that happens at school right? At the end of the school day my generally well behaved kid made an exceptionally dumb choice. He usually gets a special lunch on Friday but I told him it wasn't happening based on his behavior. I'm wavering on my knee jerk reaction. Wwyd?

[dizzycooks]

There will certainly be consequences at home for poor behavior at school. I think you're perfectly justified and shouldn't feel bad at all.

[cjcouple]

Yes, i agree. I don't discipline for school stuff BUT I speak to them about it and reinforce proper behavior expectations.

So i would do the lunch. Unless that special lunch always had a good behavior stipulation on it? I would not go back on that. Is that what you were asking?

If you felt you should skip it though. One time wouldn't be a big deal.

[quesyrah]

It depends on what he did

[Kcthepouchh8r]

Middle of class right before getting ready for dismissal he grabbed something not even close to a ball, went to throw it to a friend and hit a little girl right in the eye. She came out sobbing, under her eye was all red and swollen.

[cjcouple]

Nov 5, 2015 16:29:38 GMT -5 Kcthepouchh8r said:

Middle of class right before getting ready for dismissal he grabbed something not even close to a ball, went to throw it to a friend and hit a little girl right in the eye. She came out sobbing, under her eye was all red and swollen.

Did he get disciplined at school?

[quesyrah]

Nov 5, 2015 16:29:38 GMT -5 Kcthepouchh8r said:

Middle of class right before getting ready for dismissal he grabbed something not even close to a ball, went to throw it to a friend and hit a little girl right in the eye. She came out sobbing, under her eye was all red and swollen.

I wouldn't take away tomorrow lunch because by tomorrow my kid would have already forgotten why it got taken away.

[cjcouple]

Nov 5, 2015 16:34:42 GMT -5 runningfish said:

I don't see why you wouldn't discipline poor behavior at school? I would take it away. But I think I tend to lean a little towards the "mean parent" and am trying to find a happy medium sooooo take my advice with that in mind.

In my experience the school always has their own discipline. I don't punish twice. If he wasn't punished at all in this case because it was near end of day I may take away their bed time show or screen time etc. Depends on circumstances but typically no. School handles school with reinforcement from parents.

[Kcthepouchh8r]

I agree it's probably too far away to discipline tomorrow at lunch. I have him writing an apology letter in lieu of watching a show right now. Thanks guys.

[cjcouple]

Nov 5, 2015 17:00:44 GMT -5 Kcthepouchh8r said:

I agree it's probably too far away to discipline tomorrow at lunch. I have him writing an apology letter in lieu of watching a show right now. Thanks guys.

Perfect.

[quesyrah]

Nov 5, 2015 17:00:44 GMT -5 Kcthepouchh8r said:

I agree it's probably too far away to discipline tomorrow at lunch. I have him writing an apology letter in lieu of watching a show right now. Thanks guys.

That's what I was going to suggest. I don't punish twice, if behavior was dealt with at school I talk it over with him but that's about it.

My goal when someone else gets hurt whether by accident or purposeful action is to have my kids do their best to make it right. The letter sounds perfect

[nicolewi]

Apology letter is a better idea on all fronts! I like it.