I think it's circumstantial. This poster in particular made it a point to say you don't know what creeps are watching and made reference to sexualizing an innocent picture of a kid, and then pops up in person three years later, saying, "I've been watching," lol. I know it seems naive, but I do think we're aware of our visibility. Maybe just stay a creep though, and don't come have ice cream with my family on a Sunday in the park. I think that's the strange issue.
Wait, so is the reason she was "run off the boards" because she said that some pervs could sexualize a picture of a kid? And the kid was undressed-ish? Because that just seems like common sense.
No. @tambcat's recollection of the photo as stated in this thread was accurate. No one was undressed-ish. It was not a in your face crotch shot. It was a why the fuck are you even trying to look for, or noticing, a 3 year old's underwear when she's sitting and reading a book to her baby brother.
I think the dymanic on this board is different. While there are some of you who have known each other for years, you consistently get an influx of new members. We have had some great additions over the years who end up sticking around but, for the most part, we are the same group of women since 2011. We post some pretty personal things about our lives and kids knowing full it is the interwebz and the implications of privacy, or lack there of, involved. But, every once in awhile, a bit of crazy like this occurs and we remember that just last week we discussed our vaginas and the consistency of our husband's pubic hair.
I know we don't live in a bubble but it can sometimes be easy to forget - a disservice to ourselves, I guess. Also, this chick has never posted on GBCN so it's pretty effing creepy.
TL;DR - you don't our lyfe!!!
It's cute that you think these are super personal topics that would never be brought up on a public board like ML.
Post by creamsiclechica on Nov 9, 2015 19:48:39 GMT -5
mofongo, there was nothing suggestive or highly visible in the picture. Obviously, I cannot demonstrate further than that because nobody's in the business of posting photos of other people's kids. The general consensus was that the poster was out of line for finding something wrong with the picture; t was literally two kids reading a book. There was no gratuitous or even inconspicuous crotch shot. It seemed way more strange that someone would find something from it, period.
Ok gals, we're now at the point where we're trying to drum up something that happened three years ago and determine whether the board's response was appropriate? Essentially no one on ML, save for a handful of cross-posters actually saw the picture and read the comments being made by this person. It seems a little silly to pass judgment about the board's reaction to the events back then based on the scraps of info you're receiving now.
Post by creamsiclechica on Nov 9, 2015 19:58:25 GMT -5
I understand why it seems like a silly and sensitive response over here. In truth, a large majority of our own members expressed that moving to a private setting seemed like an overreaction. And we do have members that are very guarded that don't post photos or only participate in general discussions because we're all aware it's the Internet. But just like certain events spook people from certain levels of participation, like catfishes making people second guess donations or people removing Facebook friends in a frenzy, this is one for some people on April. I mentioned staying public and my stance, and I stick by it here. I post here occasionally too, so I'm not private by any means. My intention was just to clarify that it's not just lurkers, because that's part of being online.
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i have it on good authority that at least one of those "guests" is part of the witch hunting team from my last church.
*waves*
i'd take being recognized by a gbcner over being "found" any day. that was horrible
ETA: there is still discussion going on about how "unbecoming" my language was here and how my use of the f-word should disqualify me from ministry/working with kids/interaction with humanity
i have it on good authority that at least one of those "guests" is part of the witch hunting team from my last church.
*waves*
i'd take being recognized by a gbcner over being "found" any day. that was horrible
ETA: there is still discussion going on about how "unbecoming" my language was here and how my use of the f-word should disqualify me from ministry/working with kids/interaction with humanity
Hi and fuck you to fkls' stalker!
I can't help but read the above as "fuckles" and now I can't stop laughing.
I would be HONORED to be recognized. Last moth at the airport in dominican I could have swore I saw a poster with her daughter, they looked exactly alike, I yelled with a big smile her name, and the woman just looked at me, and begun speaking French and not in an Irish accent as the poster would have. DH made fun of me the whole plane ride...that was unfortunate.