TTMA biting

[auroraloo]

Both DD and DS have been bitten by a kid at daycare. He was gone from June to October so we let it go. Now he's back and today he bit DS pretty hard.

I will talk to dc tomorrow but what are dwp thoughts? I would hate to be the parent of the biter, and I feel bad for mom but he left this mark.

I guess, wwyd?

[Deleted]

I'm sorry. I would definitely want to know what their plan is.

[lattelady5]

I'd want to know what dc plan is to stop the biting and ask that anytime they are playing with biter to be actively supervising. That looks really painful.

[dizzycooks]

Ouch! We've only been the recipient of one biting incident. That would really concern me and I'd ask how it was handled on the other child's end. They can't tell you much more than policies I'd assume (you know that), but it might help you understand what to expect. I don't know what I would expect. If I were the child of a biter I'd be concerned about being asked to leave, especially since yours is more of an in home (right?), but I'd hesitate to push for that since it would really suck if you were on the other end of that. Hopefully they are just hyper vigilant to watch going forward.

[auroraloo]

Nov 9, 2015 20:41:20 GMT -5 dizzycooks said:

Ouch! We've only been the recipient of one biting incident. That would really concern me and I'd ask how it was handled on the other child's end. They can't tell you much more than policies I'd assume (you know that), but it might help you understand what to expect. I don't know what I would expect. If I were the child of a biter I'd be concerned about being asked to leave, especially since yours is more of an in home (right?), but I'd hesitate to push for that since it would really suck if you were on the other end of that. Hopefully they are just hyper vigilant to watch going forward.

This is where I am at. I don't want him to be kicked out or anything because that would suck. Our school is amazing and I'd hate for anyone to have to leave it.

[honeydew1894]

If it were a one time thing, I'd let it go. Since it has happened more than once, I think it is worth asking some questions.

[rosesandpetals]

We had this issue back when DD first started last fall. The first time, I just had them ice it and let it go. A few times after that, I asked what their plan was and expressed my unhappiness about this becoming a recurring issue. They said the kid who bit her was teething and it was age appropriate so they couldn't do anything. So I pulled her and sent her somewhere else. It sucks for the other family because it isn't like you can reason with a toddler but at a certain point, your own child is top priority.

Of course, DD's bites broke the skin and she had more than one of them each day, every day for a week. Up and down both arms the skin was broken.

[Deleted]

Is teething age appropriate? Yes
Is biting others appropriate? No.

Give that kid a teething ring, washcloth, ANYTHING, but keep an eye out and have disctractions available because teething ON other kids is definitely not cool.

(Edit: in response to rosesandpetals

[auroraloo]

So I talked to dcp today and apparently this kid has specialists coming to her house once a week and kid's house once a week. they think it's because he doesn't talk at all. (He's maybe 18 months? That's an estimate). I absolutely trust dcp, She felt AWFUL about DS getting bit, I know she watches the biter constantly, and hires another person to come in on the days he's there. (She has a multiple provider license).

So, small update, but not really sure where to go from here.