Was my kid really invited to this?

[4speedy]

My DD is 9 and goes to an all girls school.  She has the smallest class in the school, just 11 girls.  They are all best friends and do everything together.  Including joining the school choir together, which practices at lunch.  I forgot to mention this is Catholic school so they sing at mass.

DD comes home yesterday and says the music teacher/choir director is getting married this Saturday and the teacher invited any students who want to go to her wedding.  I would normally blow this off but DD says the wedding is at 2pm at Christ the Light Church (about a half hour away from us.)  

Of course, being 9 year olds, the girls are dying to go to the wedding to see Miss M get married.  They want to sit together and sing their little hearts out during mass. (They're actually a really good choir).  

The invite, of course, is only to witness the marriage sacrament, not the rest of the wedding festivities.  Is this a legit invite?  The part that is throwing me is that she actually gave the girls time and location details.  She wouldn't just throw that out to a bunch of 9 year olds if it wasn't really ok for them to go, right?  The girls ADORE their music teacher and want to be there.

[VeryViolet]

Most church weddings (that I know of) are open to all members of the parish. I know most people don't go to random weddings but I have heard of little old church ladies going to all the weddings. I would think she really invited them particularly since she gave details. Can you check with another mom and see if her daughter has the same story?

[memenee]

I've known of little kids going to the church to see their teacher getting married. Really only the reception is by invitation. Anyone can go to the church.

[venice2007]

I was a teacher when I got married and invited my students to the mass part. They loved it and it was nice to see them dressed up and such! It was one if my favorite parts of the day! A few moms carpoolers the kids who wanted to go, I took a pic with them all at the church before they went home!

[cherryvalance]

Some of my students showed up at my wedding mass. As PP have said, the church is open to everyone, and the kids knew the day I was getting married. It was actually a cute surprise.

[4speedy]

Nov 17, 2015 6:44:18 GMT -5 VeryViolet said:

Most church weddings (that I know of) are open to all members of the parish. I know most people don't go to random weddings but I have heard of little old church ladies going to all the weddings. I would think she really invited them particularly since she gave details. Can you check with another mom and see if her daughter has the same story?

Another mom sent out a text last night offering to drive any of the girls who want to go so I assume she got the same story.  I'm debating whether I let DD go with the other mom. And girls.

Also, girls want to wear their school dress uniform.  They have daily uniforms and dress uniforms, which is what is required for Friday mass.  It is a traditional plaid skirt with blue blazer.  If you were a director of a girls school choir, would you be ok with a cluster of girls in school uniforms singing to you or would you prefer regular dressy "street clothes"

[bears]

Nov 17, 2015 6:54:31 GMT -5 4speedy said:

Nov 17, 2015 6:44:18 GMT -5 VeryViolet said:

Most church weddings (that I know of) are open to all members of the parish. I know most people don't go to random weddings but I have heard of little old church ladies going to all the weddings. I would think she really invited them particularly since she gave details. Can you check with another mom and see if her daughter has the same story?

Another mom sent out a text last night offering to drive any of the girls who want to go so I assume she got the same story.  I'm debating whether I let DD go with the other mom. And girls.

Also, girls want to wear their school dress uniform.  They have daily uniforms and dress uniforms, which is what is required for Friday mass.  It is a traditional plaid skirt with blue blazer.  If you were a director of a girls school choir, would you be ok with a cluster of girls in school uniforms singing to you or would you prefer regular dressy "street clothes"

The uniforms. That would be so cute.

[RoxMonster]

I was in choir in 5th grade (also at a Catholic school) and our 5th grade teacher invited the choir to sing at her wedding ceremony. She also invited a few of her past students to attend the ceremony (with parents) as guests. I didn't find it odd. I do think she sent home info to our parents about it, though, and didn't just give the kids the details.

We were not invited to the actual reception, but she put together a little mini reception with cake and punch for us right after the ceremony, came to visit with us, took some pics, etc. It was the first wedding I ever went to and I LOVED this teacher, so I was on cloud nine the whole time that I could be a part of her wedding.

[wildfloweragain]

I invited any students I'd ever had to my wedding - about 60 kids (I was only a few years in) and about 40 showed up. I sent out invitations, though. Why wouldn't she make invitations so the parents know this is legit?

The kids all sat together. When they announced us married, the kids went out front first. As I came out of the church, we got a pic of all of us together, and the recessional was going on, so nobody was even delayed.

[cep1976]

My H is a teacher - we didn't invite all his students (as a specialist he teaches all 600 kids in the school), but did invite two little girls who were obsessed with him and the wedding to come to the reception for cake. They came and it was adorable. They were so excited. They signed our photo signature mat and brought us an orchid as a gift. I think it was the highlight of their year.

[gummybear]

A lot of my friends and family are teachers and many of them invited their little students to the Mass portion (we are Catholic too). It's so cute!

[mcc]

I attended a public secular school and I was invited to my 2nd grade teacher's wedding ceremony in much the same way when I was her student. My mom brought me and some friends. We loved it and our teacher was so happy to see a group of her little students there smiling at her.

[Deleted]

Can't you just ask the teacher?

[CloudBee]

Believable! My mom is the random person who attends wedding ceremonies of people she kind of knows and hears about through the grapevine, lol.

[Mrs. ChanandlerBong]

Nov 17, 2015 7:31:51 GMT -5 @jezebel said:

Can't you just ask the teacher?

I agree with this. Call or email the teacher to confirm.

[lilac05]

Sounds like a legit invite to the service (obviously not the reception). If the teacher gave all of that info, that means they're genuinely invited. School dress uniforms are perfect.

[NothingWrongwithOhio]

When H was in first grade, his teacher invited the entire class to her wedding ceremony and they all went. I only know about it because it was my H's ONLY experience with a wedding before ours. From I've gleaned from my MIL, it's pretty normal in her area for teachers to do this.

[livinitup]

Yes, this is a real invitation. And I can't think of anything cuter than a photo of the bride with 11 little girls in their dress uniform from the school she teaches, on the church steps. Precious.

[frkls]

omg. i'm dying at the cuteness of uniformed little girls at this wedding. i hope she gets good pictures!

[coribelle26]

Yup my friend is a kindergarten teacher and she invited her students to her (Catholic church) ceremony.

Let her go! The kids thought they were SO COOL getting to go to a wedding.

[4speedy]

Nov 17, 2015 8:48:48 GMT -5 Mrs. ChanandlerBong said:

Nov 17, 2015 7:31:51 GMT -5 @jezebel said:

Can't you just ask the teacher?

I agree with this. Call or email the teacher to confirm.

Yesterday was her last day at school.  She has the rest of the week off and I was hoping to figure this out without bugging her while she takes care of last minute details.

[olivesyou]

I think this is so cute, I am getting all giddy picturing 11 little best friends all dressed up and at the wedding of their favorite teacher. What a fun day for them!

I don't think its odd at all, I think it would be more odd if she actually invited the girls to the reception, bc then you have logistics problems like can the girls go without a parent who wasn't invited, what gift do you give, etc.

As others have said, the mass ceremony is open to anyone. I would definitely encourage DD to go =)

[textbookcase]

My mom was a teacher, and she invited her whole class when she and my stepdad got married. It was super cute (she taught kindergarten at the time). I'm sure they are actually invited to the ceremony. I would call the teacher to confirm, but it sounds fine to me. That is going to be super cute!