"I'm going to kill you. I'm going to stab you with my axe"

[franklin]

Nov 19, 2015 17:20:58 GMT -5 sonrisa said:

Nov 19, 2015 17:12:41 GMT -5 @fkasmace said:

I dont know if it's normal or not but as a teacher, no way would this fly in my class. Oh no. We dont let our kids be assholes to one another, mmmnope. We don't 'reprimand' but we do aaaaaaaaallllllloooooottttttttttt of "do you think that was a nice thing or a mean thing you just said?" "Do you want someone to say that to you?" "How do you think that wouls make you feel?" "Do you think you should apologize to Clyde for saying words like that?"

If they're all "yes it's a fabulous thing to say" we redirect them until we acheive the answer we want, lol.

See, this is exactly what I expect from a classroom at this age. The director is vehement about "hand off, let them sort it out."  

They're four, five? They're not equipped enough to "sort it out" themselves. They need to help them build those skills first.

And Frank pulled out a lightsaber the other day and said "prepare to die". I think it's normal for this age but it's definitely something I'd correct or comment on.

[franklin]

Nov 19, 2015 17:37:04 GMT -5 mockingbird said:

Nov 19, 2015 17:20:58 GMT -5 sonrisa said:

See, this is exactly what I expect from a classroom at this age. The director is vehement about "hand off, let them sort it out."  

What the fuck? Has the whole "unparenting" movement moved into the classroom? That's stupid. 

I'm fully onboard with the Montessori principal of giving kids lots of freedom and "following the child", but when the child is going down a totally inappropriate path, you need to guide them back to the realm of civility.

It's kind of beside the point, but Frank goes to a Montessori school and this would not fly - they would definitely correct that and help them understand why it's not ok.

[hopecounts]

Agree the comment is not odd in itself.
The classroom handling of issues is weird and not ok.
4 yr olds do not have the skills to 'handle it themselves'

[CurlyQ284]

DS told me he was going to kill me the other day. I think he picked it up from me, I say that when I'm mad. I corrected him and realized I need to be more careful.

He just turned 3 and is in daycare. They absolutely would correct the kids if this was happening in class. They call all the kids in class "friends" and say things like "we do not hit friends". There is no 'sorting it out for themselves'. He's a year younger but we have to teach them to live in a society here. WTF are they thinking? How will they learn if no one teaches them?!

This would make me really upset.

[adhdfashion]

I have five younger brothers. Yes, totally normal.

[lilac05]

Nov 19, 2015 18:32:01 GMT -5 franklin said:

Nov 19, 2015 17:20:58 GMT -5 sonrisa said:

They're four, five? They're not equipped enough to "sort it out" themselves. They need to help them build those skills first.

At DS1's school, the teacher talks about how the kids learn the basics of the social rules at home, then apply them at school.  They're really good at teaching each other, so you might hear one child helping another child figure out how to solve a disagreement.  It's pretty cool to watch.  She says every few years, she'll get a child who doesn't have that instruction at home and needs a little extra guidance, but it's not often.  I certainly don't think it's appropriate for all preschools, but it works there.

Regardless of the theory, however, it's AWFUL that the teacher is allowing a child to be so uncomfortable that he/she is hiding and crying!

[beefcheeks]

Nov 19, 2015 18:34:00 GMT -5 franklin said:

Nov 19, 2015 17:37:04 GMT -5 mockingbird said:

What the fuck? Has the whole "unparenting" movement moved into the classroom? That's stupid. 

I'm fully onboard with the Montessori principal of giving kids lots of freedom and "following the child", but when the child is going down a totally inappropriate path, you need to guide them back to the realm of civility.

It's kind of beside the point, but Frank goes to a Montessori school and this would not fly - they would definitely correct that and help them understand why it's not ok.

Yep, my boys go to Montessori and it would not fly at their school, either.

[dojo]

I am told that my 3.5 year old is going to "pew" me down at least once day. Then he makes gun nosies. PEW PEW!