the post in which I vent and vent and vent....

[NandaB]

I need to whine. Feel free to join me.

So my H got a job at the end of last month after being laid off for a month. It pays well and it seems like he will be getting hired on for a higher position (it was only a month long contract). BUT its a really shitty swing shift. The regular workers shift is 230 pm to 130 am. He is getting there a little early and staying late because, duh he wants to show them what a hard worker...asset to the company...blahblahblah. Its over an hour away, so he leaves by 1 pm and is home around 4 am. I NEVER SEE HIM. like, we are gone when he gets up usually. Rush home so the kids can see him for 15 minutes before he leaves. Oh yea, he works six days a week.

My kids have been sick basically the whole time passing around one sickness or another. Poor G is also being a shit because his life is all disrupted.

HE HAS TO WORK TOMORROW TOO. The reason is so they can have thanksgiving weekend off. Well that's nice, but IT DOESNT HELP ME AT ALL. if he has it off he is going to go hunting with my dad and family. I want to want him to go. He has only been sleeping and working for a month. Its an important family tradition, my cousin who's dad just passed away will be there and usually rides with Scott, he is also going to take G (not to hunt, just to hang out) BUT I NEED A FUCKING BREAK!!!!!

[lexus]

That sucks. You have all my sorrys. Wine? Ice cream? Can a friend or family member take the kids for a bit?

[Deleted]

That sounds horrendous. Coffee? So sorry I have an h with an awful schedule. I would feel murderous if he didn't hang out with us when he's actually off. You totally need a break-any friends or fam you could send and SOS to? If you lived near me, I would totally help you! All my sorries too.

[NandaB]

Nov 21, 2015 11:00:19 GMT -5 lexus said:

That sucks. You have all my sorrys. Wine? Ice cream? Can a friend or family member take the kids for a bit?

Yes. wine AND ice cream. My mom has been such a great help, but my kids are a lot. I feel bad just dumping them on her, especially sick and whiny. I may try to escape for a couple hours today. My bff lives them and would watch them, but she has chronic health issues and had to be careful about getting sick. So she can't really have my feverish kids climbing all over her

[NandaB]

Nov 21, 2015 11:03:01 GMT -5 @itsbritt said:

That sounds horrendous. Coffee? So sorry I have an h with an awful schedule. I would feel murderous if he didn't hang out with us when he's actually off. You totally need a break-any friends or fam you could send and SOS to? If you lived near me, I would totally help you! All my sorries too.

You are sweet. He had been making a point to do stuff with the kids on his Sundays off, even though I know he's exhausted, but this trip would also be time for him and G, which the poor kid desperately needs. I just want to snuggle my husband on the couch and sleep in once a week

[Deleted]

I'm sorry, Nanda. That really sucks. It's such a crappy feeling to know that you're completely burned out, but no one else can take care of them. This is why I think women should live together in communities! Sometimes you just need someone else around when the H is working! I hope you get some time for a break this weekend.

[jnksmom]

I'm sorry Nanda. I hope you get a break soon and everyone feels better.

[Deleted]

I'm sorry. That really sounds rough. I hope you all get a break soon!

[dizzycooks]

I'm sorry that sounds awful. It's a one month gig. It must be almost over? If he gets hired on what would the schedule look like? That doesn't sound sustainable. Would you move to lessen the commute?

I came here to vent but I've got nothing on you tonight.

[quesyrah]

I'm really sorry. Swing shift sucks.

[mamaalysson]

I'm so sorry, Nanda. That sounds so hard. I agree with wine, ice cream, and lean on whoever you can lean on, even if it's just to get out and breath for an hour. I guess the silver lining is that it sucks for him too? You know? It's not like he's out gallivanting around and leaving you by your lonesome. He's probably just as exhausted and worn thin as you are. Not that that makes it better, but DH and I have had periods like that, and it sucks hairy monkey balls, but at least we're in it together. I think you have the right attitude, and as much as it blows, it sounds like if he can make the hunting trip tomorrow, that is probably the right thing to do. But I'm sorry. And booze, girl.

[NandaB]

Omg you guys, first, my mom is awesome and watched the kids so my bff and I could go to Ikea and spend all this money my h is making. It was worth fending off the hipsters and Europeans to have some kid free time.

Second.... I heard from h last night and they are offering him a fulltime, day shift position starting the Monday after thanksgiving!!!!! It starts stupid early, but he will be off by 3 or 4 pm!!!!!!!!!

[lexus]

Yay! I'm so glad that awful
Month was worth it!

[auroraloo]

I love the journey this thread took. That's awesome, Nanda.

[mamaalysson]

Amazing! Congrats to you and Mr. Nanda!!

[momin2013]

Great update - that sounds awesome!

[usm]

You know they make wine ice cream.

I am so glad you got kid free time and your H's (and your) dedication has paid off and he's already getting a better shift.

Day by day, I can get through a lot if I have something to look forward to.

[thecheshirekat]

Awesome news! I'm glad things are going to be better for you very soon.

[nowa]

Such great news!! Glad you got a small break and that there's an end to the madness well in sight!