Who are you hosting? Your family if start doing whatever I had to as if they weren't there. Except being louder and more disruptive than I normally would be while cleaning.
His family. I'd go in and "remind" him that his family is coming for a big dinner and he has to do -insert list of everything here- before tomorrow if he's going to be ready. And head out to meet a friend somewhere that serves wine.
I'd do not a damn thing if it was his family. And have no problem telling them it was up to him to get ready
I'm hosting my family. I went downstairs to prepare a dip for a work potluck about 30 minutes ago. I slam a couple of pots and they left shortly after. But know my DH is mad because he stated I was acting rude towards his friends.
I'm hosting my family. I went downstairs to prepare a dip for a work potluck about 30 minutes ago. I slam a couple of pots and they left shortly after. But know my DH is mad because he stated I was acting rude towards his friends.
I'm hosting my family. I went downstairs to prepare a dip for a work potluck about 30 minutes ago. I slam a couple of pots and they left shortly after. But know my DH is mad because he stated I was acting rude towards his friends.
Are you going to ask him to clean the house or is he going to get away with being a douche to you?
Post by mrsukyankee on Nov 25, 2015 3:56:24 GMT -5
My H would know better than to invite anyone over without letting me know. I would extend the same courtesy to him as well. And no, you do not have to be polite to people that are over when you had no input to them coming and need to get stuff done. Sorry H, that is on you. I would honestly have a come to Jesus talk with him this weekend about HIS RUDENESS.
H, when you bring people over w/o talking to me first, it makes me feel disrespected and not listened to. I have asked you in the past to talk to me before inviting people over. AND by allowing them to stay and keep me up until 1am, I feel that you don't care whether I get enough sleep or not, which is very important to me. I understand that you want to have people over, and I rarely will say 'no', but I need a heads up and the ability to veto once in a while if I need the house to myself (to clean, have a quiet night, etc). I will give you the same respect regarding my plans.
I'm hosting my family. I went downstairs to prepare a dip for a work potluck about 30 minutes ago. I slam a couple of pots and they left shortly after. But know my DH is mad because he stated I was acting rude towards his friends.
but it's ok for him to be rude to you? Huh. Interesting.
Does he not want your family coming over? Was he being a dick in response to that, somehow?
I too suspect that this is an ongoing issue. He needs to GET IT that this is YOUR home too and he can't just willy nilly invite whoever he wants over whenever he wants. If he wants to do that, then he needs to be single and have no roomates. Then he can truly do WHATEVER he wants whenever he wants.
But as long as he's married- there absolutely has to be respect towards you. He's not showing that right now.
I would not be happy. I'd start my cleaning and not give a crap if the vacuum was bothering them or not. In fact, I think I'd take my good old time and keep it running a long time !
OP, how old are you, and how long have you been living with your H? This is some bullshit! And they stayed until somewhere between 11pm and 2am assuming you are in the continental US? BULLSHIT.
I'm hosting my family. I went downstairs to prepare a dip for a work potluck about 30 minutes ago. I slam a couple of pots and they left shortly after. But know my DH is mad because he stated I was acting rude towards his friends.
Are you going to ask him to clean the house or is he going to get away with being a douche to you?
I told him to have the kitchen and family room clean by the time I get home from work today.
No, he has no problem with my family coming over. He just feels that is not a big deal to have people over without my consent. It is an ongoing issue. He does this every couple of months and we argue about it but he just doesn't see my point of view.
I know is also a culture thing. We're Hispanic and people just tend to invite themselves over and it's thought to be rude to tell them no.
OP, how old are you, and how long have you been living with your H? This is some bullshit! And they stayed until somewhere between 11pm and 2am assuming you are in the continental US? BULLSHIT.
I'm 30 my H is 36. Leaving together 11 years. Yes I'm in the US.
So, there is a cultural aspect. BUT your DH needs to get that this is YOUR HOUSE TOO and as such, to totally disregard your wishes is RUDE too. why your feelings matter less than his friends - that doesn't add up here.
I mentioned this situation to my H last night and read your first post to him. Before I got to the end, my H declared "he's a dick", so it seems he's in agreement with the rest of us commenting on here.