Post by 1confused1 on Nov 27, 2015 16:42:29 GMT -5
I signed my 8 year old son up on instagram. I put all kinds of rules in place to protect him.
His dad (my xh) is commenting on pictures and asking him if He can meet him at a park, have a bbq, etc. My xh has supervised visitation and he knows he can't see the kids outside of his visitation time.
My son is upset he can't see him. We had a long talk about why.
Outside of removing xh as one of his followers, is there anything else I can do? I don't want to punish my kid because his dad is a jackass.
Post by nancybotwin on Nov 27, 2015 16:45:09 GMT -5
8 seems a bit young for Instagram...but you're not asking that. Can you remove xh as a follower? Because I don't think there is much you can control beyond those two moves.
8 seems a bit young for Instagram...but you're not asking that. Can you remove xh as a follower? Because I don't think there is much you can control beyond those two moves.
Post by textbookcase on Nov 27, 2015 16:49:58 GMT -5
8 is a little young for social media, imo. My 11 yo just got a private, heavily monitored account. My 9 yo isn't ready for IG or any other social media. If you want to let him keep the account, I would block your xh from seeing his posts if he is making inappropriate comments. That's really the only option you have.
Can you contact ex and tell him "stop with the comments or you're going to be deleted. Son wants to share pictures with you but you need to stop it w/ the comments".
Can you contact ex and tell him "stop with the comments or you're going to be deleted. Son wants to share pictures with you but you need to stop it w/ the comments".
So, I realize this is going back in time, but what about just printing pictures out and sending them via snail mail? So DS feels he's sharing but there is no opportunity for immediate comments?
There ARE other options to share than via instagram. Not as easy and immediate, but perhaps more protective of your DS.
Instagram TOS require user to be 13 years old to sign up. Did you lie about his birth year?
I'd probably delete the instagram account. But the only other option is to block his dad.
I didn't see a part where you enter an age.
I signed up for IG a long time ago, I thought there was a place to enter age. But I could be mistaken. Anyways, on that link the first rule of IG is that the user has to be 13.
But since you aren't responding to things saying to delete IG, I'm assuming you don't care.
Post by konstantine on Nov 27, 2015 16:55:08 GMT -5
By allowing your son to have an IG and contact with his dad, you're setting him up to have to deal with adult problems at 8. I know it isn't what you're asking, but this is not a good idea.
I guess blocking exH would be the second best solution, aside from deleting your 8 year old's social media account.
Post by WOUNDTIGHT on Nov 27, 2015 16:59:23 GMT -5
This is silly. If IG is causing problems for your eight year old, take him off social media. I don't know why you need a room full of strangers to tell you this. There are lots of adults who can't even navigate this stuff. And you know your xh doesn't respect boundaries (if I recall properly, you've had a restraining order, yes?) so you get the side eye for putting him in this situation in the first place.
I assume if your family members have IG, they also have email. Why would you sign an 8 year old up for IG when he can just safely email people pictures? This is so weird, delete the IG
Post by konstantine on Nov 27, 2015 17:05:32 GMT -5
If he's interested in sharing pictures, set him up on Dropbox. You can choose who you send a link to share photos/documents with, and (as far as I know), there isn't an option to leave comments.
Delete the IG. He is too young for it. If your exH has supervised visitation, there is a reason for it, and your son is too young to understand that. Deleting the IG will take him out of the this situation completely.
If he's interested in sharing pictures, set him up on Dropbox. You can choose who you send a link to share photos/documents with, and (as far as I know), there isn't an option to leave comments.
Post by MixedBerryJam on Nov 27, 2015 17:21:38 GMT -5
In a million years I would never have predicted that the IG of an 8yo child between whose parents there is a RO would cause an issue. Shocked, I tell ya.
In a million years I would never have predicted that the IG of an 8yo child between whose parents there is a RO would cause an issue. Shocked, I tell ya.
But you see the RO was only between xh and mom. There were no restrictions between xh and the kids.
Oh, except for supervised visits. So who could have guessed xh would have boundary issues or trouble following the rules? Why not give what is essentially a GPS tracker leading directly to mom and kids and share it with xh?