shitballs offer update ::update2::UPDATE 3

[Deleted]

He should not go back those people. Horrible

[y4m]

Sweet - peace out terrible old job!

And nice handling with current boss to leverage it a little anyway, but openly and constructively.

The losing the biggest client thing - I can't remember the backstory, but is that something he should be sharing?

[UnderProtest]

Run far away! They should be coming to your husband with their tail between their legs, not asking him to take a pay cut to fix the problems they created. I hope he can get promoted at his current job because there would be no way in hell I would go back to that place.

[Deleted]

Your description of where you live is so spot on. I'm glad your H went right to his current boss to tell him what's up.

I'm also super pissed at myself! I drove through town this morning on my way west with our move. I should have arranged to have breakfast with you! I stopped at Headframe and bought 2 bottles as Christmas gifts.

[v]

I think your husband kind of needs to stay out of this other business's business instead of gossiping with them about what went wrong.

If it wasn't about money to him, what about this opportunity made him think he should take the meeting?

I hope this is the end of it, but if they come back to him he should shut it down without getting into details.

[msmerymac]

Lol, they have no idea why he left the company.

[sparkythelawyer]

"Would you take a paycut to come back"

Wow.

That motherfucker had some balls, didn't he?

Buy your husband a copy of "Its called Breakup Because it's Broken" and make him read it anytime he gets and inkling to move back to that place.

[aurora]

Wow, the pay cut to come back to clean up someone else's mess was a ballsy offer.

I'm glad your H handled it, including with his current employer.

[Deleted]

I can't believe they suggested he should take a pay cut to come back and clean up their mess! That's so absurd it's humorous.

[sfy]

I was team it's good professionally to take the meet and now I feel bad about that, because these people are not at all professional. They suck.

[sparkythelawyer]

No, seriously, why is he still talking to them.

[arpb14]

A pay cut to come back?!

[sparkythelawyer]

Dec 2, 2015 17:21:08 GMT -5 @rennido said:

Dec 2, 2015 17:19:40 GMT -5 sparkythelawyer said:

No, seriously, why is he still talking to them.

I DON'T KNOW. TELL THEM NO AND BE DONE DAMN IT!

Do not let him fall in love with the title of "President."  Lipstick on a pig is still a pig.

[compassrose]

I really hope his current company comes back with something good. Then not only does he get reassured he did the right thing with shitpig company but he gets an improvement at current company, too.

[hamster]

Dec 2, 2015 17:21:08 GMT -5 @rennido said:

Dec 2, 2015 17:19:40 GMT -5 sparkythelawyer said:

No, seriously, why is he still talking to them.

I DON'T KNOW. TELL THEM NO AND BE DONE DAMN IT!

Not until he gets the offer. Not because he'll take it, but because MM is invested in this story. PRIORITIES. 

[mcsangel2]

Plus, he HAS to come up with a super great way to burn them when he turns down their offer.

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Dec 2, 2015 15:35:30 GMT -5 @ruralrabbit1 said:

I can't believe they suggested he should take a pay cut to come back and clean up their mess! That's so absurd it's humorous.

I love that they totally missed they were so bad he took less money to get away. So he needs a lot more to come back (like millions)

[10nille]

Maybe, your H is just waiting to put the smack down on them. Get their hopes up they are getting a Savior for cheap and then he says, "ha, I was just fucking with you like you did me. How does it feel bitches?"

[laurensmomma]

Oh my. Your second update is absolutely killing me! Who do they think they are? Lol

[v]

Dec 2, 2015 22:10:17 GMT -5 @rennido said:

Dec 2, 2015 20:41:52 GMT -5 10nille said:

Maybe, your H is just waiting to put the smack down on them. Get their hopes up they are getting a Savior for cheap and then he says, "ha, I was just fucking with you like you did me. How does it feel bitches?"

H is too nice. Damnit. He hates confrontation and will not burn bridges if it could save his life.

They are meeting tomorrow at 10:30

That's not "too nice" -- it's more along the lines of foolish and unprofessional.  Pursuing this, particularly if he has no sincere interest, could burn bridges at his current employer and also with anyone who has a connection with the other bank.

He needs to shut this down.

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Dec 2, 2015 22:10:17 GMT -5 @rennido said:

Dec 2, 2015 20:41:52 GMT -5 10nille said:

Maybe, your H is just waiting to put the smack down on them. Get their hopes up they are getting a Savior for cheap and then he says, "ha, I was just fucking with you like you did me. How does it feel bitches?"

H is too nice. Damnit. He hates confrontation and will not burn bridges if it could save his life.

They are meeting tomorrow at 10:30

Not all bridges are worth keeping up.

Pretty sure this is one he can (and should) burn

[stretchad]

I think the risk is that he's told his current company he's talked to them, and indicated he wants some assurance from current company, yet keeps talking to old company. It feels weird, like he's playing current company (or could be perceived as such by current employer).

He needs to just say "for personal & professional reasons, I decline to pursue this opportunity further" and wipe his hands and move on.

[WOT?*]

Show him this thread and the advice and comments from a lot of smart ladies.

Every one of whom is saying "stop talking to them. They've already shown themselves to be unprofessional and unwilling to pay/value you to get you back. Tell them no and move on."

[mcsangel2]

Any update, @rennido?

[raangoli]

I seriously hope that his current company comes back with something pronto. Otherwise I fear for your H's life since you will kill him if he jumps ship for the douche canoe company.

[sfy]

This is crazy.

[v]

This totally strikes me as hero complex, ego stroking, and/or eating up the drama of it. Probably a combination of the three. I'd be SO angry if my husband was acting like this.

[compassrose]

Ugh. I can't believe he's falling for this BS. I hope he just wants all of his options in hand before he chooses and that current company can entice him to stay.

[imojoebunny]

Dec 3, 2015 15:34:19 GMT -5 RockNVoll said:

Dec 3, 2015 15:29:47 GMT -5 @rennido said:

You know what. You are absolutely right, and then he complains about it  "WHY AM I THE ONE THAT EVERYONE CONTACTS TO BAIL THEM OUT"

I recognize the behavior because my H does the same thing, only it's usually acting as hero for his employers.  I'm way more jaded and learned to look out for #1 because no one else will.

Now I have "Billy, don't be a Hero" stuck in my head.  When I worked, I used to think of myself as a corporate prostitute, prostituting my brain to the highest bidder that wouldn't cause it to explode.  Clearly, I am in the look out for #1 camp.  

Sorry you are having to deal with your DH being indecisive.  Can he have the weekend to think about it, without all the noise?