I don't know anymore! I really wanted my first to be a girl, and she is. I thought I wanted another girl, but now that I'm pregnant I truly don't know. I think I'll be happy and sad either way, since this is most likely our last.
H and I never cared or had a preference for boys or girls the first or second time. However, once we found it was twins I was worried about it being two boys. I was worried about J being left out if we had two more boys that were twins. I felt like he would be the odd man out and my crazy pregnancy hormones had me envisioning some bad sibling stuff. So in that sense I hoped for one of each or two girls. But even then, when I was thinking rationally, deep down I still didn't have a preference. And the thought of twin preteen/teenage girls scared me.
Once the girls were born and I started to feel bad that J would never get to have a brother lol. H just laughed at me because he has two sisters and he doesn't care at all.
I always wanted one of each and always wanted 2 kids. Then I had identical twins and for a long time thought I wanted 3, but really I'm happy with 2 girls.
Post by countthestars on Dec 4, 2015 14:26:40 GMT -5
I didn't have a preference for my first but thought I wanted at least one girl. After I had DD I had a slight preference for another girl (sisters!!). H had a slight preference for a boy for #2.
I never had any sort of preference at all. Just had never really imagined our family in a certain way. I was, however, super surprised when DS3 was a boy.
I wanted a boy the first time, and had DD1. Then when I was pregnant the second time, I wanted a girl more for the sister relationship, and was then torn, because I want DH to have a boy. We have 2 girls now, and I can't wait to see their relationship as the grow.
How can you now have a didn't care vote? My first was a boy, my second was a girl. Everyone assumed I wanted a girl, but I really didn't care. Whichever I had, I would have thought of the positives. If she was a boy - no need to buy new clothes, they can play on the same sports teams, etc. She's a girl - I can coach her in softball! I would have been equally happy either way.
When I became pregnant with #2 I really hoped for a girl since we already had DS. I tried to keep neutral but I was so ecstatic when I found out she was a girl.
I always thought I wanted 2 girls. I knew I didn't want 2 boys. I just didn't see myself as a boy mom. But, as soon as we found out we were having a boy and a girl, I knew it was right for our family and I would be thrilled to have one of each (which I am!!).
With my first two, I wanted one of each... Now, if we were to try for a fourth, and having been through a teen girl, I definitely want another boy and no more girls
As a mom to 2 young boys, I would love to hear more about this. It may help me get through some of the more trying days of having 2 boys who roughhouse, make swords and guns out of anything, and just cannot seem to keep their hands off each other.
I wanted a girl for #1 because I grew up with all sisters and it was all I knew. Now that #2 is due the same season as DS was born, I prefer #2 to be a boy- 1) to reuse clothes and 2) because I know boys now. Probably dumb reasons but whatever.
I have a slight preference for two boys (and did even before I got pregnant and had a boy), but also think one of each would be great. And even though I wanted a boy, I was both happy and sad when I found out what he was. I feel like I will experience the same feelings no matter what the second one is too (if I have a second). I had pictured life with both of them in my various daydreams and it kind of felt like saying goodbye to one of those dreams while being super excited that the other one came true.
I really wanted another boy. I loved having a son, the cute boy clothes, the love of getting dirty, his crazy antics, everything. I knew DS would love having a little brother. I was really disappointed when we found out we were having a girl. But then she arrived and I love her SO MUCH and she's the perfect addition to our family. She's made all of us better people. DS loves her to pieces, loves sharing with her, loves giving her toys. No jealousy whatsoever. She makes me stop and appreciate her mellowness, her kindness, her craving for affection. She pulls DH out of his work funk and makes him laugh. She's amazing.
I really didn't care, but I selected opposite sex because that's sort of what I always envisioned. I grew up with a younger brother and when I had a girl first, the family I built in my imagination also included a younger brother.
I was very happy to find out DD2 was a girl though and I would not trade the sibling set I have for the world. I really love watching the sister relationship develop.
I think I used to envision one of each, before I had DD. Now that I have a girl and am pregnant with a , I really don't have a preference. If it's a girl, I look forward to sisters (and hopefully, a better sister relationship than I had/have with mine). If it's a boy, I'll be equally happy.
I wanted one of each, which is what we have. DH and I both grew up with an opposite sex sibling, so we were partial to those types of families. I'm happy that I get to experience having both a son and a daughter and the differences that come with each of them.
I cant really remember having a preference pre-kids. Dh really wanted boys. I do love having two boys close together (20 months). So fun.
Since DD is only 3 months old, jury is still out about adding a girl to the mix. But DH and i are both still a little freaked out by it, honestly. Obviously, it'll be fine, but we both felt really comfortable as parents of boys.
I would love to have a second girl. But I'd also love to experience having a boy. So, I think I will be a very happy and a little sad no matter what when we have a 2nd because we definitely won't have a 3rd.
I was hoping for a boy, and since the first is a boy, I honestly have no preference for any future babies. I think I'd love to have all boys (and I just have a feeling that I'm going to be a 3-boy mom), but I'd be just as happy to have a girl next time instead. I truly have no preference at all.
Before we had kids, I wanted all boys. I was thrilled when we found out DD was a girl. I changed my mind to wanting all girls so she could have a sister, but it looks like this baby is going to be a boy.
I really wanted a girl first and I got one. For the second, I had a slight preference for a boy, but it wasn't strong, and I had a boy. I've always wished I had a sister so I would not have been upset at all had #2 been a girl.