Does the wording of this text sound ok?

[pinotgrig]

To a good friend who is struggling with TTC -

Hi friend - I wanted to let you know that I'm pregnant. Only about 8.5 weeks along, so still early days. I know this might be hard and I completely understand.


?? I feel like it's a bit short and I'm not sure about the last part - is that presumptuous?

[heygrey]

You need to acknowledge what you understand. That she might not answer back? That she might be hurt? It's just awkwardly open ended.

I might say "I know this might be hard so i didn't want to surprise you with this news jn person."

[VillainV]

I would wait till after 8.5 weeks to tell her, honestly, unless there's a reason she needs to know sooner. Then your text with ladygrey's additions is perfect.

[bcarp30]

Dec 5, 2015 17:42:39 GMT -5 VillainV said:

I would wait till after 8.5 weeks to tell her, honestly, unless there's a reason she needs to know sooner. Then your text with ladygrey's additions is perfect.

I'm kind of here but wondering if there's a reason to tell her early. Will she notice if you don't tell her and be upset? When my BFF was pregnant I totally knew but she was nervous to tell me and I appreciated her feelings. I think if you acknowledge it might be hard she should appreciate it, but be prepared for her to get upset that you're handling her with kid gloves, so to speak. And if she does, don't get upset or hurt, hard as that may be.

[boiler717]

I would say, "I'm sorry to give you this news over text, but I know it may be hard to hear and didn't want to surprise you in person or hear second hand. We are expecting and I'm due in July." I would add in something about the next time you will see her -- looking forward to catching up with you at X party or whatever it is.

[yellowbrkrd]

Dec 5, 2015 17:54:41 GMT -5 boiler717 said:

I would say, "I'm sorry to give you this news over text, but I know it may be hard to hear and didn't want to surprise you in person or hear second hand. We are expecting and I'm due in July." I would add in something about the next time you will see her -- looking forward to catching up with you at X party or whatever it is.

Use this.

[pinotgrig]

Dec 5, 2015 17:54:41 GMT -5 boiler717 said:

I would say, "I'm sorry to give you this news over text, but I know it may be hard to hear and didn't want to surprise you in person or hear second hand. We are expecting and I'm due in July." I would add in something about the next time you will see her -- looking forward to catching up with you at X party or whatever it is.

This is what I sent - it's perfect. Thank you. She already responded and said she was genuinely excited for us. She's a such a good friend.

[pinotgrig]

Also, I wanted to tell her now as we told a lot of mutual friends today at our annual Friendsgiving (that she wasn't able to attend*). I was worried of word getting to her secondhand. That would have been awful as we're super close.

* If she had come to FG, I was going to send the text last week.