Troubleshoot my baby

[humpforfree]

E is 10 (?) weeks old.
1- should she have a bedtime yet? I've tried a bunch to get her to bed earlier (everything from 6:30 to 9ish, when I give up and keep her with me until I go to bed at 9:30 and do the whole nurse routine), but she will fall asleep, I wait to make sure she's asleep, put her in the RNP and she wakes up, usually within minutes, occasionally longer (a half hour?). L started going to bed and staying asleep in there by 7 or 8 weeks, but I acknowledge he was a unicorn, so I don't know what's normal. Also, E is tired. She will sleep on me while I sit on the sofa, it's just like she has radar that I'm not in the bedroom with her so she won't stay asleep in there.
2- pretty much every morning she wakes up at 5 and starts grunting and squirming. I used to think it was gas or poop that she was working on, but nothing ever happened and I've been doing gas drops at night. I end up bringing her to bed every morning and side lying nursing (even if she had just eaten like an hour ago). She falls right back asleep, but then I am stuck with a baby in bed (and she knows as soon as I get up for L, so no sneaking away from her). Any ideas what the grunting and squirming is/how to fix it? Or is it just her being a baby and I'm stuck with it?

[VillainV]

1. We mostly just did a bedtime routine then, if not an actual bedtime. At 7pm the house got dark and quiet, we changed C into jammies (instead of a onesie and sweat pants), put soft music on in his room, etc. The routine has evolved as he's gotten older, but he knows the "bedtime routine" and that it means it's sleepy time!

2. IME, morning squirming and grunting is normal. C still does it at 20 months. It's just his wake-up routine.

[meltoine]

My 13 week does the same thing. I have no advice, just commiseration.

On the bedtime front, we don't have one nailed down yet, but he wakes up from his last nap between 5-6 and I bathe him with the olders at 6:30, so he goes down for the night whenever he gets sleepy after that. Usually between 7-8.

[humpforfree]

Dec 7, 2015 8:25:50 GMT -5 meltoine said:

My 13 week does the same thing. I have no advice, just commiseration.

On the bedtime front, we don't have one nailed down yet, but he wakes up from his last nap between 5-6 and I bathe him with the olders at 6:30, so he goes down for the night whenever he gets sleepy after that. Usually between 7-8.

Gah. Yeah. I know she is sleepy around 7/8 and she would probably stay asleep for the night if I stayed in the bedroom after doing the bedtime routine. But... I'm not ready to sit/lay in bed for the night at 7 pm. I've got crap to do that I can't with a toddler all day. Of course she will only sleep on me other than night time, so I am still stuck under her sleeping on the sofa. Maybe I need to suck it up and take a few nights to just sit in there while she sleeps and hope she figures it out and eventually I can leave..

[nessness]

1 - DD's bedtime at that age was 9:45. I think it's common for newborns to have a late bedtime that shifts earlier as they get older. A bedtime routine is a good idea, even if they don't "get it" right away.

[kaycee]

I have an 11 (?) week old. I put my toddler to bed then come downstairs and try to get DS to fall asleep in the bouncer chair. Then I will do chores, hang out with my husband, drink, whatever. Then between 9-11 we go upstairs and do bedtime. Typically that pushes his long stretch to when I'm actually asleep.

The rest unfortunately sounds like newborn stuff.

[Velar Fricative]

At that age, it was a good night if we could get her asleep by midnight.

It could have just been a coincidence, but she went to bed at 9:00 pm the day she got her 2-month shots, and then bedtime got easier from that point on. Yay vaccines!

Bedtime shifted to 7:30-8 at 3 months old (that's when she went to daycare) and has stayed there ever since.

ETA: I can't math, apparently. I'm thinking about the time before 2 months that she was falling asleep at 1:00-2:00 am and thinking that was around 10 weeks old. Oops. Never mind!

[undecidedowl]

That sounds exactly like how my kids were at that age. I didn't try anything to change it. When they started daycare and got a little older we fell into the early bedtime routine. Mornings have always been hit or miss but it's very common to have a feeding shortly before wake-up. I always just left the baby in bed with me after that, and yea, it then sucks when the older one gets up and it wakes the baby. Let's just say I have lottts of practice on sneaking out of bed without a baby noticing.

[sierramist03]

I know my dd is much younger but we are having the same struggles. We also start the bedtime routine around 730. With a feeding at 630 before that and another right before bed. Sometimes she goes down other times it's almost 930. In the mornings it seems like she is up almost the same time everyday. She does the grunts and noises too. Sometimes she will put herself back to sleep.

[Deleted]

At that age my son would only go to sleep from 7-11 reliably so I slept then too. The rest of the night was sometimes decent and other times a total shit show.

[ladygrey]

DS is the same age and doesn't have a set bedtime yet; he goes to bed whenever we do (around 11ish). If I recall from DD, a real, earlier (8 or so) bedtime started evolving around 3 months.

[humpforfree]

I guess my main problem is that she is tired and sleeps, but still won't let me put her down. it's the same for naps, which I can deal with but at night I want to spend time with H and/or get junk done. Ugh

[G22]

Dec 7, 2015 10:11:24 GMT -5 humpforfree said:

I guess my main problem is that she is tired and sleeps, but still won't let me put her down. it's the same for naps, which I can deal with but at night I want to spend time with H and/or get junk done. Ugh

My almost 6 week old is the same way. He's been sleeping for 2.5 hours on me at the moment. But had I tried to lay him down at any point in time, he'd be awake in minutes. I haven't figured out a solution yet.