Gift ideas for child loss?

[motzie]

My friend and his wife just lost one of their twins at 3 months old. They are premies and were still in the hospital. I'm not local to them anymore but would like to do something other than flowers. I tried to search old threads but couldn't find much except a few people who not flowers.

I also don't want to overstep and try to force any memorial type things on them because that isn't something I would want. I just want to show support and help them if possible.

The baby's middle name was my DD1's pretty unique name. Not sure how that is relevant but I'm sad so I thought I'd share.

[drloretta]

I think food delivery and a heartfelt note would be good. Since they still have another twin in the hospital and are dealing with funeral/memorial arrangements, I can imagine that cooking isn't high on their priority list right now.

I'm so sorry for their loss. Hugs to you as well.

[scribellesam]

I always see grocery delivery gift cards or general food-related gift cards as the top answer from people who have been in similar situations.

[VillainV]

I'm so sorry for their loss. I can't even imagine how hard that must be. Honestly, I would write a letter of condolence, then wait and see if they have any requests (donations to a specific charity for example). I agree with not doing memorial-type stuff though.

As tough as it is, there just really isn't anything you can give them that will ease the pain of losing their child (I know you know this), and to attempt it would be to fall short.

If there is anything you can do from afar (gift certificates for meals or whatever), then I think that would be welcome. Otherwise, just be the good supportive friend that you are and be there for them.

[motzie]

Dec 7, 2015 13:39:43 GMT -5 VillainV said:

I'm so sorry for their loss. I can't even imagine how hard that must be. Honestly, I would write a letter of condolence, then wait and see if they have any requests (donations to a specific charity for example). I agree with not doing memorial-type stuff though.

As tough as it is, there just really isn't anything you can give them that will ease the pain of losing their child (I know you know this), and to attempt it would be to fall short.

If there is anything you can do from afar (gift certificates for meals or whatever), then I think that would be welcome. Otherwise, just be the good supportive friend that you are and be there for them.

I guess this is what I kept coming back to. I can't imagine their pain right now. Thank you.

[motzie]

Dec 7, 2015 13:38:13 GMT -5 gravytrain225 said:

One of the best 'gifts' you can give it putting the death date in your phone calendar and letting them know in future years that you're thinking of them. I had a few members on here reach out to me on my sons 1 year anniversary and it really did mean a lot to me. I received some cards in future years from friends that meant the world to me too, more than anything material they could have purchased.

This is good to hear, and I will remember to do this. 

[sierramist03]

Restaurants gift cards for places that offer take out or fast food.