You ladies are a bad influence on me...

[achase123]

The 23 YO...yah, we hooked up. We all had a super fun day at the races and drank a lot. I texted him that night and he came and picked me up and went back to my house. And it was pretty hot although he got a little too excited a little too soon. I think this is a potential FWB thing so we'll see what happens.

Sidenote: his younger BROTHER was hitting on me at the horse races. Hardcore. Like intensely hitting on me. He's actually really hot but he's 21!! I am like "well I'm talking to your brother".

[dakotadangerdog]

YES!!!!!!! Way to go A!!!

[blackkitty]

How did I miss this bizniz about a 23 year old??
Where did he come from?

[achase123]

Aug 27, 2012 10:20:50 GMT -5 @blackkitty said:

How did I miss this bizniz about a 23 year old??
Where did he come from?

I just know him from my hometown and we're FB friends. We were kind of messaging on FB and then I gave him my number so we've been texting. He's been hinting or essentially all out saying that he's been wanting this for awhile. I finally had enough to drink that I just went for it.

He is really shy so we got back to my house and he was like "uhhh, how am I supposed to make my move??" So finally he walked over to me and we kissed and then he picked me up and carried me to my room. It was pretty hot.

[stephbfan]

Way to go!!

[heyney]

Woo hoo!

[blackkitty]

YAY!!!

[gozf]

Good job!

[dakotadangerdog]

LOL omg he carried you to your room? All I can think is "I'd be so embarrassed if a guy tried to pick me up" hahahahaha.

[achase123]

Aug 27, 2012 10:33:22 GMT -5 dakotadangerdog said:

LOL omg he carried you to your room? All I can think is "I'd be so embarrassed if a guy tried to pick me up" hahahahaha.

Oh yah he did

Well, like I said, I think he's pretty shy but when he finally got the go ahead he was pretty enthusiastic about it.

[naeljun]

Awesome. I hope he doesn't call you the C word and ruin it. I'm going to miss my 90 min sex session. Sigh

[achase123]

Aug 27, 2012 10:46:50 GMT -5 naeljun said:

Awesome. I hope he doesn't call you the C word and ruin it. I'm going to miss my 90 min sex session. Sigh

I don't blame you. I wouldn't be cool with that either. At all. I get the whole concept but to actually call someone that is not good.

90 minutes, that would be heaven. I think this boy needs to cool his jets quite a bit to make it further than a few minutes-haha!

[dakotadangerdog]

I don't get the big deal with "cougar". Like was it meant to be demeaning? Or was he like oh haha you're a cougar?

[starburst604]

Ahhh glad you had fun even if he is a very eager young Jedi

[achase123]

Aug 27, 2012 10:51:02 GMT -5 dakotadangerdog said:

I don't get the big deal with "cougar". Like was it meant to be demeaning? Or was he like oh haha you're a cougar?

Well to me cougar is a WAY older woman who only wants really young men. I know someone (who's really more of an acquaintence) who is now in her forties and who's slept with guys just out of high school (ie, barely legal!).

I think in some ways that for the FWB thing an older woman (or slightly older) can work with a younger guy because younger guys tend to have a higher sex drive. I know my sex drive is pretty high so it could work.

But in this case I'm only 30 and he's 23. So if he were to call me a cougar I don't think I'd be cool with that. I can call myself that (in jest) but I don't want someone making me feel like I'm preying on a younger man. He persued ME.

[naeljun]

Aug 27, 2012 10:53:35 GMT -5 achase123 said:

Aug 27, 2012 10:51:02 GMT -5 dakotadangerdog said:

I don't get the big deal with "cougar". Like was it meant to be demeaning? Or was he like oh haha you're a cougar?

Well to me cougar is a WAY older woman who only wants really young men. I know someone (who's really more of an acquaintence) who is now in her forties and who's slept with guys just out of high school (ie, barely legal!).

I think in some ways that for the FWB thing an older woman (or slightly older) can work with a younger guy because younger guys tend to have a higher sex drive. I know my sex drive is pretty high so it could work.

But in this case I'm only 30 and he's 23. So if he were to call me a cougar I don't think I'd be cool with that. I can call myself that (in jest) but I don't want someone making me feel like I'm preying on a younger man. He persued ME.

That is kind of the way I feel. OK for me to joke but not for you to call me it. He didn't mean it in a derogatory way at all. But didn't say it in a joking way either. It took me a couple of weeks to decide to sleep with someone 14 years younger than me and the reason why was because I didn't want to be thought of in that way. So when he said it I was really taken aback and what I was fearing the most about the situation was proven.

In my case he meant it as I was an experience older woman but I can't get past the cougar name. He was genuinely sorry. I also couldn't get over the fact he wanted to sleepover. Get out of my bed.

[naeljun]

Aug 27, 2012 10:48:05 GMT -5 achase123 said:

Aug 27, 2012 10:46:50 GMT -5 naeljun said:

Awesome. I hope he doesn't call you the C word and ruin it. I'm going to miss my 90 min sex session. Sigh

I don't blame you. I wouldn't be cool with that either. At all. I get the whole concept but to actually call someone that is not good.

90 minutes, that would be heaven. I think this boy needs to cool his jets quite a bit to make it further than a few minutes-haha!

It could have been longer but I was too tired to continue. The control was crazy.

[achase123]

Aug 27, 2012 11:33:40 GMT -5 naeljun said:

Aug 27, 2012 10:53:35 GMT -5 achase123 said:

I also couldn't get over the fact he wanted to sleepover. Get out of my bed.

Is that a good rule to go by? The other FWB I had (and only) never stayed the night. It was kind of an unspoken thing. The 23 YO mentioned that he wouldn't stay the night and I think it makes sense.

[starburst604]

Aug 27, 2012 11:33:40 GMT -5 naeljun said:

Aug 27, 2012 10:53:35 GMT -5 achase123 said:

In my case he meant it as I was an experience older woman but I can't get past the cougar name. He was genuinely sorry. I also couldn't get over the fact he wanted to sleepover. Get out of my bed.

I can totally relate to this! When I've had FWB situations where I truly want nothing more, I do NOT want to do sleepovers unless someone has had too much to drink. Sleepovers are intimate and cuddly for me. I once went to see a FWB who lived in the city, couldn't find parking so I double parked. We did our thing and I was like "well I gotta go, I'm double parked". Got up and left. The look on his face was priceless.

[achase123]

Aug 27, 2012 11:43:56 GMT -5 starburst604 said:

Aug 27, 2012 11:33:40 GMT -5 naeljun said:

Aug 27, 2012 10:53:35 GMT -5 achase123 said:

In my case he meant it as I was an experience older woman but I can't get past the cougar name. He was genuinely sorry. I also couldn't get over the fact he wanted to sleepover. Get out of my bed.

I can totally relate to this! When I've had FWB situations where I truly want nothing more, I do NOT want to do sleepovers unless someone has had too much to drink. Sleepovers are intimate and cuddly for me. I once went to see a FWB who lived in the city, couldn't find parking so I double parked. We did our thing and I was like "well I gotta go, I'm double parked". Got up and left. The look on his face was priceless.

This is AWESOME!

I kind of felt like that after I went to the concert with V. We stayed at my hotel and even though we didn't seal the deal he was naked in bed. I'd literally gone to sleep 1/2 hour before I had to get up at the crack of dawn and make the six hour drive home. I couldn't wake him up to go (I sort of tried) so I just left him there. It felt kind of bad but kind of funny at the same time. He told me later he felt weird, like he was used or something-haha!

[naeljun]

Aug 27, 2012 11:43:56 GMT -5 starburst604 said:

Aug 27, 2012 11:33:40 GMT -5 naeljun said:

Aug 27, 2012 10:53:35 GMT -5 achase123 said:

In my case he meant it as I was an experience older woman but I can't get past the cougar name. He was genuinely sorry. I also couldn't get over the fact he wanted to sleepover. Get out of my bed.

I can totally relate to this! When I've had FWB situations where I truly want nothing more, I do NOT want to do sleepovers unless someone has had too much to drink. Sleepovers are intimate and cuddly for me. I once went to see a FWB who lived in the city, couldn't find parking so I double parked. We did our thing and I was like "well I gotta go, I'm double parked". Got up and left. The look on his face was priceless.

That is awesome! I'm not a cuddle person either.