DH and I have been fighting more then normal. He keeps doing shit that he knows will piss me off. He claims he doesn't know it will make me mad but I swear he's an idiot if he thinks he isn't doing anything.
Plus sometimes he says things without thinking. Like last night I was talking about how excited I am that soon we won't have to buy formula anymore since it is expensive. He replied "That's why breastfeeding is better." RAGE. SO MUCH RAGE. He did notice that and apologize. I know he meant cost wise but still. Sore subject.
I hate fighting with him. I also wish I could send him away for a bit. I've spent more time mad at him the past couple weeks than getting alone with him.
I need a girl's night with lots of drinking. No boys allowed.
DH and I have been fighting more then normal. He keeps doing shit that he knows will piss me off. He claims he doesn't know it will make me mad but I swear he's an idiot if he thinks he isn't doing anything.
Plus sometimes he says things without thinking. Like last night I was talking about how excited I am that soon we won't have to buy formula anymore since it is expensive. He replied "That's why breastfeeding is better." RAGE. SO MUCH RAGE. He did notice that and apologize. I know he meant cost wise but still. Sore subject.
I hate fighting with him. I also wish I could send him away for a bit. I've spent more time mad at him the past couple weeks than getting alone with him.
I need a girl's night with lots of drinking. No boys allowed.
Rage indeed Go get your self some booze and soak in a hot bath. Not to be bothered by ANY ONE!
bk1 Ohhhhhh UH UH......BF comments like that are not OK. He needs to simma down....
We told both of our families that we're keeping baby's name a secret until she is born. My spoiled SIL texts me again yesterday acting like she never heard that because she needs to get something monogrammed. I swear Southern women would rather spend $40 on a monogrammed item than $20 on something you actually NEED.
MrsMB - That's so frustrating! And you know she really wants to know so that she can be all smug about knowing and be the one to spill the beans to everyone else. We're on to you, MrsMB's SIL! lol.
bk1 omg. My H knows I would literally punch him if he said something like that. I make my own comments about how much I hate buying formula but coming from someone else is definitely rage inducing. Glad he realized his mistake!
MrsMB - That's so frustrating! And you know she really wants to know so that she can be all smug about knowing and be the one to spill the beans to everyone else. We're on to you, MrsMB 's SIL! lol.
YUP! She gets what she wants ALLLLLLL the time so this is making her crazy. Her Mom normally puts together this insane gift basket with all these monogrammed items. Because we're not releasing the name, she got us a gift card....which ironically for her, I LOVED because I used it to get our crib skirt. So WIN for me!!
estrellita I thought of you after it happened. I knew you would understand my rage.
MrsMB So true!! We were going to keep the name to ourselves but ended up telling people before the baby shower. I was 30 weeks at least before we told anyone. I wanted DH and me to decide and no outside influence. I never asked anyone what they thought of the name even after announcing it. NOT YOUR KID! DOESN'T MATTER WHAT YOU THINK!
bk1 PREACH!!!! We are using a middle name that isn't very traditional for a little girl, but she will be named after DH's oldest living relative. So, it's special and we don't want it floating around forever before she's born. PLUS, we don't want anyone's input. By the time they find out, it will be too late because it's already going to be on her birth certificate.
Post by wanderingenough on Dec 9, 2015 11:16:28 GMT -5
bk1 - oh no he didn't. i give you permission to punch him.
MrsMB- so funny. my BFF used the same excuse to get R's name. could you just give people her initials and tell them they can use that for monograms if they must? or just tell them all to get over it!
I just spent $17 to ship my secret Santa gift (and it still won't be there until next week!). Not a vent for my SS, but a vent about my crappy packing job. I thought I was saving money by using a box a diff gift had come in but I should have bought a smaller one at the post office.
MrsMB we didn't even pick E's name until he was born and that bugged the CRAP out of everyone, lol. Even if we had it picked I would have kept it secret. Reminds me of my mom bugging me after every appointment to find out the sex before we even knew so she could do something for the reveal. No, our child, we're doing this our way! People just can't stand not getting their way lol.
Post by HoneySpider on Dec 9, 2015 11:21:46 GMT -5
So DH is a part of a ticket manager group in the city and one of the people in it offered free tickets for the Nutcracker tonight. Sweet, because I've been wanting to go. The group is also doing a happy hour beforehand and it was specifically said that taking the free tickets and not going to HH would be a dick move. I get that. So while normally neither of us would be particularly interested in going to HH (this is not a group we really know) obviously we don't want to be dicks so we're going.
My vent is that I looked up the menu and the place is overpriced and doesn't appear to have any actual HH specials. WTF? Why would they choose this place for a group get together? We're already going to be cutting it close time-wise, even with DH leaving work a little early, so now I'm going to have to not only rush through my dinner, but apparently overpay for it. Not cool. We're definitely leaning toward just getting an appetizer or something else small and eating when we get home.
wanderingenough I told her "tough cookies".....(in a nicer way) and said something like, "Wish I could but I promised DH! Wink! wink!" She'll get over it
If our second is a girl I will be reversing the names we'd be using for a boy. The originally middle name can be a girl's name but the original first name cannot. It's for a relative who passed away and there's no way to feminize it. I hope we don't get a lot of weird looks. Sigh.
Our middle name is seriously going to throw people for VERY similar reasons.....so when people start giving us weird looks it will be too late....as it will already be on her birth certificate. We think it's rock star so they can just get over it.
My cent is that our less than one year old vacuum broke a few months ago. The new part finalllyyy arrived today. It didn't fix the issue. I just want really clean carpets from this expensive product. Not asking for much here...
bk1 sorry about your H. I swear they don't even remember what issues are triggers until it's too late. I hope you get out soon. I so wish we lived closer to hang out!
HoneySpider hopefully when you get there the specials as enlisted on the tables. I don't know of too many places in your area that don't have any specials. They might just be lousy.
wanderingenough I think shipping cost is based on weight not size, so it would probably have cost the same if you packed smaller. I hope I'm right because my boxes aren't very efficient.
Post by HoneySpider on Dec 9, 2015 12:38:06 GMT -5
amaranth Yeah I am hoping so....or maybe they are having the HH there because someone has an in and negotiated some deals or something. Other than being 2 blocks from the theater I don't see the appeal
I have tons of vents but they are mostly all about being mad at myself. Lol
My main vent is that I've been in sub a funk recently and it's been hard to get out of. Yesterday seemed to be a better day, but the end of the work day just killed me. Urg I think I put to much of my energy caring about everyone else and how they feel/are doing and I let them dictate how I'm doing. It's not a good thing. Urg.
bk1- ((hugs)) Not cool of your DH to say that Sorry you guys are having a rough time lately...it sucks when you are fighting all the time- DH and I definitely have our moments too and I hate it. Hope you can get some "me time" soon!
HoneySpider- hope there is an actual HH tonight...that's weird to pick a place for HH that doesn't really have a HH. I wouldn't be happy about that either.
MrsMB- ((hugs)) SIL can wait I also wouldn't worry about it...people can say whatever they want but it's YOUR daughter...their words mean nothing when it comes to this! I'm pretty sure MIL didn't approve of C's name (not sure why but for a long time she had a hard time remembering his name or being able to pronounce it...I think she wished his first name was after DH/DH's grandpa instead of using it as the middle name). Oh well...not your choice and we love his name!
I'm about 2 seconds from either hiding half my FB list or just staying off of it. It's seriously making me hate my family. They are all on the compete opposite end of the spectrum from me and posting things CONSTANTLY. It's mostly racist, ignorant crap and I can't take it anymore. I've decided to refrain from posting anything political anymore. I'm just sad at the way this county has gone. Everyone is so damn stubborn that no one can see any other way anymore and I just feel so much anger and hatred behind everything. I can't fucking deal with it anymore!
estrellita- one post that I don't like on FB makes me block people. (And I'm not talking about stuff that I just don't like I mean things that are so offensive that I just can't deal.)
I have another vent. I wish I knew what was wrong with me to make people not like me. I've been told before that I complain a lot but I really do try to keep it to a minimum. It's hard when that's the direction my brain goes all the time. I don't know if it's my anxiety/depression making me feel something that's not really there but there are lots of things that point to me not being totally crazy about this. I barely have any friends and I know it's partially my own fault with the walls I put up but damn it, I just want to feel like I matter to someone.
I debated writing that because I'm sure it's whiny and AW-ish but I don't care. I just need to figure this all out and get my life back.
@moonbeam that's pretty much all very similar to how I feel. All my "best friends" have better friends. Most of my friends have moved away. I try to make new friends but everyone around here has their close knit group and/or I have nothing in common with them. The people we hang out with here are mostly H's friends. I consider them friends too, but it's not like I'd hang out with them without H. I just feel lost and lonely. I miss college when there were always people around and things to do. I love H and E and spending time with them, but sometimes I just want friends to eat lunch with or meet up with after work for a drink or something. Maybe I'm too awkward. Or maybe I smell and I'm not aware of it, lol. Seriously though I wish someone would tell me but then again I'm overly sensitive so the honesty would probably kill me. Ugh. This isn't a life, this is torture.
Post by HoneySpider on Dec 9, 2015 16:13:51 GMT -5
estrellita There is nothing wrong with you (well IDK, maybe you do smell lol) I think friendship in adulthood is just HARD. So many of us in our generation are mobile, we don't necessarily live near friends we grew up with or went to college with. And people are so connected now through online means that they don't always seek out in-person connections as much. Making friends is something I've found very difficult in this city - everyone already seems to have their own group. We've moved a lot and had to find new friends a lot (which sucks) but usually there are some people we end up becoming friends with. Not here so far.
My coworker blew up during the last two minutes of class at both the students and my sub. I had just shown up to class when she was losing her cool. My sub who both of us teachers are friends with made a comment about how coworker had every right to be upset since the students were acting disrespectfully, and coworker then snapped at the sub. It involved basically a shut up to the adult AND to the kids before she stormed out of the classroom and then slammed the door. I so hate being in that class, solely because the coworker is psycho.
I think it's not even that I can't make friends, but that even the ones I have forget about me. I just don't exist in people's minds. I just feel worthless. I don't know what's worse, to have people hate me or to have people just flat out ignore my existence.
((estrellita)) Adult friendships are so hard. I'm so sorry you are feeling so lonely. I get it. I have my one BFF from college and the rest of my friends I met through my DH. My BFF lives a couple hours away so I don't get to see her often.
((estrellita)) I've lost most of my friends from high school, the only friends I really have right now are people that were friends with DH before I came along.