DS1 had a soccer practice rescheduled from 5 to 4 yesterday (as though 5 isn't hard enough for working parents). I called the other two working moms of kids on the team and offered to pick their kids up at school and take them to practice with us because I knew the logistics of a 4pm practice would suck for them. When I showed up at practice with three players, a member of the SAHM clique was like, "why are you always bringing Sean and Andrew to practices? I think their moms are just taking advantage of you." After I told her that it was no big deal and that I offered and feel strongly about moms helping each other out in these situations, she was all "well I am not very sympathetic. Everyone makes their choices." I am kind of sorry that I didn't respond, "exactly. Just like you apparently choose to be a catty bitch."
Screw those bitches. I probably would have been all "because the kids all wanted to go to the diner after practice and get milkshakes" and then have their kids be jealous.
OMG, this would make me rage. Are these the same SAHMs who talk about how it's a luxury and a privilege to be able to stay at home? Because that's a positional conflict if I've ever heard one! (somehow my lawyer insult doesn't translate too well into real life(wilted) )
This is ridiculous! Perhaps if practices weren't scheduled for 4 pm (a time when no working parent can get their child there), you wouldn't need to help these working moms. Are they supposed to choose for their kids not to be on a soccer team because they work?
A related pet peeve - not knowing the practice and game time when you register for a sports league. My 8 yo ended up with 5-6 basketball practice this year, which is next to impossible for us. Thank goodness there's a friend on his team with a mom who works part time so she can take them and we can do pick up.
We moved from the rec league to the competitive league this year and had to deal with this. We didn't get to pick the days, time or locations convenient for us. They claimed the grouped teams by location, but we ended up on a team with kids near us and kids who live an HOUR away! So to make it "fair" coach decided that instead of two weekly practices, we'd do FOUR (two near us and two near them). And even though we only NEED to go to two, we're strongly encouraged to go to all of them. Plus games on Fridays. That means we have basketball every.sngle.week day. It's fucked up.
Uh... you do know how babies are made, right? I thought after having success with fertility treatments, this comment would sting less, bit nope, still sucks.
Lol at getting rid of late slips. Like the PTA has that power. Nice one guys.
I avoid the drama on our PTA but it did take a while to break into it. Not because my help wasn't welcome but people get used to asking their close friends or neighbor for help and it ends up being the same small circle of moms doing all the work. We are really trying to break out of that this year. Not all my committee chairs are but I am doing my best to communicate how to help or what is going on via our FB page and newsletter.
DS1 had a soccer practice rescheduled from 5 to 4 yesterday (as though 5 isn't hard enough for working parents). I called the other two working moms of kids on the team and offered to pick their kids up at school and take them to practice with us because I knew the logistics of a 4pm practice would suck for them. When I showed up at practice with three players, a member of the SAHM clique was like, "why are you always bringing Sean and Andrew to practices? I think their moms are just taking advantage of you." After I told her that it was no big deal and that I offered and feel strongly about moms helping each other out in these situations, she was all "well I am not very sympathetic. Everyone makes their choices." I am kind of sorry that I didn't respond, "exactly. Just like you apparently choose to be a catty bitch."
WTF?
I often pick up a boy in my hood who has a SAHM who uses a nanny during the day. I work FT. No comments are ever made to me.
The president of the Moms Club in my town tried making it "working mom friendly." However, all the events (except maybe once every couple of months) that are "working mom friendly" start at 4pm! She really tried hard to recruit me too... kept sending me invites and whatnot and every time I'd see her she'd tell me about this event and that event but again, none of them worked with my schedule.
I actually attempted to friend her on FB and she never friended me back (we have the same circle of friends in town). I feel like because I never joined her club that I'm not "good enough" to be friends with her!
So now whenever I see her I give her nothing more than a polite smile. I don't look down on SAHM's... she shouldn't look down on the Working Mom crowd either!
Also, about 9 months ago she cut her hair in a god awful style (it's worse than a "Mom cut"!!!!) so I kinda snicker to myself when I see her. See, there's a little mean girl in this Working Mom too ;-)
Well, bless your fucking heart! Some of these are HORRID!!
When people make stupid comments to me about being a working woman, I just tell myself that they have no idea how much damn money I make. I also tell myself that they are just insecure and trying to make themselves feel better about their life choices. And then I feel sorry for their children.
Well, bless your fucking heart! Some of these are HORRID!!
When people make stupid comments to me about being a working woman, I just tell myself that they have no idea how much damn money I make. I also tell myself that they are just insecure and trying to make themselves feel better about their life choices. And then I feel sorry for their children.
LOL. I <3 you, SJ.
Did you read Penelope Trunk's latest blog entry about SAHM, ENTJs and working? I really related to it- I think you ESTJ may too.
Well, bless your fucking heart! Some of these are HORRID!!
When people make stupid comments to me about being a working woman, I just tell myself that they have no idea how much damn money I make. I also tell myself that they are just insecure and trying to make themselves feel better about their life choices. And then I feel sorry for their children.
LOL. I <3 you, SJ.
Did you read Penelope Trunk's latest blog entry about SAHM, ENTJs and working? I really related to it- I think you ESTJ may too.
The ENTJs are solely focused on earning money. They have plans, they know their limits, they are realistic but always thinking big. One of the most common questions I get is, “I want a great career. How can I be more like an ENTJ?” .......
I once heard an ENTP ask a new boss, the CEO, “Do you know your personality type?”
And the boss said, “Yeah. And I am the only type that makes a good CEO.”
The result of the smugness of ENTJs is that ENTJs have nothing to talk about. They are great at managing a career and they attract mentors easily because who doesn’t want to mentor a rising star? All the rich, powerful mentors are ENTJs looking for younger, upstart ENTJs. And sure, ENTJs don’t spend a lot of time dwelling on the emotions of their personal lives, but it’s okay because they are masters of management when it comes to their personal lives: their kids get the best education, sex is on schedule, and household help is always top-flight.
In the ENTJ course (like in every course) I talked about how life becomes more interesting if you understand yourself better and when you understand how people around you react to you and why.
The ENTJs did not care, which made me miss the ENFPs and the INFPs.
.....
Here’s a tip to anyone who wants to get the attention of an ENTJ: tell them what to delegate next and who to hire to take on that work.
....
Melissa runs a recruiting agency. She recruits by type, and she is always stunned by how amazing the ENTJ candidates are. She tells me about them, and then I have ENTJ remorse. Because I’m an ENTJ but clearly I’m a bad egg. The twentysomething ENTJs always have perfect resumes, stellar references, and the self-confidence most people don’t get until they’re 70 years old.
....
ENTJs don’t have secrets because they don’t care. About anything. That’s what you need to do to have a career that’s like an ENTJ’s.
DS1 had a soccer practice rescheduled from 5 to 4 yesterday (as though 5 isn't hard enough for working parents). I called the other two working moms of kids on the team and offered to pick their kids up at school and take them to practice with us because I knew the logistics of a 4pm practice would suck for them. When I showed up at practice with three players, a member of the SAHM clique was like, "why are you always bringing Sean and Andrew to practices? I think their moms are just taking advantage of you." After I told her that it was no big deal and that I offered and feel strongly about moms helping each other out in these situations, she was all "well I am not very sympathetic. Everyone makes their choices." I am kind of sorry that I didn't respond, "exactly. Just like you apparently choose to be a catty bitch."
What the hell? I seriously live in a nice people bubble. I never hear people say stuff like that.
The ENTJs are solely focused on earning money. They have plans, they know their limits, they are realistic but always thinking big. One of the most common questions I get is, “I want a great career. How can I be more like an ENTJ?” .......
I once heard an ENTP ask a new boss, the CEO, “Do you know your personality type?”
And the boss said, “Yeah. And I am the only type that makes a good CEO.”
The result of the smugness of ENTJs is that ENTJs have nothing to talk about. They are great at managing a career and they attract mentors easily because who doesn’t want to mentor a rising star? All the rich, powerful mentors are ENTJs looking for younger, upstart ENTJs. And sure, ENTJs don’t spend a lot of time dwelling on the emotions of their personal lives, but it’s okay because they are masters of management when it comes to their personal lives: their kids get the best education, sex is on schedule, and household help is always top-flight.
In the ENTJ course (like in every course) I talked about how life becomes more interesting if you understand yourself better and when you understand how people around you react to you and why.
The ENTJs did not care, which made me miss the ENFPs and the INFPs.
.....
Here’s a tip to anyone who wants to get the attention of an ENTJ: tell them what to delegate next and who to hire to take on that work.
....
Melissa runs a recruiting agency. She recruits by type, and she is always stunned by how amazing the ENTJ candidates are. She tells me about them, and then I have ENTJ remorse. Because I’m an ENTJ but clearly I’m a bad egg. The twentysomething ENTJs always have perfect resumes, stellar references, and the self-confidence most people don’t get until they’re 70 years old.
....
ENTJs don’t have secrets because they don’t care. About anything. That’s what you need to do to have a career that’s like an ENTJ’s.
h has made me feel really self conscious now that I leave my younger kid at home with a nanny/sitter while I take DD to gymnastics in the evening.
Oh, no! I think everyone should use sitters liberally to make their lives easier. I have zero issue with using sitters for younger kids during older kids activities and have done it myself plenty of times. I was just trying to convey that this was a rich bitch for whom 4pm practices are logistically easy judging those for whom they are not. And let's face it, she's BEC for me. I would not think twice about it if someone I actually liked used a sitter every time she had to pee.
cjeanette I only went to the PtA meeting because of you. It was not as cool as you make it seem. Lol. I might go again when they have it in the morning.
cjeanette I only went to the PtA meeting because of you. It was not as cool as you make it seem. Lol. I might go again when they have it in the morning.
I went to a lot of meetings before I really got involved. Recall my oldest is a 5th grader. It takes time.