Post by SallySparrow on Dec 12, 2015 17:06:32 GMT -5
There's backstory that I'm too tired to recap. Short version: MIL has been a crazy, hateful person for the last year or so, to me, H, and SIL. We had H's big family Christmas today. MIL cornered me when I was alone outside with A and went off on me, in front of my two year old about how all our issues are my fault and how dare I not forgive her for the things she's said in the past (mind you, she's never apologized for any of it) and how I'm a bad person because I can't just get over it and realize that she "is who she is" and when she's mad she says mean things. And she "isn't going to change", so we're going to have to deal with it.
I picked A up and started walking away from her, because no way in Hell am I letting you engage me in a fight in front of my kid. And she starts SCREAMING at me across the lawn that I'm the one with the problem and I'm the cause of all her problems with H. H came outside so I handed A to him and asked him to go get her stuff. He took her inside and I turned around and told MIL that my only problem is that I was stuck with her for a MIL and that she's a psychotic bitch. I would like to say I feel sorry about that. But I don't. Even if that makes me an asshole. Then I told her if she ever spoke to me like that in front of my child again, she wouldn't be seeing her anymore.
H backed me up and told her that he's done. So...clearly I need to see my therapist next week. Because I'm not dealing with this well.
WTF is wrong with her? I mean, seriously. Normal people do not act like this. And the whole time we were putting A in the car, she's standing in the middle of the yard, crying hysterically that she didn't do anything and we just don't love her. I need to up my medication for this shit.
Oh SallySparrow I'm so sorry you have to deal with her. I'm not surprised you cracked and gave her a small piece of your mind and I think you were totally right to do so.
I love the "this is who I am. You have to deal with it" argument because it actually goes both ways. "YEah, it's who I am that I don't associate with assholes. So, deal with it.".
I'm sorry you have such a toxic person in your life. It's fucking hard.
Don't for a second feel any guilt over HER issues. They are hers alone. She gets off on feeling like a victim so just feel sorry for her from afar. You and your H handled it admirably.
Ugh she sucks. You handled it really well. Kudos to you for not going off on her in front of A. I'm not sure I could have mustered such self restraint.
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Post by ilikedonuts on Dec 12, 2015 20:17:10 GMT -5
I'm sorry
Honestly your daughter should never be around her until she's 100% proven she's changed. She's had plenty of chances. It's not fair to your kid to have to be around that.
I'm really sorry, that's terrible. Is H any closer to wanting to cut contact?
Yeah, I think this pretty much did it. Thankfully. Because I can't handle it anymore. I let it go on way longer than I would have with anyone else, because I knew it was hard for him.
Wow, I'm so sorry that you have to deal with that. I have my own MIL drama but it's much more of the passive aggressive variety. Honestly, good for you for standing up for yourself. How shitty of her to do that in front of a child.
You are nothing but kind. I would not have been able to stand for that shit as long as you have. Good riddance to bad rubbish.
I'm so sorry she was (is) so dreadful to you. In a way, it's almost a shame your DD isn't old enough to remember this incident, so she can know for herself that her grandmother is a horrible person. As it stands, I am sorry she had to be in the middle of it, and possibly feel scared or confused, being so young still.