At what age does bribing work?

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DD is 2 and 3/4 and we bribe easily. Sounds bad because it feels like second nature now so I would guess we have been doing it for months.

[momin2013]

Yeah, we've been bribing DS with dessert if he eats his dinner since he was about 2ish. Works like a charm!

[Deleted]

First of all, it's a reward not a bribe if you pay after performance. Bribes come before performance, and they don't work well with children.

We offered a candy if he stayed in his room all night/didn't wake us. I think we started around 3. It kind of worked.

[namasteak]

Ds1 is 23 months and I've been able to bribe him for a few months now. It doesn't work all the time and it only works with food.

[sookie]

Depends on what the bribe is about, but so far we've had some success with it at just past 2. The bribe mostly works with watching Minnie Mouse or getting a piece of her advent chocolate, neither of which will probably work for staying in bed.

[mandapanda18]

I have been negotiating with C for about 6 months, you will get X if you do Y.

It works!

[NandaB]

Well I got my 2.5 yr old to wear a dress for picture day with a package of fruit snacks. So 2?

[NandaB]

Dec 15, 2015 12:40:53 GMT -5 @tooshort said:

At 1.5 the ok to wake clock was all that was needed to get DD to stay in bed. By 2.5 I was promising mini marshmallows for staying in bed. It worked well.

Parenting has been rough lately. I'm one step away from wearing one of those little aprons that dog trainers and preschool teachers wear and stuffing out full of mini marshmallows.

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Dec 15, 2015 12:44:58 GMT -5 NandaB said:

Dec 15, 2015 12:40:53 GMT -5 @tooshort said:

At 1.5 the ok to wake clock was all that was needed to get DD to stay in bed. By 2.5 I was promising mini marshmallows for staying in bed. It worked well.

Parenting has been rough lately. I'm one step away from wearing one of those little aprons that dog trainers and preschool teachers wear and stuffing out full of mini marshmallows.

Do you think I could transition to clicker training after the behaviour improves?

[niq]

Starting a little after 2, we have had modest success rewarding eating dinner with sweet things.

I use screen time to keep the peace in dodge during diaper changes, but that's not really a bribe/reward.

[NandaB]

Dec 15, 2015 12:57:50 GMT -5 @tokenhoser said:

Dec 15, 2015 12:44:58 GMT -5 NandaB said:

Parenting has been rough lately. I'm one step away from wearing one of those little aprons that dog trainers and preschool teachers wear and stuffing out full of mini marshmallows.

Do you think I could transition to clicker training after the behaviour improves?

I mean I would like to think my kids are at least as smart as the dogs, so yes?

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Dec 15, 2015 13:00:33 GMT -5 @starry said:

Around 2.5 for us. We use this tactic way too often. She's already a great negotiator.

Inflation is a problem.

Although a tic tac still gets me car seat compliance. 

Overnight stuff is hard, because it takes more willpower to resist getting out of bed to torture me. 

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I started rewarding (sounds much better than bribing, thanks @tokenhoser!) around age 3. I reward for lots of stuff frankly.

While PTing: 1 m&m for pee, 3 for poop. At almost age 4, I'm still trying to get him on the big toilet with promises of mini Reese's PB cups. No dice.

If he STTN: gets TV at wake up & his choice of snack (usually something unhealthy like a mini muffin).

If he goes right to sleep at nap time (i.e., doesn't call me in while I'm putting DD down) and takes a long nap (i.e., doesn't pop back awake in 30 mins): he gets TV at wake up & his choice of snack (usually chooses fruit snacks).