Vent...this is driving me crazy.

[textbookcase]

3 of my nephews (brothers) have December birthdays. BIL and SIL don't typically have big bday parties for them. We usually have cake and sing happy birthday to them on Christmas Eve, which is one of their birthdays. Last week I got a FB invite for a birthday party for the youngest like 3 days before the party. I was kind of irked at the short notice, but we were able to make it. Nephew #2's birthday is tomorrow, and I just got a FB invite to the party. Today. One day before the party. I have something else going on but now I feel like I have to cancel the first thing because of familial obligation. I am seriously annoyed at this point. I'm sure I'll get a FB invite for nephew #3's birthday party next week some time. ARGH! And then they literally never have a party for my niece, whose birthday is in Feb. AND THEY ARE PREGNANT W #5. Thankfully the new one will be born in June and not December.

/vent.

[looseseal]

I understand your frustration- my older sister can't seem to plan anything more than a few days in advance. For instance, my mom texted me today that she wants to have our Christmas exchange this Friday. Typical.

At least this year your nephews won't have to share their birthdays with Christmas?

[textbookcase]

Dec 16, 2015 21:09:42 GMT -5 @fkasmace said:

I wouldn't cancel my plans. Their problem for shitty planning. A breezy "oh, gosh due to the short notice we can't go. Have a great time!" and send a nice present.

Yeah, that's what I was going to do. But then I feel bad because they come to all of our birthday parties. But I send the invitations out at the proper time!

[elleblue]

Don't feel bad. Their last minute invite is the problem here. Just send your regrets - and if you're feeling particularly irked, maybe include a note about how you are looking forward to seeing everyone at their daughter's birthday party in February, lol.

[lilafowler]

:-(
They're kind of jerks for not thinking/planning ahead. This is a tough time of year for birthdays (I know because my birthday is December 28 and my youngest brothers' is December 19).

[textbookcase]

Dec 16, 2015 21:29:17 GMT -5 lilafowler said:

They're kind of jerks for not thinking/planning ahead. This is a tough time of year for birthdays (I know because my birthday is December 28 and my youngest brothers' is December 19).

I know, I totally feel for the boys! Their bdays are on the 5th, 17th, and 24th. It's tough! It sucks because it's such a busy time of year anyhow, but if I had known about a party a few weeks ago I would have been able to plan accordingly. I hate the last minute invite!

[icedcoffee]

Don't rearrange your schedule. You will set a bad precedent.  Send a gift and be done with it.

[hisno1girl]

My SIL also does this. One day we got a call at 7 pm inviting us to her daughter's confirmation the next day. When we got there she grabbed DH and asked us to be godparents.

We have missed a lot of birthday parties because of her last minute invites but I won't cancel plans because she waited until the last minute to invite us. She doesn't plan at the last minute, she just waits until the last second to actually invite us.

[isabel]

Why is she planning their parties so late??