I have all these feelings... (family drama)

[bk1]

I hate all of this.

[Deleted]

((bk1)) So many hugs. It must be very hard to process all those feelings right now.

[amaranth]

I'm so sorry I wish it was as easy as him changing, but family relationships and addiction are never that simple. *hugs*.

Maybe he will reach out to you, but be respectful of your need for space. That sounds like something you could handle. Enjoy Christmas with the people who do love you and G, and have been there for you. My dad grew up in a very similar situation to what you described and it was hard watching him go through it every holiday, but it made him a better person and a better father. I'm sure the same is true of you as a mother <3

[MrsMB]

((bk1)) It's so understandable to have some intense feels on this.....

[Skyesthelimit1212]

I'm sorry you are going through this, family is never easy esp at the holidays.

My relationship fell off w/my sister years ago, I've reached out a several times and received nothing back, it hurts, but I have to remind myself the ball is no longer in my court, but if or when she's ready to reach out I'll be there.

[luv2rn4fun]

So many ((hugs)) friend. I'm sorry you are struggling with this and hope/pray it goes in a way that is healthiest for you, your DH, and G. Family relationships suck sometimes and it's really hard...all your feelings are normal though.

[awick14]

((Hugs)) I am so sorry friend. That's a hard situation.

I also wanted to add that I got your card today in the mail and I love it. Your family is so cute!

[HoneySpider]

I'm so sorry, sending lots of love and good thoughts your way.

[travelbug]

I'm so sorry you have to go through this. Family drama is the worst. Just offering lots of hugs and support <3 if you ever need to talk let me know!

[mac08]

Big hugs bk1... Of course your feelings are complicated, it really is a no-win situation for you.  I am sorry you have to deal with such a rough situation.  I have no advice, other than having no expectations... Just send him the card if you want to and feel it's the right thing, but expect nothing in return. 

[spankswife]

I'm really sorry. That's hard.

I know when I had DD I had all these weird emotions and mild resentment to my parents, like how could they have done xyz with a child. It was like a whole other realm of anger/disappointment/confusion one I was actually a parent myself. As time has gone on that got better, and I appreciate things I never did before. I get your emotional roller coaster. I'm sorry you have to go through it.

[bk1]

Thanks guys. I really appreciate the love and support.

My DH is always awesome when it comes to this stuff. And I'm very lucky because my FIL went through a very similar past with his father and he really understands. Plus my FIL is the best dad I could ever ask for.  

[katespade]

(((HUGS))) I'm sorry that you're going through such a tough situation. It's great that you have such a wonderful support system with your H and FIL, though!

[wanderingenough]

(((bk1))) I'm sorry that you have to navigate this, especially around the holidays.

[pooh8402]

Ugh I'm so sorry you have to worry about all this drama. Family related drama is the worst. ((Hugs))