s/o Telling parents you're pregnant

[isabel]

Were your parents as excited about the second (third, fourth...) baby as they were about your first?

My friend is pregnant with her second and when I asked if her parents were excited, she said they acted a little indifferent and were just like, "oh, cool." I kind of think it's because her H sucks though.

I'll be really surprised if our parents aren't pretty darn excited when we have a second.

[papie]

Excited but not over the top. The first is more exciting for everyone, no?

[madringal]

I think my dad manages to get more excited with each grandkid that comes along between me and my sisters. He is like a giddy kid on Christmas when he finds out he is getting another grand baby.

My inlaws seemed really underwhelmed when we told them about baby #3, and it hurt my feelings. In their defense, my MIL was watching my kids 3 days a week at the time, so I could see how me having another baby for her to watch might not be the greatest (but she INSISTED on watching them and got really sad when i decided to SAH - so who knows).

Now that the baby is here, they seem appropriately excited about her.

[cinderbella]

I think both sides were equally excited for each of them although H's sister was flat out pissed when we told everyone we were having another girl.

She told H 'you shot out the wrong kind' and stormed off...... And this was on Mother's Day! Fucking weirdo.

[ProfessorArtNerd]

seven years passed between Lucy and David so everyone went wild again the second time. Now, if I were to announce another pregnancy...

[curtains]

I only had one but I think since she was the first there was a lot of nervousness involved. Now every time there is a new baby everyone is even more excited.

[lilybug]

Mine were much more excited about the initial announcement the second time.

My first was a very unexpected surprise while I was still in college. My second was planned - I'd graduated and had a good job.

So that's kind of a unique situation.

Only the first one got a baby shower. I'd say they were equally excited with both when visiting in the hospital, holding baby, etc.

[isabel]

Dec 23, 2015 22:00:43 GMT -5 cinderbella said:

I think both sides were equally excited for each of them although H's sister was flat out pissed when we told everyone we were having another girl.

She told H 'you shot out the wrong kind' and stormed off...... And this was on Mother's Day! Fucking weirdo.

Well that sounds awkward.

[themysteriouswife]

There is a 6 year difference between Myles and Curtis (my son we lost). Everyone was cautious on being excited. After Myles got here everyone is smitten and excited.

[ginap]

Dec 23, 2015 22:00:43 GMT -5 cinderbella said:

I think both sides were equally excited for each of them although H's sister was flat out pissed when we told everyone we were having another girl.

She told H 'you shot out the wrong kind' and stormed off...... And this was on Mother's Day! Fucking weirdo.

Wow.  She sounds klassy.  :?
My parents have been over the moon with each announcement. 

[ProfessorArtNerd]

Dec 23, 2015 22:07:12 GMT -5 @tambcat said:

Dec 23, 2015 22:03:00 GMT -5 ProfessorArtNerd said:

seven years passed between Lucy and David so everyone went wild again the second time. Now, if I were to announce another pregnancy...

Will you be announcing another pregnancy?

ETA that is supposed to be a big grin. It looks like a grimace on my phone. lol

A grimace would be appropriate haha. No ma's babies for me- unless it's a miraculous conception

[cinderbella]

Dec 23, 2015 22:08:57 GMT -5 isabel said:

Dec 23, 2015 22:00:43 GMT -5 cinderbella said:

I think both sides were equally excited for each of them although H's sister was flat out pissed when we told everyone we were having another girl.

She told H 'you shot out the wrong kind' and stormed off...... And this was on Mother's Day! Fucking weirdo.

Well that sounds awkward.

Uh, yeah. And his mom heard the whole thing. She's gross.

She wanted a boy because he would have been named after their late dad. But yet she has no kids of her own. Lol

[KKD]

Well, my oldest was the first grandchild on both sides, so that excitement is tough to beat, but I know our parents were still pretty excited about our second and third, even moreso when our third turned out to be the first boy.

My ILs are always hinting about a fourth (knowing I would love another) but my parents know firsthand how crazy and expensive four kids can be so I think they'd have some hesitations if I got pregnant again.

I know my mom was a bit concerned when my sister got pregnant with her second, but that was because her first was only 10 months at the time. Apparently only 2+ year spacing is acceptable. lol.

[Saudade]

For my first my mom said "why would you want to do that?"

For the second she said "don't tell me you're pregnant again."

Both were planned and wanted pregnancies.

[isabel]

Dec 23, 2015 22:27:57 GMT -5 Saudade said:

For my first my mom said "why would you want to do that?"

For the second she said "don't tell me you're pregnant again."

Both were planned and wanted pregnancies.

Is she always so lovely?

[jinkies]

My MIL was still very shocked and excited with our second. #1 kid was horribly colicky, and MIL really believed we'd never have another.

My mom, on the other hand, had guessed I was pregnant with #2 and already told our entire side of the family her suspicions before we announced. So it was pretty anticlimatic on that side. Everyone had already been told by my mom, so the reactions to our announcement were pretty much "oh, yeah... your mom told us that 2 months ago."

#stillbitter

[05heel]

both sets of parents will be over the top excited, just like they were the first time. They're all obsessed with grandchildren.

[tootsie]

There was very little excitement with my first, just a lot of tears and questioning. Our first was a surprise, and H (bf at the time) and I had been dating for a very short time. It would be hard to get a worse reaction.

So our second announcement has gone over much better this time around, lol.

[Saudade]

Dec 23, 2015 22:31:56 GMT -5 isabel said:

Dec 23, 2015 22:27:57 GMT -5 Saudade said:

For my first my mom said "why would you want to do that?"

For the second she said "don't tell me you're pregnant again."

Both were planned and wanted pregnancies.

Is she always so lovely?

pretty much. Narcissistic and passive aggressive.

[Deleted]

My mom was pretty happy about my sister's 2nd. She's fairly stoic in generally so she isn't EXCiTED about anything.

My MIL would be super excited if we have another. I think we'd have to have like 6 before she stopped being surprised and super excited.

[cabbagecabbage]

Since I told my mom yesterday, I can say she was just as excited.

Since we were one and done in our minds, it was unexpected. DD (3) actually told her. She cried happy tears.

[hisno1girl]

I have wept with joy at every announcement of an expected grandchild.

We have six now and I want more. I could have ten grandchildren and I'd still want more.

[revolution]

Our first: everyone over the top
Second: we told them the ale time we told them it was ectopic and I was having issues and we needed help
Third: everyone was hesitant. And my dad was going through chemo and radiation and just worried he wouldn't make it to see the baby. I missed m/c and then my dad passed away shortly after.
Fourth: everyone was cautiously excited. And we got DS.

[Elsa]

Everyone was really excited for us. Family also knew what we had been going thru, so I think that added to the excitement. It's been just as fun talking about M being a big sis

[Deleted]

No!
My mom was like "really? Oh. Cool"

[ciescalove]

My mom has never been excited.

Kid 1: she cursed me out
Kid 2: she called me fat
Kid 3: we told her in public hoping she wouldn't have another crazy reaction. She was basically "yea ok. Whatever"

[laceylaplante]

Kid 1: I was only 20 and had been dating DH for only 9 months. It was more of a "you'll get through this" type of situation for both our parents.
Kid 2: My mom said she was happy for us, but she was big time into her own life and we had just had a big fight that year, so there wasn't much excitement. ILs were overjoyed.
Kid 3: My mom was so happy (so much so I thought it was fake) and cried when we announced it was a girl. I think she's genuinely happy especially now that she loves DH when she didn't much care for him before. MIL is meh about this one and thinks we are crazy for having a third. SFIL is completely thrilled, but he just loves babies in general.