Anyone else have a kid that falls apart the next day?

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Soooo ds is THAT kid that pretty much does his best when he goes to bed on time 6:30-7ish. He wakes between 6-7 every morning. Naps are 1-2.5 hours.

Well, last night it was mil's bday so of course I was being flexible but damn, ds wasn't in bed until 9 by the time we got home. He woke up extra early this morning (ouch) and then was so thrashed, he was too tired to take his nap. Then he was totally naughty and tore up all day. It was like I lost my Sunday

Please tell me I'm not alone. The in laws already bag on us for an early bedtime (even though we are totally flexible for their stuff) but fucking a today was a long, tiring hot mess. I can't be the only one whose kid is a disaster the day after staying up late. Ugh. Just want to commiserate.

[Katiedid]

Not the only one! DD1 went to her first sleepover a few months ago. They stayed up a couple hours past her bedtime but she woke up at her normal time. She was a hot mess the entire next day! She hasn't been on another sleepover since then because she was so exhausted.

My kids need their schedules and routine to stay rested. It's hard sometimes to be flexible because of it.

[jcm]

You are not alone! DD used to be the same way. Even now it doesn't matter if she is up until 9 (rare) she is still up at the same time each morning (6:45am). When she still napped if we messed with bedtime or nap time it was a disaster! I know my mom & friends gave me the side eye several times when I said we needed to be home by such and such time for bedtime or nap time. Yes, it sucked but the alternative was an awful cranky naughty mess of a child THAT I had to deal with. DD's is 6 will be 7 in May & her bedtime is 7pm. She no longer acts like an asshole if she stays up a little late but I can tell by the end of the school week she's exhausted & she doesn't exactly sleep in on Saturday or Sunday to catch up. So there others out there :-)

[quesyrah]

Yes and that's the main reason we haven't traveled much since DS was born and why I'm a stickler about being home in time for bed. He is getting better but for a long time it was hell on earth if DS was up late

[Deleted]

Thanks you guys! My sil's kid is on a totally diff schedule-he goes to bed between 10-11 and wakes between 10-11 daily and he just takes 20-30 minute naps so I know she majorly eye rolls at my schedule when not with them! And then we always look lame because our kid is yawning at noon for a nap and hers is bright eyed and bushy tailed having just gotten up an hour ago.

Soooo glad (but sorry too lol) that my ds isn't the only kid to suffer from late night hang overs

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Mine are so nuts if they go to bed late. It always seems to mean they wake up too early (why?) and are on the verge of tears/tantrums all day.

And it's not even just staying up late, DS ran around at an indoor playground yesterday for 3 hours and has been tired and crabby all day today. Once they get into that overtired stage it's like they're completely different people.

I know lots of people make fun of moms that have schedules or aren't "breezy", but some kids just can't handle the change in routine.

[dizzycooks]

I'm wondering what's wrong with dd1 lately. So bratty and defiant. I don't know if it's 4yo or bad sleep, not enough sleep, up too early, needs a new bedtime, but it's not working. Of course she still sleeps at bedtime, generally through the night until 6:30 or so and takes a 1 1/2 -2 hr nap daily. I'm over the attitude. I do not like messing with our routine.

[penguingrrl]

That's how my 6 year old was. She has now mostly outgrown it as long as we don't keep her out multiple nights in a row. But for years we had to be drill sergeant strict with sleep habits or she would act out for days. Nobody understood, especially since my first was totally adaptable, so we seemed like antisocial weirdos for a while.

[quesyrah]

Jan 10, 2016 22:01:01 GMT -5 @leftie22 said:

Mine are so nuts if they go to bed late. It always seems to mean they wake up too early (why?) and are on the verge of tears/tantrums all day.

And it's not even just staying up late, DS ran around at an indoor playground yesterday for 3 hours and has been tired and crabby all day today. Once they get into that overtired stage it's like they're completely different people.

I know lots of people make fun of moms that have schedules or aren't "breezy", but some kids just can't handle the change in routine.

My kids are the same way. They wake up at 6 am regardless of what time they go to bed. So they go to bed early. If they're up late? They wake up at 5 am :/

[trizzie]

Not alone. DS (almost 8) is STILL like that!

[thecheshirekat]

My kids go to bed somewhere between 8-8:45, so it's very rare that I have them up past their bedtime. But I will let you know on Wednesday, because they are going to be going to bed at almost 10 by the time I pick them up from grandma's house after my evening plans wrap up. I have a feeling it is going to be a disaster.

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Jan 10, 2016 22:55:09 GMT -5 thecheshirekat said:

My kids go to bed somewhere between 8-8:45, so it's very rare that I have them up past their bedtime. But I will let you know on Wednesday, because they are going to be going to bed at almost 10 by the time I pick them up from grandma's house after my evening plans wrap up. I have a feeling it is going to be a disaster.

Crossing fingers for you that your kids just roll with it

[mamaalysson]

Not alone. My kid is a beast when her sleep is messed with. We're also finding that even if the sleep is there, if her routine is screwed with she struggles. Last week was just awful coming off of winter break, vacation, two snow days, and just not.enough.sleep. Fingers crossed that everyone struggling gets relief soon.

[abs]

DD is like this, too. She is an easy going dream child when she is well rested. If she's sleep deprived...LOL. It's not pretty. She is 5 and still goes to bed every night by 7:30. She can handle the occasional late night now with no issues but not multiple ones in a row. When we went to Disney in December she was up late for 5 nights (and not even that late--like 9 pm) and she was a mess by day 5.

The upside is she likes her early bedtime, too, and has never fought me on it. Then DH and I get quiet time every night. Win! I don't know how we will be able to maintain it once she's in K next year though.

[cjcouple]

Awww, you're not alone. My kids are flexible and can handle almost anything but it's nothing I did. Just lucky!

[Kcthepouchh8r]

My son does. He's very sensitive to lots of things--sleep, sugary foods, etc. It doesn't keep us from doing things post bedtime though. It's just a day and we usually try to keep the next day low key. If it were days of acting out I would probably minimize staying out.