Post by compassrose on Jan 17, 2016 11:44:30 GMT -5
I'm so sorry. Try to remember that his behavior no longer needs to matter to you. His douchiness is all on him. Divorce is so hard but you will get through it.
I'm sorry it's hard. It's normal to have a variety of emotions when going through a divorce. You will make it through this. Keep yourself busy, lean on us and friends and family for support. Being alone isn't the worst thing in the world..some people don't mind it at all and actually really like being alone for a time. Sometimes living alone for a bit is what you need to rediscover yourself.
I am sorry and big hugs. I am sure this seems so scary,but I think you will discover there is great power in being single for the right reasons than being with someone for all the wrong ones.
Lots of hugs and hair pats to you! Divorce is a very hard situation even if you are the one to initiate and you know it is for the best. Being alone is scary but it does get easier as time goes on. When people would tell me that while I was at my worst, it was hard to believe but it really is true.
I'm in the same boat. I left because of verbal and emotional abuse, for the last 18 months he's being manipulative in getting me back, but I heard that he jumped into a relationship after 1 week and it lasted 12 months...during which he continued to ask me back!
I'm still scared, but I will get there and so will you.
I'm so sorry that you're going through this. Don't let him guilt you into anything. He started all this, you just put an end to it. Things will get better. I think most or all of us divorced can attest to that.
(((tricky))) and (((all the others going through this stuff right now))).
He is doing this to hurt you, to get back at you because you asked for a divorce. He is being an ass. Never engage him. You'll just let him hurt you more. Only talk to him about divorce stuff (bills, house, etc.). If he tries to blame you or say hurtful things, end the conversation. Show him a cold, neutral front on your part. It will preserve you and will make the divorce process a little less painful.
Stay strong! A new and better life will come out of all this.
Post by jojoandleo on Jan 18, 2016 13:14:44 GMT -5
A- fuck him. You have the right to be mad as long as you want. Asking for a divorce doesn't make your emotions go away. If you want me to take out his car Carrie Underwood style, just let me know. Homeboy can learn about mad.
B-his dating is not about you. It is about him. He is a scared, insecure, little boy. So afraid of being alone that he needs to find validation in vagina. Which he won't find because that is not how you really get over shit. It is how you mask shit.
He is already talking to other women, cannot even wait until it is legally over.
I wish he would have showed one act of decency and waited until this was all just over but I don't know why I would have expected that. Considering his wandering wye is the reason this failed.
I cannot wait to get this shit filed and be done.
(Scared of being alone)
And I am so scared.
I am in the same boat rowing with you. H is now on his 2nd girlfriend and we still live together.... Hopefully I am moving out this weekend. Found about the first one a coworker in May. I filed in June and nothing is happening because we need to sell the house.