I spent this past 24 hours in the ER with my DD1. She tried to hurt herself (she tried last weekend but I intervened in time). This time, I couldn't ignore what was right smack in my face. We spent the night in the ER room in different units until she was put into the mental health unit late this morning. I concurred with her to sign herself in for up to 72 hours. I just left the hospital at 10:30 pm as she was transferred to a hospital that had a bed for her. I feel so many things - mostly heartache for her. Where did I mess up? Where did I miss things? I really believe this may be related to her being on lexapro, that dose being upped, then dropped, and her being put on adderall with no weaning, etc. I know this is what she needs - she is worried because of time missed from her emt class, her college starts this week, etc. I think, what would happen if next time she succeeded. I was hoping she could call me after she was transported - I have no experience in this and I know it's late. I am hoping I can see her tomorrow. She is in a hospital about 40 minutes from me. I just don't even know what to say to her bosses/teacher - which she will miss class and shifts from each in the next few days. Her health comes first, but I want her to have a job next week. Sorry to be rambling - I have slept about 2 hours in the last 24 hours while sitting in a chair. Any good stories that this is what was needed to reset mental health care. I hope I did the right thing by encouraging her to sign.
I've been in your shoes. It breaks your heart. She's safe and in good hands right now. And as far as what to say to her, tell you love her and let her do the talking if she wants to.
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
I've been in your shoes. It breaks your heart. She's safe and in good hands right now. And as far as what to say to her, tell you love her and let her do the talking if she wants to.
My DH and I were just talking about how he was sad to go to bed without her here, but I said, she is safe. It hurts she isn't here, but I can't tell you how it would destroy me if some thing happened to her.
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
How long has she been at her job? If she's been there a year, she would be eligible for FMLA leave. They would have to hold her job for her in that case and she'd have 12 weeks.
I'm so sorry all of you are going through this. Lots of hugs.
Thank you. This is what I need. I am going to go lay down now. I am so tired its hard to fall asleep. I am hoping tomorrow will bring some clarity for me and definitely some comfort to DD1
I just wanted to add my hugs to the rest! Also, have you considered how wonderful it is that she is concerned about missing school and work? That she is still planning for a future? I know it feels terrible now, but I think that's really significant in a positive way! You did an awesome job tonight, mama. She's exactly where she needs to be
Hugs. You did the best thing for her and got her help. I would tell those who need to know she is dealing with a medical issue and you will send the notes that they need late.
Get some rest, I'm so sorry your family is going through this.
Post by mom2twoboys on Jan 17, 2016 7:56:55 GMT -5
You are an amazing mom for getting her help. She is going to be so much better off now getting the time to mentally get stable and rest. You absolutely did the right thing and she will be happy you did.
She may not be able to call. Ime they take cell phones and limit access to a landline. But go visit. It can be incredibly lonely in the hospital. A visit means everything
You are a great mom for supporting dd and the encouraging her be safe and get the support and help sh needs. Let school and work know it's a medical concern and after a couple days she can decide what she wants to share.
For the practical--you don't need to tell boss and school specifics. You need to tell them she is in the hospital and will be out for a totally undetermined time at this point. Is she in college? I would ask the university where their drop dates are to get a full and partial refund. You may need to let the individual professors know she's ill.
I would get a note from one of her physicians saying she is hospitalized. Send that to both work and school. It can be very vague.
Post by cabbagecabbage on Jan 17, 2016 10:10:35 GMT -5
I am so sorry. I'm glad your daughter is being helped. The most important thing is her health and safety and she's where she needs to be now. The rest will unfold as it needs. I agree that you shouldn't divulge medical information to her school or employer. The hospital or facility may be able to help you notify or at least direct you how to notify. This must be a common issue for their patients.
I'm so sorry your baby is suffering. That's a mom nightmare.
Post by yourmother on Jan 17, 2016 10:25:48 GMT -5
Sending all the hugs in the world. You did the best thing you could have for her. She's in good hands and will hopefully get the proper treatment to move forward from this.
I've been in your shoes and I know it can feel isolating. Please reach out to those closest to you that can truly support you.