I'm so sorry. I have former boss who would elicit this reaction in me and I can imagine exactly how you feel. It would be hard for me to not quit. I would literally rather scrub toilets than ever work with or for that guy again.
I'm so sorry. I hope you can find another job soon. I had a direct report that worked with me years ago and she still shows up in my dream occasionally, playing the role of the villain, of course.
When does he start? Now is the time to get your ducks in a row and start looking hard for a new job. I know how awful you must feel because I've been there, but the good news is that you have some time to start figuring things out. I hope you have an easy time finding something else, but I'm really sorry you've been put in this position.
Ugh, I've been there. She made my life a living hell and the anxiety was off the charts. I'm so sorry you are dealing with this and I hope things turnaround so you don't have to deal with him or interact at all.
So I'm just going to put this out there. I butted heads with a supervisor in my old position/department, it was more like Mortal Kombat really and then my boss was transferred and I got a new boss.
Do you see where this is headed?
She ended up being an amazing boss and she got me into my new position/department and we still chat regularly.
Point is, maybe in a different environment you two might come to a mutual understanding, especially if you enjoy what you do right now. I never imagined I would actually end up liking and respecting that woman as terrible as our interactions were before she became my boss.
When does he start? Now is the time to get your ducks in a row and start looking hard for a new job. I know how awful you must feel because I've been there, but the good news is that you have some time to start figuring things out. I hope you have an easy time finding something else, but I'm really sorry you've been put in this position.
I don't remember the exact date of when he starts. When I was being told, I just started to freak out. I know it's going to be in February.
That's awful, I'm sorry. I have two people I worked for that I would react to the same way if I had to deal with them again. I'm so sorry. Are you going home?
No. I decided to stay. Since I took yesterday off, I have to catch up on some things. I think I might just take a long lunch today.
Ugh, I am so sorry you are feeling this way. I think going to go see a therapist is a good idea. You have many irons in the fire right now with trying to find another job. Maybe quitting so you can look full time wouldn't be a bad thing. Although I think you should put in your two weeks and leave before he starts so you don't burn any bridges. The field you work in is very small and everyone knows everyone so you need to tread carefully here.
Nearly the same thing happened to me last year, but he ended up being my director (getting the job I'd applied for). I eventually was able to move to a new department on a different floor, but I still tense up every time I see him.
So I'm just going to put this out there. I butted heads with a supervisor in my old position/department, it was more like Mortal Kombat really and then my boss was transferred and I got a new boss.
Do you see where this is headed?
She ended up being an amazing boss and she got me into my new position/department and we still chat regularly.
Point is, maybe in a different environment you two might come to a mutual understanding, especially if you enjoy what you do right now. I never imagined I would actually end up liking and respecting that woman as terrible as our interactions were before she became my boss.
That's awful. I've been there. My nemesis got promoted to supervisor. At one point she got transferred and ended up being my supervisor. I stayed crying in my office when that memo came out. BUT, she ended up being very hands off when it came to me and just left me alone. So I hope that the same will be true for you, especially if he won't be involved with your group.
My DH recently went through this. When they were interviewing the guy that my DH didn't like, DH even told his boss he'd probably have to leave if guy got hired. Luckily for my DH, this guy isn't his direct boss and is being hands off. (Completely different than he was before). I hope you have the same experience.