S/O Birthdays

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Do you have a big celebration for your/your partner's birthday? Cake, party, presents?

It's DH's birthday tomorrow, but with him being between jobs it's going to be really, really low-key. I don't usually make a huge fuss, but I feel bad that we can't afford to do a decent present. I just picked him up a couple of small things, and DS and I will make him a cake tomorrow.

What do you usually do for grown-up birthdays?

[quesyrah]

Typically we'll do lunch with our parents (they still give presents!) and then we try to do a lunch date at some point.

This year is DH's 40th (next month) and we had really fun plans but I think we are going to have to cancel and I know he is so bummed

[cabbagecabbage]

Not a full party. My birthday was last week. I got a cake, a present, a card, and roses. That's perfect for me.

[gastro]

Since kids - Always make a cake and a small thoughtful present from DS. Usually a steak dinner and a dozen of his favorite wines from me.

Before kids - went out with friends for dinner and drinking.

Once the kids are a little older I think I would like to have a big afternoon bbq to celebrate SO's birthdays.

For me I love to go out for dinner with friends and family on my birthday. It doesn't have to be fancy just good food and lots of laughs.

Edit: you always must blow out a candle on your birthday - even if it's on a mini cupcake!

[lexus]

We do a family dinner with our immediate families. I wish we had done a 30th for dh two years ago but I was pregnant and working full time with no energy for anything else. Maybe for his 40th we could do something big. The party we went to tonight was a 40th. It was huge with a keg, stocked liquor bar, tons of food. We can't afford to go all out like that often.

[auroraloo]

Out with friends. I love birthdays, love them and I think people who don't celebrate them are haters.

[momin2013]

Nope, not for me or for him. We "might" go out for dinner or something if it falls on a weekend, but not a fancy dinner with drinks or anything, most likely just, like, our usuals of McDonald's or pizza.

I turn 40 next month and we don't have anything special planned. I sometimes go for a spa treatment or two on my birthday, though, so I might do that this year.

[abs]

We do something big for milestone birthdays. We went to Vegas for my 30th, DH had a party at a restaurant for his 40th, and I'm already planning a trip for my 40th in 2 years.

Otherwise we go to a nice dinner sometime around our birthdays. I also usually go shopping with my mom.

[cjcouple]

No big celebration. Usually just a yummy dinner with just our kids. Sometimes we might grab a small cake from a bakery or I love ice cream cake but again, from grocery store. One year I baked one for DH and the had boys decorate it.

It changes year to year. This year I did get a surprise party after we got home from dinner but it was my 40th.

Presents are usually small.

[jag01]

I usually get him something, make his favourite supper, cake, and his buddies usually come over for a couple beers. If it falls on a day that he is off, he'd probably golf or do something else that he enjoys.

[ashb62]

Jan 24, 2016 0:57:52 GMT -5 lexus said:

We do a family dinner with our immediate families. I wish we had done a 30th for dh two years ago but I was pregnant and working full time with no energy for anything else. Maybe for his 40th we could do something big. The party we went to tonight was a 40th. It was huge with a keg, stocked liquor bar, tons of food. We can't afford to go all out like that often.

I can relate. I wanted to do a big surprise party for DH's 30th, but I was also pregnant and we were buying a house a preparing to move, so it didn't happen. I'm hoping to do something fun for his 40th. Thankfully, I have 8 years to plan!

OP, I usually make a cake or cupcakes and we go out to eat with family.

[nicolewi]

Nothing big usually b/c all of our birthdays are very close together, and the kids get all the energy but into THEIR bdays! Also, DH's bday is often close to Superbowl and our niece's bday. This year, we're going to her 3rd bday party on his bday.

DD1's was yesterday, mine is this week and DH's is 2/6. We usually try to get a sitter and go out to dinner when we can fit it in around the date, and usually a gift but it could be big or small--whatever works that year. Always cake or some kind of dessert with a candle. I am excited b/c this year I bought myself a scooter (while Christmas shopping) for DH to "give" me, so that I can scooter around with the kids in summer!

Before we got married, we had some big parties with friends. For my 30th, we did a getaway to Cozumel (we were still just dating). I thought I'd do similar at 40, but we had a newborn!

[lovebeingmama]

Since kids, nothing big. Our birthdays are close together so we celebrate them at the same time. Sometimes we will do dinner with friends, but nothing elaborate.

[Kcthepouchh8r]

We are not big birthday celebrators even for milestone birthdays. I hate being the center of attention--I eloped because of this and was mortified at my 50 person baby shower. My dh is the same way. On my bday I like a good meal (whether home cooked or out) and yummy dessert. On the weekend I like going out with a few close friends for drinks where I don't have to drive. Lol.

[jnksmom]

We usually just have lunch or dinner with our immediate families for both of our birthdays and then I also have dinner with friends the weekend before or after mine. STBXH has never been very social and hates crowds, groups, parties, etc.

[Deleted]

This makes me feel better. We'll have a nice supper, cake and small presents. I think it's more my guilt that I didn't get him a very thoughtful gift. Usually I'm on the ball and order something off etsy with enough time for it to get here, but this year I was just exhausted after Christmas/DS's birthday, then my sister moved out Jan 1st, and then DH got fired. It's been a hectic month!

I do think it would be awesome to do something a little more elaborate for our 40th birthdays. I've got 2 years to plan for me and 4 years for DH.

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Jan 24, 2016 11:02:03 GMT -5 Kcthepouchh8r said:

We are not big birthday celebrators even for milestone birthdays. I hate being the center of attention--I eloped because of this and was mortified at my 50 person baby shower. My dh is the same way. On my bday I like a good meal (whether home cooked or out) and yummy dessert. On the weekend I like going out with a few close friends for drinks where I don't have to drive. Lol.

Oh man, i wish I could have gotten away with eloping! It's funny because my H is actually the one who loves attention and ceremony, and he wanted a huge, elaborate wedding, which I just wanted to drop into the earth and come out when it was over. We met halfway and had a small wedding, but I couldn't wait until it was over. I would much rather have spent the money on anything else. Where did you elope to? Did you actually leave town to get married, or just run secretly to the JP?

I guess this is why I'm feeling like DH might be disappointed, because celebrations are more important to him in general.

[chatterbox]

We used to celebrate by going out with friends, but since DD was born we haven't done much. We do usually get each other a nice gift though.

DH turns 40 this year, so I want to have some sort of party for him. DS will be about a month old though so I'm sure it won't be too elaborate.

[cna]

The last few years have just been like "oh yay, it's my birthday" and then business as usual. This year I will officially be closer to 40 than 30 so it's just whatevs.

[Kcthepouchh8r]

Jan 24, 2016 11:46:05 GMT -5 @leftie22 said:

Jan 24, 2016 11:02:03 GMT -5 Kcthepouchh8r said:

We are not big birthday celebrators even for milestone birthdays. I hate being the center of attention--I eloped because of this and was mortified at my 50 person baby shower. My dh is the same way. On my bday I like a good meal (whether home cooked or out) and yummy dessert. On the weekend I like going out with a few close friends for drinks where I don't have to drive. Lol.

Oh man, i wish I could have gotten away with eloping! It's funny because my H is actually the one who loves attention and ceremony, and he wanted a huge, elaborate wedding, which I just wanted to drop into the earth and come out when it was over. We met halfway and had a small wedding, but I couldn't wait until it was over. I would much rather have spent the money on anything else. Where did you elope to? Did you actually leave town to get married, or just run secretly to the JP?

I guess this is why I'm feeling like DH might be disappointed, because celebrations are more important to him in general.

We left town and got married with our toes in the sand. I did have to do some coaxing as dh did want a wedding albeit small. It wasn't a challenge though.

I hope he still had a good birthday regardless!