Post by dizzycooks on Jan 26, 2016 11:54:40 GMT -5
V: I went outside to start my car and take the girls out for the day while they work on my bathroom. Car doesn't start. For now I have no car until dh comes home and jumps me tonight. The kids are climbing the walls and my patience is gone, gone, gone. Aw: nothing. My house is dirty and I'm crabby. R: see above. Why the f won't my car start??
R: I"m eating a salad. AW: My student council is planning a kick-ass spirit week in 2 weeks. It's going to blow minds. V: I have an observation today and my boss DIDN'T SHOW UP.
Sorry dizzycooks. I hate the feeling of not being able to leave the house. Somehow it makes the day feel so much longer, even if I wasn't planning on going anywhere anyway! Might be a good time to explore some TV shows?
V: My vent is at myself. I lost my temper at DS yesterday right before bed and I just feel like crap for it. He was having a huge tantrum, including screaming, flailing, scratching, you name it. After 10 minutes of this, I completely lost my cool and scary-mom yelled at him. He didn't seem to phased, and we had an okay bath/bedtime right after, but I just feel awful! I hate when I get that mad, I just feel like a ragey monster.
AW: I don't know if this is really an AW, but I'm meeting with a student advisor today and find out more about taking an online course. It's pretty cheap, and I'd come out of it with better credentials for the terrible job market in my town. (I have a social sciences Masters, but nobody needs that here.) I think I could do it on weekends and be done by the time DS is in kindy. It's just little, but even having the prospect of doing something other than childcare is giving me a boost. I'm staying home out of necessity right now, but I really don't think I'm cut out for it!
Post by dizzycooks on Jan 26, 2016 12:44:40 GMT -5
@leftie22 my kids will not watch tv. We haven't trained them well enough in that department. I'm almost that mad today. There is serious potential for scary movie mommy atm. I haven't even had a cup of coffee bc we ran out of milk. I'm sorry you had that moment last night. Kids are resilient and we are only human.
Yup, someone said that to me this morning in a Starbucks full of people and in front of my two kids.
Ugh, I keep hearing it in my ears and tear up.
So here's what happened: I was in the Starbucks parking lot - there's a few other businesses so it's not a small lot with a few places to go in and out of. I come to an intersection in the lot and it looks as if this car is letting me go first (we made eye contact). Obviously, I was wrong as I make the turn and instantly the car zooms around me super fast and driver gives me the finger. Ok, sorry my bad. I was a little frazzled but whatever it happens.
So I go into the Starbucks with my ds1 and baby and I mobile order so I just go to pick up. From the people waiting line this woman (from the car) says in a loud voice "you are a bad mom". I ignore, because wtf. But she keeps saying it so I calmly say I'm sorry I didn't mean to cut you off I thought you were letting me go. She continues about how I put my kids life in danger etc. everyone is staring and my son is like, is she talking to you?
The lady was with someone else who kind of gave me this "I'm sorry" look but the whole incident just was so upsetting. I know I'm not MOTY but it's so painful to hear that especially in front of your kid. I do think this woman who was dressed sort of oddly with dirty sweatpants, and parked in the handicap spot (with no visible handicap) had something going on so I'm trying to just chalk it up to that, but why do I keep wanting to burst into tears?!
Ds1 told me as we were leaving "she's rude". I also wasn't thinking and took a huge gulp of coffee and burned my tongue. What a way to start my Tuesday.
Yup, someone said that to me this morning in a Starbucks full of people and in front of my two kids.
Ugh, I keep hearing it in my ears and tear up.
So here's what happened: I was in the Starbucks parking lot - there's a few other businesses so it's not a small lot with a few places to go in and out of. I come to an intersection in the lot and it looks as if this car is letting me go first (we made eye contact). Obviously, I was wrong as I make the turn and instantly the car zooms around me super fast and driver gives me the finger. Ok, sorry my bad. I was a little frazzled but whatever it happens.
So I go into the Starbucks with my ds1 and baby and I mobile order so I just go to pick up. From the people waiting line this woman (from the car) says in a loud voice "you are a bad mom". I ignore, because wtf. But she keeps saying it so I calmly say I'm sorry I didn't mean to cut you off I thought you were letting me go. She continues about how I put my kids life in danger etc. everyone is staring and my son is like, is she talking to you?
The lady was with someone else who kind of gave me this "I'm sorry" look but the whole incident just was so upsetting. I know I'm not MOTY but it's so painful to hear that especially in front of your kid. I do think this woman who was dressed sort of oddly with dirty sweatpants, and parked in the handicap spot (with no visible handicap) had something going on so I'm trying to just chalk it up to that, but why do I keep wanting to burst into tears?!
Ds1 told me as we were leaving "she's rude". I also wasn't thinking and took a huge gulp of coffee and burned my tongue. What a way to start my Tuesday.
You are NOT a bad mom! Everyone makes a mistake (and that really wasn't even a big one), and if it has affected her so deeply, she must be pretty unhappy in life. Please do not take what she said to heart. It sounds like your son knows she was in the wrong and doesn't think anything of it. I hope that your day gets better!
Post by junebugmom01 on Jan 26, 2016 13:57:27 GMT -5
R- took the kids to try story time again. DS was a lot better behaved (thank goodness!) I think DD was so excited to get out.
V- my bones have been aching and I have been having almost constant sinus headaches. Can't wait to feel better.
R- Dh is out of town for a couple of days. This means I'm going to be lazy with cooking and most likely taking the kids out for the next couple of nights.
Ugh, gastro, I'm sorry that happened. Whenever I experience people like that I try to remind myself that to act like that, they must have major issues in their life, much worse than I do, and that I should really just feel sorry for them. Be thankful that you and your family are happy and healthy, say a prayer for her (or think a positive thought) and try to forget it.
Post by dizzycooks on Jan 26, 2016 14:01:36 GMT -5
gastro I am so sorry. That's terrible. We all know you are far from a bad mom. You know it too. Clearly your ds knows as well because he was so right, she was terribly rude.
V: I went outside to start my car and take the girls out for the day while they work on my bathroom. Car doesn't start. For now I have no car until dh comes home and jumps me tonight. The kids are climbing the walls and my patience is gone, gone, gone. Aw: nothing. My house is dirty and I'm crabby. R: see above. Why the f won't my car start??
[br
It feels like I have had many of these types of days lately. Hang in there & I hope your day gets better.
Yup, someone said that to me this morning in a Starbucks full of people and in front of my two kids.
Ugh, I keep hearing it in my ears and tear up.
So here's what happened: I was in the Starbucks parking lot - there's a few other businesses so it's not a small lot with a few places to go in and out of. I come to an intersection in the lot and it looks as if this car is letting me go first (we made eye contact). Obviously, I was wrong as I make the turn and instantly the car zooms around me super fast and driver gives me the finger. Ok, sorry my bad. I was a little frazzled but whatever it happens.
So I go into the Starbucks with my ds1 and baby and I mobile order so I just go to pick up. From the people waiting line this woman (from the car) says in a loud voice "you are a bad mom". I ignore, because wtf. But she keeps saying it so I calmly say I'm sorry I didn't mean to cut you off I thought you were letting me go. She continues about how I put my kids life in danger etc. everyone is staring and my son is like, is she talking to you?
The lady was with someone else who kind of gave me this "I'm sorry" look but the whole incident just was so upsetting. I know I'm not MOTY but it's so painful to hear that especially in front of your kid. I do think this woman who was dressed sort of oddly with dirty sweatpants, and parked in the handicap spot (with no visible handicap) had something going on so I'm trying to just chalk it up to that, but why do I keep wanting to burst into tears?!
Ds1 told me as we were leaving "she's rude". I also wasn't thinking and took a huge gulp of coffee and burned my tongue. What a way to start my Tuesday.
Hope your day gets better! It sounds like she was just a butt or had issues going on.
I'm sorry gastro what a horrendous person. I'm so mad for you. Wtf and why would she act like that in front of your child?! I'm sorry that happened but your child's reaction is testament to your stellar parenting. Rude, indeed. If I had been meeting you for a coffee date, I would have told that lady off for you.
Thanks everyone. It's like the worst thing someone could say because I know we all try our hardest to be good parents.
And she probably knew that and that's why she chose to say it. It's an ugly and ridiculous thing to say. Plus, if she was that concerned about your kids' wellbeing, she wouldn't be insulting you in front of them. She was just pissed and taking it out on you. You're an awesome mom!! And your kids saw you deal with someone rude in a kind way (apologizing and explaining) which just proves you're a wonderful mom.
(And P.S. I wouldn't blame you for crying, because it's still a crappy thing to hear even if you know it's not true.) I'm sorry that happened. I think anyone would feel shaken after that.
Holy crap someone just posted on a local FB group wondering what was going on at the high school next door to my kids' school. They say the issue has been resolved but my gawd the thoughts that went through my head...
ETA: "they" are being super vague but so far have said there was a rumor of a threat but as far as they can tell no specific person or people were targeted. Classes have resumed as normal and the investigation is "ongoing".
Post by mamaalysson on Jan 26, 2016 15:32:46 GMT -5
I'm sorry, gastro! That us a horrible way to start your day, and you are of course not a bad mom!! Like someone else up thread said, even in that very incident you showed your DS how to react calmly and kindly when sending is being a royal bitch to you. And you want to cry because that is a horrible thing to hear, even if you know in your bones it's no true and suspect that the person saying it has other stuff going on. It's upsetting and hurtful, and I'm sorry.
Post by mamaalysson on Jan 26, 2016 15:50:57 GMT -5
R: DS has been sitting and playing quietly for the last 20 minutes, which almost certainly means he has pooped. But it's so peaceful.
AW: I went to the fabric store and all of their clearance fabric was 70% off instead of the usual 50%. I bought 15 yards of fabric for just over $5/yd. You can't see me, and I don't know how to convey this, but I am doing a raise the roof happy dance right now.
V: DS is still sick, terrified of the humidifier, and is not sleeping. He also won't take a nap. It's rough around here.
Sorry Gastro, but it sounds like her mom was the bad mom by not teaching her patience, manners and a bit of compassion. Don't let a person like that bring you down.
You are a great mom gastro! What a crazy reaction on her part. You are so strong, I would have probably started voice cracking, tearing up because I was so mad.
R: We have house painters here today so I am currently hiding in my room. I need to shower and dress before DS2 wakes up.
V: DS2's nursing agency has really dropped the ball. I am approved for 40 hrs a week and they have filled 5 over the past 2 weeks. Their communication is awful and they just leave me hanging, thinking I have a nurse coming that never shows. I called Monday when the nurse was 45 minutes late and they said "Oh, she emailed Friday she wouldn't be able to make it." Well, why not tell me that on Friday?
V2: DS2 has to get a THIRD set of ear tubes on Monday. I know it's important since his ear has been bleeding and he's all junky already from just a little fluid but I do worry about putting him under.
I have a V (PDQ) that I just need to get out-so my dad gave us some money several months ago to open an annuity for ds (his only grandkid) and we were planning on setting it up in a month or so as we just didn't have time to get it done. Well, my dad texts my h the other day that he has some debts and wants the money back. First of all, too much to delve into here, but he has a good pension, low overhead and no reason to have debt so wtf to that. Second, he loaned 10k to this young chick he briefly dated and of course she never paid him back and rather than hit her up he asks for money back he gave to his grandkid?! He also told me he "gave" 5k to a friend of his "just to help him out." I am so furious and sad but not about the money, it's deeper than that, it's that when push comes to shove, he always screws family over and I am sick of it. A third thing is what if we had set up the annuity right away?? Would he have made us pull the money-wtf. I'm just so upset and told him that he needs to come get his money and that I never want to discuss money again. Lesson learned. Sorry if that was all over the place but back ground was necessary so I don't sound like a money grubber. My dad has done very little for ds since he was born and I guess the annuity (in my mind) was his way of doing something nice and an olive branch for a terrible history. Apparently not. And apparently other people matter more.
R-craving an espresso frappucino, might need to grab one his weekend.
Aw-ds has consistently been pooping on the potty and I feel like we have officially rounded a corner on that. So happy for him!
Aw2-enrolling ds in a new preschool today to start March 1 since his school is closing and it's closer to my house and accredited so yay.
Aw3-in the spirit of positivity, wanted to add that ds will likely be getting his first haircut this weekend. He will be 3 in March so it's a big deal but I bet he will look cute
Vent: I dont understand why when I have one kid with me and I go places every one is all "congratulations on your pregnancy" BUT when I have all three kids they literally say things like "OMG another kid"……I'm talking about like grocery checkers. Like WTF difference does it make to them either way? Its like all the sudden its a 4th baby so its a burden instead of a blessing? People have such weird logic and no common sense.
I'm having trouble categorizing these, but I think they're both randoms:
- I just ordered DS' birthday gift (Turbo Flip Thomas; he's been asking for it for a while) for pick-up at TRU, and it's 10 bucks cheaper today - woo hoo!
- I just sold my Ameda pump on our local B/S/T and I'm having feelings about it more than I thought I would. I mean, I know we're 99% OAD, and there's roughly a 1% chance I'd ever need it again, but it just felt weird to let it go.