money matters (not the board)

[jennlin]

these are general questions, don't have to answer all...just discussion.

do you know how much money your friends make? parents? do they know how much money you make? what makes you decide on who to share this information with?

[georgeharrison]

Of course this is for James since I don't work.

Up until this new opportunity, it hasn't been a secret how much he made. He journeyed in the union and the rate is the same for everyone. How much he brought home was a different story and varied from week to week depending on overtime. Now that he's doing something different, I don't know that we'll share his salary. I don't know. James is really open about that kind of stuff. Plus, his take home will vary a lot then, too, because of commission.

I do not know how much any of my friends make. My parents would probably tell me if I asked, but I never would.

[madDawg228]

I believe in keeping finances hush hush, so I don't know what any of my friends or family members make, and I don't plan on ever asking.

I only share how much money I make with my H, but I'll freely share what kind of benefits H and I receive with anyone who asks.

[joenali]

You could google my real name (or any teachers name for that matter) and see how much we make.

[jennlin]

most my friends do not know how much money i make. i've told a few, but those were case-by-case. some of my friends have told me how much money they make for some reason or another, but i don't always reciprocate by telling them how much money i make. is that wrong?

my parents think they know how much money i make, but they are way off (they think we make a lot less). i don't tell them because we make considerably more than they do, and don't want them to feel bad. my parents never told us off hand how much they make, but they asked h to help them with taxes, and h saw the numbers.

(this whole thing sparked when a friend of mine was shocked/jealous/upset that i said i could "afford" designer jeans, just choose not to buy them. she told me how much money she made, and said she has never even tried on designer jeans bc she couldn't afford them, then told me how much money she makes.)

[Deleted]

I know what my BFF makes, but she volunteered the information one day when we were talking and I told her how much I make.

If someone that I'm comfortable with asks then I'll tell them, but I don't volunteer the info.

My parents don't know about us and I don't know about them.

[dawnyp]

I don't know how much my friends make and they don't know what I/we make. Some of them know based on our lifestyle that we make more than they do but we never talk specific numbers and I wouldn't want to.

My family doesn't know the exact dollar amount. They know it is over a number they just don't know how far over that number. I think they would be shocked if they knew what we actually bring home.

[fiddles]

You can google H's name and find out how much he makes, it's public record cause he's a civil servant (or whatever it is). That doesn't include his teaching positions. Everyone at his work knows what he makes, cause again it's public knowledge.

H is really the only one that knows what I make. None of our friends really know. I'm sure H's parents think we probably make way more than we do based on spending and vacations. What they don't realize is it's because we save.

If someone asked because they were interested in the field I'm in I wouldn't necessarily tell them exactly what I'd make. Instead I'd give them a range of where they could fall into.

[mkate710]

I'm in the camp of keeping finances quiet.

My BFF and I know roughly what each other make, and our spouses know too. We are pretty open with them. They're really the only ones.

My in-laws think they know, but they have no clue. They like to meddle, so we don't share finances with either set of parents in the name of keeping the inlaws out of it. My dad probably has a rough estimate - he wrote all of our insurance business so he's seen credit scores and whatnot. Thankfully he keeps all of that to a strictly professional level and doesn't get involved or share the info.

[hallows]

I don't know how much any of my friends from NC make, but I know it's less than us. I also don't know how much any of my friends here make because it's not really something I'm comfortable talking about. I was taught that talking money with friends is rude, so I don't ask. I do know how much my parents make because my mom gave me a copy of her spreadsheet once to help me figure out how to set up a budget. It's give or take the same. I don't tell anyone how much H makes. We told close friends the starting amount his company offered because they were curious how much would make us move across the country, lol. We haven't told anyone except his parents since he started work. We only tell them because they're curious and nothing but happy for us.

[FrozenSunshine]

My friends do not know. I do know what some of them make from them volunteering the information.

My parents do know what we make. I also know there finances, since I'm the one in charge of things if anything happens to them.

DH's parents have an idea of what he makes. We know some of his parents stuff, only because they're retired and we know what inheritances they got, etc..

[niq]

Most of my friends fall into four categories: people in technology, people I know from the video game world (playing, not making) that are broke (not everybody playing is broke but you can tell who is), people who are teachers, and "other". It's the other where i have no clue.

I don't know exactly how much dad makes. I know how much mom doesn't make . I've talked about salary with tech friends when trying to recruit but otherwise I don't volunteer it.

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[emyinpink]

most of our friends are in the tech industry, so we have a general idea of what they make/they have a general idea of what we make. we know how much my parents make (they're open about it), know how much DH's mom makes (she's a teacher, so public knowledge), and have no idea how much DH's dad makes except for the fact that it's A LOT, lol.

[BlackCanary]

I don't discuss how much I make with other people. I'm sure anyone could google DH's job and get an idea how he makes.