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buttercup
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nmm: telling kids grandfather getting divorced... Aug 29, 2012 14:29:30 GMT -5

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Post by buttercup on Aug 29, 2012 14:29:30 GMT -5

My fil is getting his 3rd divorce. My kids have known this woman their whole lives and her son as well. (her son is a freshman in HS). They have both been very good to my kids. She has very much been a grandmother to them. The divorce is not pretty and I haven't had any contact with her since we've been told about it.

My question is, how do we tell the kids. Most likely they won't see her or her son anymore and it breaks my heart. They've been asking about them and we've been glossing over it.

Also, I'd like to contact her to at least say goodbye but I know my fil would lose his shit if he found out and I don't need more drama. Still, would you contact her in this situation?

They are still living together at this point. I guess they are figuring out the details.

I may DD. Thanks.

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nmm: telling kids grandfather getting divorced... Aug 29, 2012 14:32:03 GMT -5

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Post by Deleted on Aug 29, 2012 14:32:03 GMT -5

I'd stay in contact with her. I don't think its fair for your FIL to say you can't--he's the one that brought her into your lives in the first place. I'm not saying you have to invite them to the same parties, but its kind of weird to me to just cut off all contact.

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nmm: telling kids grandfather getting divorced... Aug 29, 2012 18:55:32 GMT -5

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Post by ckinla on Aug 29, 2012 18:55:32 GMT -5

I don't see why you can't keep in touch. BF is still close with his Stepmom (divorced from his dad years and years ago) and still visits her house when he's home. He goes to see his stepsisters, but his stepmom as well (and his sisters are now all in college anyway, and not living at home anymore). He calls her on the phone to chat now and then, and she stayed with us when she came to LA for a work conference. Why miss out on a relationship with a person who has been so important to you and your kids?

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buttercup New Member Posts: 57	nmm: telling kids grandfather getting divorced... Aug 29, 2012 19:29:10 GMT -5 Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by buttercup on Aug 29, 2012 19:29:10 GMT -5 Aug 29, 2012 18:50:42 GMT -5 toriwc said: What does your husband think? (I only ask since it is his father.) DH could care less about keeping in touch with them, but feels bad for the kids.
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