Oh god. Is this a true issue? I'm asking in non snark. We are teaching the kids to say ma'am and sir. Damn south and our nice manners!
I agree with themysteriouswife. I'd much rather be called ma'am than hon. Maybe it is just something about southern culture, but ma'am imbues so much more respect than hon -- especially coming from kids.
Post by shostakovich on Feb 4, 2016 14:39:44 GMT -5
I like it when nice older ladies call me hon/honey - it makes me feel all warm and fuzzy.
If men do it, though - rage.
IRT "bless your/his heart," my mom (born and raised in Detroit) always uses it to express gratitude. Like, "I got to the store just as they were closing, but the owner - bless his heart - let me come in and grab what I needed."
I don't love it. Extra annoying when the person who is saying it looks younger than me. But I also don't want to be called ma'am. So I'm just hard to please.
Bingo! That makes me feel so old. It's one thing if say, a 10 year old called me ma'am. But someone around my age or older? No. STFU. We have a client from Florida who calls and uses the word 'honey' and it drives me up a wall. No, dude, I'm not your honey. I'm a professional. My H can call me honey all he wants.
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
Another Baltimore girl here. Yes we have HonFest, Cafe Hon and say welcome to Baltimore Hon, so we are VERY used to being called hon. Doesn't bother me a bit.
Definitely depends context and who is saying it. But usually does not bother me.
I say bless your/his/her/etc heart allll the time but it's almost always meant nicely. A sarcastic bless your heart usually comes across non-verbally from me, lol.
Last week I got a, "I understand the problem perfectly my dear" in an email. From a guy. Who is lower on the food chain than me. His Manager and Team Leader were looped into that one. Big nope to my dear when it's condescending. Sorry Bart.
If anyone ever said any of those terms in London, you know it's them being condescending. So, no. If I'm in the US on vacation, then I don't really care most of the time, unless it's some guy being all 'little lady' on me.
If anyone ever said any of those terms in London, you know it's them being condescending. So, no. If I'm in the US on vacation, then I don't really care most of the time, unless it's some guy being all 'little lady' on me.
Except in taxis, no? I rather like it to be called "luv"/"hon" when I get into a London taxi. It means that I arrived in one of my favorite cities and I find it sweet.
If anyone ever said any of those terms in London, you know it's them being condescending. So, no. If I'm in the US on vacation, then I don't really care most of the time, unless it's some guy being all 'little lady' on me.
Except in taxis, no? I rather like it to be called "luv"/"hon" when I get into a London taxi. It means that I arrived in one of my favorite cities and I find it sweet.
True. I rarely take taxis in London. Luv would be the word they'd use if any.