Habits you want to create or worked to develop

[dizzycooks]

I think I've jumped down the bullet journal rabbit hole and I'm making a list of habits I want to focus on. I feel like it needs to be more specific than 'exercise' because, well, I could make a lot of things as exercise that really wouldn't count. I would do better with something like 'walk 2 miles' or 'eat a green vegetable'. Inspire me. It doesn't have to be exercise related. So far I have 'read', 'devotions', and 'eat out'. Other ideas?

[jag01]

I am working on turning can'ts into cans. If there is something that I want to do, instead of making excuses why I can't do it, figure out ways I can do it.

[thelongroad]

Feb 4, 2016 23:07:08 GMT -5 dizzycooks said:

I think I've jumped down the bullet journal rabbit hole and I'm making a list of habits I want to focus on. I feel like it needs to be more specific than 'exercise' because, well, I could make a lot of things as exercise that really wouldn't count. I would do better with something like 'walk 2 miles' or 'eat a green vegetable'. Inspire me. It doesn't have to be exercise related. So far I have 'read', 'devotions', and 'eat out'. Other ideas?

Forming the desired habits into SMART goals is very beneficial. Vague goals are so hard to achieve because they aren't specific enough and success can't be measured.

For each new desired habit, make it: Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, and Time bound.

[cabbagecabbage]

When I wanted to get physically fit, I made weekly goals of attending the gym at least 3 times. Then I planned out the 3 days and times and classes available. Then I packed my bag the night before.

It took about 4 months to smooth into a more set schedule of "these are my workout times" but I still need to plan if my schedule gets thrown off. If I have to do something during my favorite class, I need to pre-plan the makeup workout for that week.

The motivation is now how good I feel having done it versus how annoyed I am when I skip.

[vettymama]

Feb 5, 2016 10:37:02 GMT -5 @tooshort said:

Thank you for posting this. I've been trying to figure out how to word a post to discuss this. Here it goes:
I'm mean. Like really mean. I snap at H and the kids a lot. I want to learn how to not be mean. Or develop a habit of kindness. I need to do something before all my kids remember of me is the evil mom.

I feel like this too. Like I feel it's a really good day and the boys are playing and getting along fine. Then a fight breaks out and I just snap. I feel terrible afterwards. I don't even feel myself getting that mad but my voice tone definitely reflects it. I do the same to DH.

ETA: I struggle with knowing if it's an anger issue, patience issue, or I'm just mean.

[Deleted]

Feb 5, 2016 10:37:02 GMT -5 @tooshort said:

Thank you for posting this. I've been trying to figure out how to word a post to discuss this. Here it goes:
I'm mean. Like really mean. I snap at H and the kids a lot. I want to learn how to not be mean. Or develop a habit of kindness. I need to do something before all my kids remember of me is the evil mom.

It can be so easy to use a snappy voice instead of calm...so easy and then I'm like "why did I say it like that?! I could have done that much better!?"

Maybe a goal of "praise each child at least 3 times a day for positive behaviors seen"
give each family a hug or kiss at least 4 times a day (breakfast, lunch, dinner, bed)
Do one nice thing for each family each day (make their bed, write a note, clean up a misplaced toy without fussing at them about it)


Sorry if that was meant as a vent and not really asking for suggestions :0P

[Deleted]

My goal needs to be: PUT DOWN THE JUNK FOOD
read at least one book a month
Take one evening a month to go out with the girls

[dizzycooks]

Feb 5, 2016 12:04:51 GMT -5 @tooshort said:

Feb 5, 2016 12:01:20 GMT -5 @sing4mysavior said:

It can be so easy to use a snappy voice instead of calm...so easy and then I'm like "why did I say it like that?! I could have done that much better!?"

Maybe a goal of "praise each child at least 3 times a day for positive behaviors seen"
give each family a hug or kiss at least 4 times a day (breakfast, lunch, dinner, bed)
Do one nice thing for each family each day (make their bed, write a note, clean up a misplaced toy without fussing at them about it)


Sorry if that was meant as a vent and not really asking for suggestions :0P

No, this is really good. I was seriously sitting here considering making myself a sticker chart. Like if I could go without yelling I could earn myself a nice margarita at the end of the day

Your idea is much more tangible, with real concrete goals. I like it.

Idk a margarita is pretty tangible. I'll let you know what I come up with. I'm pretty sure making a pretty journal is really procrastinating other things I need to do.