So you ladies were right

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I ended things with dude last night. I found out he was taking other girls out (which based on our situation was totally fine, they weren't physical...yet). And it totally hit me like a ton of bricks and I knew I had much stronger feelings for him than I had realized and that I was totally WAY to invested in this.

We had a good mature talk about it and he has always been upfront about what he's looking for right now, which is not to commit to one girl except in the physical aspects for safety reasons.

He was like I really want to be your friend, and I was like I can't right now.

I'm seriously devastated ladies. I really didn't expect this to hit me so hard and I really miss him. I'm so incredibly sad.

I am now able to better define what I'm looking for now, which is a committed partner, but someone who I don't integrate into my day to day routine.

This sucks

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Aug 29, 2012 15:28:34 GMT -5 @redvelvet29 said:

oh pdx I am so sorry

I think it's to not be friends and just not to contact him... which will likely be hard.

It will get better in time... you will meet the right person.

Yea I already told him I won't be contacting him and I unfriend him on Facebook, took him out of my phone. I've told our mutual friend not to tell me anything about him.

It's just the most awful feeling. I don't think any other "break up" was this hard. I'm being way melodramtic about it, but I just didn't want to leave my bed this morning. I totes felt like Carrie in the first SATC movie. (except for that whole I wasn't left at the alter thing)

I'm not really even interested in meeting someone. Having a SO isn't that important to me. But sometimes you just meet someone and click...and that's what happened here.

[bullygirl979]

Sorry, pdx...I know it sucks!
Hugs!

[gozf]

I'm so sorry, pdx. Please hang in there.

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Thanks ladies. I'm trying. It's just so hard because we were good friends before all of this and he was totally a big part of my life for a while there. It's weird not having him there. Like tonight we always go to kickboxing together and it's like well that's gone now.

Also my friends are all being total assholes. I've reach out to see if someone would come over and hang out with me tonight to help distract and everyone's like sorry! gotta go to the gym! gotta work late! have a happy hour planned. It just makes it all seem worse.

[achase123]

I'm so sorry! Even though you were trying to hold him at arm's length it generally doesn't work that way, especially after four months.

Hugs to you, no matter what the circumstances that just isn't easy.

You should look into the book I just got done reading "Be Honest: You Weren't THAT Into Him Either". I was kind of knocking it yesterday but it actually made a lot of sense. And I like the way the author wrapped things up at the end.

[wrathofkuus]

You know what? I'm kind of glad he didn't share your feelings. You deserve a guy with all of his good points, plus some goddamned manners. I know you're sad now, but there is so much happiness ahead of you.

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Aug 29, 2012 15:43:22 GMT -5 @redvelvet29 said:

Aug 29, 2012 15:38:09 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

Thanks ladies. I'm trying. It's just so hard because we were good friends before all of this and he was totally a big part of my life for a while there. It's weird not having him there. Like tonight we always go to kickboxing together and it's like well that's gone now.

Also my friends are all being total assholes. I've reach out to see if someone would come over and hang out with me tonight to help distract and everyone's like sorry! gotta go to the gym! gotta work late! have a happy hour planned. It just makes it all seem worse.

that sucks so much.... maybe just go to kickboxing anyway? at a different time...it will make you feel better.

that's the bummer! It's only offered once a week. WTF GYM?

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Aug 29, 2012 15:43:49 GMT -5 wrathofkuus said:

You know what? I'm kind of glad he didn't share your feelings. You deserve a guy with all of his good points, plus some goddamned manners. I know you're sad now, but there is so much happiness ahead of you.

Ha! True, true.

[redredwine]

Dude...I'm SO sorry.

That sucks. I wish I had words to make it better, but all I can say is I've been there before. I HATE being there. It blows.
(BTW- I thought you both agreed to not see other people? WTH dude.) Sending you hugs from down the road.

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Aug 29, 2012 15:46:33 GMT -5 redredwine said:

Dude...I'm SO sorry.

That sucks. I wish I had words to make it better, but all I can say is I've been there before. I HATE being there. It blows.
(BTW- I thought you both agreed to not see other people? WTH dude.) Sending you hugs from down the road.

No we agreed to see other people if we wanted, but not to be physical with them. I KNOW it's totally stupid. Really he didn't do anything wrong.

[stephbfan]

Im sorry but I really think this is best for you even though it might suck right now.
You deserve better!

[usedtobebear]

Ah shit, I'm sorry hun!! Hang in there, the highs and lows of being single and dating I suppose, ugh!

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Aug 29, 2012 15:59:53 GMT -5 @redvelvet29 said:

Aug 29, 2012 15:45:11 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

that's the bummer! It's only offered once a week. WTF GYM?

Just go then! He might not go and then you both will have missed out. Don't let him miss your class that you like!

Or get a new gym or try a new workout studio tonight? Kickboxing only 1x a week?? that is odd! I am sure there are lots of really amazing workout places in Portland.

He's not "making" me miss the class. I just know that I can't see him right now and really doing the class was "our" thing and it just makes me too sad you know? I'm not mad at him and he's totally not being an ass or anything. Just the idea makes me sad.

[heavenly]

I am so sorry you didn't get the end result that you wanted. I think sometimes we want the end result so bad that we close our eyes to what isn't... like Kuus says, you derserve someone who treats you with much respect.

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Aug 29, 2012 17:03:07 GMT -5 heavenly said:

I am so sorry you didn't get the end result that you wanted. I think sometimes we want the end result so bad that we close our eyes to what isn't... like Kuus says, you derserve someone who treats you with much respect.

It's definitely true. I appreciate all the kind words ladies!

[starburst604]

I'm really sorry, I wish we were wrong. Consider this vacancy in your life as an opening for someone more deserving to step into it. Be good to yourself, it's ok to be sad.

[imalwaysme79]

I'm sorry chica

[aliciar6]

*hugs* I'm sorry

[udscoobychick]

*hugs*

[blackkitty]

I'm glad that you were able to end things. ((HUG))