delete or hide from FB?

[heavenly]

So... the guy still never text or responded to my last text since his last message at the beach bonfire last week.

The deaf community is tiny, it is evitable that I will run into him again and we have some of the same friends. I have no respect for him for the way he blew me off.

I am trying to decide which is the more mature thing to do... hide his feed on FB or go ahead and delete him from my friends list?

[Deleted]

I'd just do what's best for you. I opted to just delete dude, because I knew even if I hid him I would still go to his profile to see it and it would be too upsetting.

[starburst604]

If it were me I wouldn't delete him. I reserve deleting for someone who has seriously wronged or hurt me. In your case, yes he kinda sucks but there wasn't anything serious and it might come off like you're all boo hoo over him. Like you said you're bound to see him again, and I'm sure he will get by your coolness toward him that you aren't a fan but in my opinion deleting him makes it a bigger thing than it really is.

[heavenly]

Ahh... you all got good points. I am leaving it on for now and trying to refrain from looking at his profile. I don't want to make things a bigger deal than they are nor boost his ego or make him badmouth me. All good points, I am convinced, thank you.

[lookingup]

I have to say that I think it's really funny how people put so much stock into facebook. If you this guy is a douche and you are no longer interested in being friends with him, why keep him on your facebook? Even if you hide his feed, he can still see yours. And why does he need to see yours? I doubt he really gives a shit what friends you're hanging out with or what you're eating for dinner or what you're doing this weekend.

I guess if you don't care about someone enough to actually keep in contact with them or spend time with them, I just see no point in giving them some sort of window into your everyday life.

How likely is he to notice you deleted him anyway? Also it's not like he'd actually confront you about it if he saw you again.

[BlueBayou]

Aug 29, 2012 18:23:14 GMT -5 lookingup said:

I have to say that I think it's really funny how people put so much stock into facebook. If you this guy is a douche and you are no longer interested in being friends with him, why keep him on your facebook? Even if you hide his feed, he can still see yours. And why does he need to see yours? I doubt he really gives a shit what friends you're hanging out with or what you're eating for dinner or what you're doing this weekend.

I guess if you don't care about someone enough to actually keep in contact with them or spend time with them, I just see no point in giving them some sort of window into your everyday life.

How likely is he to notice you deleted him anyway? Also it's not like he'd actually confront you about it if he saw you again.

THIS EXACTLY. A man who didnt couldn't treat you like a grown adult and be straight with you or even ANSWER you has no need to be a FB friend and privy to your personal information. Who gives a crap how HE may feel about that?? Delete & Block is my two little cents

[heavenly]

Aug 29, 2012 18:23:14 GMT -5 lookingup said:

I have to say that I think it's really funny how people put so much stock into facebook. If you this guy is a douche and you are no longer interested in being friends with him, why keep him on your facebook? Even if you hide his feed, he can still see yours. And why does he need to see yours? I doubt he really gives a shit what friends you're hanging out with or what you're eating for dinner or what you're doing this weekend.

I guess if you don't care about someone enough to actually keep in contact with them or spend time with them, I just see no point in giving them some sort of window into your everyday life.

How likely is he to notice you deleted him anyway? Also it's not like he'd actually confront you about it if he saw you again.

I am kind of going back and forth. This was my original thinking. But do I really want to burn my bridges completely in this small tiny tiny community? Not that I will ever give him a chance again but we share the same sign language interpreters and attend the same social events since there aren't so many of them.

IDK... I feel like deleting him as a way of saying I don't tolerate his crap but on the other hand, we can't hide in this community either. If we ever had to work out this awkwardness between us for any reasons, I don't want to make them harder than they have to be down the line.

[Deleted]

Iwould delete.

[ECB]

Aug 30, 2012 0:30:01 GMT -5 heavenly said:

Aug 29, 2012 18:23:14 GMT -5 lookingup said:

I have to say that I think it's really funny how people put so much stock into facebook. If you this guy is a douche and you are no longer interested in being friends with him, why keep him on your facebook? Even if you hide his feed, he can still see yours. And why does he need to see yours? I doubt he really gives a shit what friends you're hanging out with or what you're eating for dinner or what you're doing this weekend.

I guess if you don't care about someone enough to actually keep in contact with them or spend time with them, I just see no point in giving them some sort of window into your everyday life.

How likely is he to notice you deleted him anyway? Also it's not like he'd actually confront you about it if he saw you again.

I am kind of going back and forth. This was my original thinking. But do I really want to burn my bridges completely in this small tiny tiny community? Not that I will ever give him a chance again but we share the same sign language interpreters and attend the same social events since there aren't so many of them.

IDK... I feel like deleting him as a way of saying I don't tolerate his crap but on the other hand, we can't hide in this community either. If we ever had to work out this awkwardness between us for any reasons, I don't want to make them harder than they have to be down the line.

I understand your line of thinking. This is where I don't understand what FB has become, though. It's a window into your personal life. That's it, nothing more. You can associate w/ people and see them around town without giving them access to your personal life. I don't think removing someone from FB who you aren't close to means you have to now have an odd/uncomfortable relationship. KWIM?

BUT- that being said, I realize that while I think this, many other people do invest so much into FB and what it "means" that if yo ufeel HE will react negatively, then don't delete him yet.

But I will caution yhou in the future, though, about "friending" people (specifically love interests) too quickly.

[stephbfan]

I would delete.

[callunafirefly]

I say hide him from yours and then update your privacy to block everything from him, except for what you don't care what he sees.
I did this with my ex...we are on good terms so I didn't want to delete him, but I don't want him knowing every detail of my life, so he can only see certain things. I don't even think he realizes stuff is hidden from him.