When your kid does a chore but doesn't complete the task up to your standard do you go back after them and "fix" it? For example my boys are supposed to make their beds in the morning. They are 4 and 6 so it obviously doesn't look like a model home. I just leave it figuring they tried. I have friends the go around re doing all of the chores they give their kids and they think I'm weird. I dont think it's good for them to see me "fixing" everything after them. What do you think? What do you do?
DS doesn't have any real "chores" yet, but he does help clean up his toys (which is just throwing things into bins so he manages fine), bringing his plate over to the counter (again, straightforward), and he does help make his bed sometimes. I do go back and straighten it afterwards but that's because of my own OCD tendencies, and the fact that it bugs me if it's not straight. I try not to let him see me, though, because I agree with you: I don't think it's good for kids to see their work being "fixed" if at all possible.
I really have to restrain myself from going around and fixing it. It's just my personality and I prefer to do everything myself so it's done "right." I have really had to learn to relax otherwise my kids will never learn how to do anything.
Some things if they aren't done right I have him help me so that he learns the proper way. Things that aren't done the way I would (e.g. making a smooth bed)
Post by mamaalysson on Feb 11, 2016 10:22:12 GMT -5
Heck no! If I'm asking them to do something it's generally because I don't want to do it. If something is flat out wrong - bowls right-side-up in the dishwasher - I'll fix it. But otherwise, nope.
If he hasn't put in the effort I make him redo it. Like a few months ago he would put away the silverware but spoons where forks go etc, he had to redo the job. Spoon facing the wrong way but in the right slot?- I let it go.
Post by dizzycooks on Feb 11, 2016 11:10:43 GMT -5
I don't fix, but certain things I do check when she's done. She has to tell me she's done and then show me. Then we fix it together and talk about how to get it done properly. I also take a pic when her work is stellar to remind her that she knows how to do it well. Right now this is my daughters bed making skills after 6 weeks of almost daily practice:
Post by lattelady5 on Feb 11, 2016 11:10:46 GMT -5
Nope.
DD's blankets end up on ds' bed and vice versa. She always spreads out and smooths the throw blankets that belong folded at the bottom. She likes it that way and she would know if I went back and "fixed" it. If we're having company that could be in bedrooms I will just make beds so she doesn't get the chance.
On other things, as long as they are trying and not being lazy, I don't worry about it. If they just throw all of the toys in misc. Bins instead if trying to sort them, they have to redo.
I guess it depends on what the chore is. Putting her toys away? Nope, however it gets done is fine with me. I have my preferences but as long as it's picked up I don't care. Making her bed? Yeah, no. That has to be fixed.
i don't redo anything. mostly because i don't care. the job got done. like they put their clean clothes away much messier than i would, but they're put away.