UPDATE. I am so mad. I need perspective. DD and teacher

[macmars45]

I'm a preschool teacher and will be a parent in 3 months. Your DD sounds like a normal 5 yr old. I hope your meeting with the principal and teacher goes well. Definitely mention to principal that teacher thinks you need to get your DD evaluated.

[meganew]

You're not overreacting at all, this teacher sounds like she's ready for retirement. Your kid didn't do anything wrong! And I can't believe she doesn't give you any positive feedback at all and just shits on your kid every time you speak, there's no way the principal would be ok with that. You should definitely loop the principal in.

And I usually hate the whole "Well what were YOU doing while my preshus was misbehaving" but seriously, why the fuck was there a bowl of candy on her desk? In a kindergarten classroom? Psh. She was begging for someone to take it so she could get off on the power trip of yelling.

I hate her. Move classrooms. Lol

[jennistarr1]

I'm baffled, I think what your daughter did was sweet and the right thing. I would simply say you don't agree that this incident indicates a behavioral problem

[WOUNDTIGHT]

Feb 12, 2016 10:21:54 GMT -5 redheadk said:

Teacher AND parent here. I'd be done with this bitch, having completely lost patience, and ask for a meeting in person with the principal.

ETA: She told you to have your chid evaluated? If you want to really go for the jugular, ask the principal how the school handles paying for evaluations that you are told to have by the teacher. Because teachers/admin CANNOT tell you to have your child medically evaluated the way she did.

OMFG. So much this. DO IT. I feel so badly for your DD. She absolutely understands that the teacher doesn't like her, and that's heartbreaking for a kid so young.

[shamrockshake]

ok. I am getting my ducks in a row. We happen to know the sub, she used to teach at my old grade school, I didn't have her but she taught my younger brothers and sister and she was pretty much my moms most favorite teacher of all time. I want to hear her side of what happened with the candy before I email the teacher and principal, according to my DD the sub didn't have an issue and my dd was on green that day, plus she's been the sub frequently so I'd like to see what she has to say in general. My DH called school and left my number and asked for her to call me, they said she's subbing today so they'll pass it along at lunch time

I also put an email into the guidance counselor to see if she could see her and give me her opinion.

[sparkythelawyer]

So, your kid DID ulimately drop the dime on her friend, and is STILL catching a river of shit from Ms. Bitchface? No.

She wants to get the principal involved? Yes. Let's do that. Let's talk ALL about how the teacher has been given tried and successful approaches for dealing with your kid but refuses, and instead wants to have a five year old evaluated for mental health issues. Holy crap.

Where's Joenali when we need her to tell us all about how this teacher is awesome and we just don't understand? :-)

[shamrockshake]

Update bump

[lust2hart]

Aw hail no.

[shamrockshake]

Also, I really want this woman as her teacher, she was sweet and basically everything she said is how I imagine a kindergarten teacher should be

[dexteroni]

omfg at that update. I guess there maaay be a chance that the teacher misunderstood. But even if she did, it sounds like her bias against your DD played a part in her assumptions. And it sounds like there are lots of other examples unrelated to this particular incident. Gather all the examples you can think of and go into that meeting with confidence and determination. Make it clear that it's obvious the teacher has a bias against your DD. Don't let them drop platitudes on you or make you wonder if there's been a misunderstanding, because bullshit to that. She's treating her unfairly, and please tell me specifically what is going to be done to make sure it stops right this second.

[mrssandro]

I would be livid. This needs a meeting. 100% Agree.

[cleo29]

It sounds like this teacher perhaps should work with older kids. I would understand loosing your patience and desire to work with little kids.

I think Cs's teacher last year did not really like her and honestly, that is a really shitty feeling as a parent. I am not blind to C's faults, but please for every area of work needed on the part of my child, tell something great she does. Balance that shit out!

ALso, I could totally see C telling the teacher who took what.

[auntie]

I saw the update.

I'm pissed for your LO and am glad she has a mom with a plan to fix this.

[yourmother]

Just read your update. HELL NO.

And I would let the principal know how unprofessional it is that she recommend that your daughter be evaluated for behavioral issues. I'm making assumptions by reading between the lines at some of the responses that these suggestions made by a teacher are crossing a line.

Take the weekend to gather your thoughts and info and then BURN.IT.DOWN.
I'm so fired up about this.

[JLV]

Holy crap to your update.

I'm sorry your daughter is experiencing such hostility from this teacher. That's absolutely unnecessary.

Good for you for speaking to the sub!

[thatgirl2478]

whoa - yeah - after your update I would be livid and in that principals office spitting fire!

[atlas]

Teacher needs to get out of the game if this is how she reacts to FIVE YEAR OLDS!! Good luck lighting fire to the building

[pip]

Is the school closed today (I know some are)? I would not wait until Monday to call and request a meeting. I would call today (if school is open) and follow-up with an email after your call with the principal.

[Jalapeñomel]

I'd demand a meeting with the teacher and principal. I'd be raging if my child's teacher lied to me.

[cville]

LIGHT IT UP.

[Jalapeñomel]

And your poor kid, wtf.

[intentionalsnarkshark]

Holy nonsenseland, light her shit up.

[hopecounts]

Yep time to,light it up.
Not cool at all.

[pugz]

Bitch needs to retire

[rockpaperscissors]

Time to throw down. Good luck Monday.

[phdprocrastinator]

This makes me sick! After hearing the sub's version of the story, how did the teacher get to "this child has behavioral challenges so severe, she needs therapy?"

I'd at least get an email to the principal today. Is be demanding a new classroom.

Also, if the teacher pushes it, I see no harm to your daughter getting evaluated by the school's assessment team (think special ed), just to have a table of professionals tell her teacher there is nothing wrong with your dd.

[dcannie]

omg, time to retire lady! she is wasting so much of everyone's time with this nonsense! and what is the point?!? to be a dick to a kid? wtf?

eta: i don't even have kids and i'm pissed about this. i would not be able to contain myself from calling the teacher, "maybe YOU have severe behavioral challenges!" 

[meganew]

Yup, time to burn it down

[WOUNDTIGHT]

You don't need perspective. You need a lighter.

[Deleted]

Holy shit to your update. Burn it all down