Update to my cheating post from last week

[doriswe]

I emailed my friend to check up on her and she told me that she's going to try and work it out with her husband....even though he's cheated on her multiple times....for years. I told her I will support her in whatever she decides and told her both roads (leave or stay) will have their share of obstacles and I'd always be there for her if she wants to talk. I'm so sad for her because she deserves so much more.

[turtle1120]

You're a good friend. Do they plan on going to counseling? What is the plan for working it out with him?

I personally, would not be able to move past cheating. Not even if it was once, and especially not if it was multiple times.

[doriswe]

Aug 30, 2012 11:02:43 GMT -5 turtle1120 said:

You're a good friend. Do they plan on going to counseling? What is the plan for working it out with him?

I personally, would not be able to move past cheating. Not even if it was once, and especially not if it was multiple times.

She didn't say what the plan was and I didn't ask. They did all of that the first time around and it didn't seem to work.

[achase123]

That makes me so sad. I will never understand why people settle for treatment like that

[starburst604]

I'm sad for your friend. You're a good friend for supporting her decision, I would have a hard time holding my tongue! He is never going to change.

[turtle1120]

I was going to ask if this was the first time she learned of his cheating, and maybe just needed time to process and get the courage to leave. If they've already done counseling and he's done it again, I can't think of a single reason why she would want to stay other than fear of the unknown and not having enough confidence in herself.

[BlueBayou]

Ugh such a difficult position. I have a friend whose husband has cheated on her twice in the last two years AND got one of the women pregnant!!!! They (my friend and her hubs) have three kids together. She has decided to stay and work on it as well. All I see is hurt coming, but I told her the same. Ill be there no matter what.

[doriswe]

Aug 30, 2012 11:32:05 GMT -5 turtle1120 said:

I was going to ask if this was the first time she learned of his cheating, and maybe just needed time to process and get the courage to leave. If they've already done counseling and he's done it again, I can't think of a single reason why she would want to stay other than fear of the unknown and not having enough confidence in herself.

From what she's shared with me, he cheated on her for YEARS (prior to their marriage and in the first few years). They did counseling then and he sounds like a dick and everytime she says something about it he gives her the whole "you're never going to let this go, are you?".

I think she's scared of being alone, to be honest. She's 33-34 and has been with him most of her adult life.

[naeljun]

I'm sorry but I really don't have much respect for women who stay with men who cheat. Especially those with children. What type of lesson are you showing them?

[naeljun]

I'm sorry but I really don't have much respect for women who stay with men who cheat. Especially those with children. What type of lesson are you showing them?